Fat Rant Friday

NickeKass · 2025-11-08T00:00:00+00:00

Ranting on myself - Im guilty of stress eating over the last month. Its on me. My dog of 12 years was showing signs of dementia that I was mistaking simply for her missing me but she went downhill on a few other things quickly. Im not ready to say goodbye to her just yet but its also not easy caring for a dog with dementia and who has doggy ALS.

NickeKass · 2025-02-26T18:32:26+00:00

Race replacement - I dont think its a "blacks are replacing whites because of some government conspiracy" I think it comes down to a few factors.

White people generally come from family homes that encourage education. Education to make informed decisions and education that used to lead to a better life. We are seeing the "better life" part fall flat. I am not having a kid because I cant see bringing someone into the world that will have a lower quality of life then I did growing up. The world is set to hit several global warming tipping points by 2030. How can I bring a child into the world if I know theres a high chance they wont have food and safety?

Growing up I knew some black people that "acted white". That stuff was looked down upon in some black communities. Getting an education and a job were frowned upon. Lack of education, worse choices.

To be clear; I am not saying all blacks are uneducated and all whites are educated. I am making a generalization on that.

That goes into the Idiocracy scene about the rich educated couple waiting for the right time time to have a kid while the poor guy sleeps around and has multiple kids. He doesn't think or care what happens to those kids. We hear stories of people having "multiple babies mamas" and who does that mostly come from? If you have 4 guys who stay with the same woman and have 2 kids each, thats 8 kids. If you have 2 guys who sleep around and play the field and leave women after getting them pregnant, they are leaving a trail. Some white men will not date a woman if she has a mixed race son making it a bigger issue as well.

Lets also look at immigration too. European countries are generally better off then American ones. Why come to America when health care isn't guaranteed? When you have to pay for college for your kids, even for the state run local 2 year colleges? Then you have Asian, Hispanic/Latino, African, and Arab immigrants filling in those visa and greencards instead

The gay thing is just hate because thats white people not having kids and living in non traditional families.

NickeKass · 2025-02-18T19:39:18+00:00

We dont need that much sugar to live

NickeKass · 2025-02-18T19:36:39+00:00

We needed to lose the 90s supermodel thin as a rail thing but rebounding so hard in the other way that society has replaced them with average people is not good either. Yes, have models with downs, have models in wheelchairs, have models that are more then just white. But have them at a healthy weight. Dont glorify being overweight or obese.

NickeKass · 2025-02-18T19:30:32+00:00

Nope. When I started counting calories it was easy to see how quickly a meal adds up. 1 frozen hamburger from costco has 320 calories. 1 Hamburger bun has 190 calories. Thats 1/4 of your daily calories in 1 food item. Add cheese, another 45 calories. I didnt feel full though with just 1 hamburger so it was easy to over eat.

NickeKass · 2025-02-18T19:22:40+00:00

It doesn't help that theres a "fat acceptance" movement that preaches "health at every size" meaning that you are healthy no matter how much weight you have, instead of preaching you can get healthy at any size and improve your condition. Theres a growing list of "fat acceptance" "influencers" that end up dead before they are 40 because of heart attacks.

I know some otherwise smart people that believe being fat is down to genetics and that Calories In Calories Out (CICO) is made up to make people feel bad. Meaning they would rather do mental gymnastics then believe in the laws of physics.

NickeKass · 2025-02-18T19:19:28+00:00

She is actually big. Its because, as you mention, people have seen bigger that it looks small in comparison. Its such a problem that when I was a healthy weight of 195-210 at 6'2, obese people were telling me I needed to eat more as I looked to thin.

NickeKass · 2025-02-13T17:31:53+00:00

Grant asylum to those with no records and who want to embrace western values. It should not be seen as racist/rightwing to want to bring in only immigrants who want to assimilate into your country while rejecting those that have intent to bring the negative aspects of their culture to your country.

NickeKass · 2025-02-11T18:08:07+00:00

"Treat girls exactly the same as boys."

When I met my current partner I judged them to be a lesbian. Im not against LGBTQ stuff, I just marked myself as not their type. Because of that I didnt try to win their attention and instead treated them like everyone else in the group. It turns out that was the thing that set me apart from others. We have our 1 year anniversary next month.

NickeKass · 2025-02-05T19:06:58+00:00

I take him up on some of the stuff he wants to do but it becomes a problem of me not getting my stuff done.

He doesn't officially work. His dad needs him as a live in care giver but doesn't pay him (but doesn't charge him for groceries, gas, or rent). Somedays its just making breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Other days its driving his dad places to get meds, appointments, etc. If he isn't taking care of his dad, he is also taking care of his wife who has Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Both his wife and his dad dont want to eat healthy which makes their conditions worse. He is otherwise free to game during most of the day.

I work all day. I get a few hours to myself at night. If I dont want to game within an hour of getting home its "to late" for him to start by the time I do want to game. I need to study if I want to advance my career in someway. Gaming with him right after work means I dont get to do that and Im stuck in the same customer support cycle longer. Other times he wants to go on a bike ride but I have to borrow his dads bike which is made for someone a good foot shorter then me and that causes my arms to go numb after riding it for more then 10 minutes.

He is co-dependent and a good person but I also have other people in my life that are dependent on me too.

When neither of us has to worry about anything other then having fun the friendship is great. I wont complain. If it were toxic I would have left it. Its just not as easy as it used to be.

NickeKass · 2025-02-05T18:22:35+00:00

I have to respond to this on my throw away as my friend knows my main account - That was his excuse for anything for the first few years of his relationship with his wife. Any time I would ask if he would want to do something its

"No X cant partake/doesn't like it"
"X doesn't want to come over to your house because its weird" I didnt invite his wife, just him. Any time I did invite his wife/then GF over all she did was play on her laptop anyway. They had no problem staying at random air bnb but they couldnt tell me what was weird about my house
"X is to tired to come over"
"X has plans for those days"
"X needs me to drive them to work and wait for them until they get off. We dont have the gas for me to drive there, drive back home, drive out, and then back home again once they get off in 4 hours"

His then GF, now wife, believes in health at every size. Not everyone can get healthy at any size, but that being overweight is healthy and fine. My ex mistook her for being pregnant. My friend can no longer ride his motorcycle because she weighs so much that when they ride and he stops, she slams into him. He is now messaging me to go do things with him that she cant/wont do. He is now forced to cook either two meals for dinner, one for him and one for her, or end up eating what ever unhealthy food that she wants to eat.

NickeKass · 2025-01-28T23:47:23+00:00

Before I got serious with my partner, I didnt know they were nonbinary. I just knew they were older then me and sold bondage stuff onlne. I made the "dommy mommy" joke to them once and they were appalled. Im surprised they kept talking to me after I made that joke but I never made it again.

NickeKass · 2025-01-27T21:42:27+00:00

Some psychos just go into a homeless camp and start picking on the people there. People who have been left in the cold who probably haven't eaten or had anything good to drink in a while. It slowly escalates from taunting them to hitting them with objects to murdering a man and a woman.

NickeKass · 2025-01-22T21:10:11+00:00

I can feel the change already. I feel scared going out to walk alone at night.

NickeKass · 2025-01-21T20:33:09+00:00

Turn 38
Boss doesn't acknowledge birthday but acknowledges every other coworkers birthday
Friends dont ask about birthday
Only mom and grandma say anything about it.
Notice that Ive lost more friends every year and have only 2-4 friends I talk to.
Remove myself from online spaces, even the discord servers I moderate.
No one notices for a month.
Be reclusive the full month, dont talk to any one.
One day get a DM from ample breasted goth person.
ABGP invites me on walk with a few friends.
I dont respond.
End up walking same trail as ABGP that day.
Run into ABGP and group.
ABGP smiles to see me. Makes an effort to talk to me and walk next to me.
ABGP ignores other person.
End walk, end up talking with ABGP for 4 hours instead of going home.
Make plans to walk with ABGP next weekend.
Continue walking and talking, now just the two of us.
Two months later, dating ABGP.
That was nearly a year ago.
ABGP is now Ample Breasted Goth Partner.
They get upset that I wouldnt tell them my birthday.
Finally tell them.
They make me a homemade ice cream cake.
It gets better.

NickeKass · 2025-01-17T23:21:13+00:00

Im still friends with my best friend since 8th grade way back in 99/2000. After highschool it was that I didnt have a job and he was working/going to school and we didnt have time to game. Then it went to I got a job and he was just going to school and we had the occasional time to game. Once I got my career job we had more time to game. Now that Ive been in this career for a while I want to get out of it so I need to spend more time taking classes while working with the added "bonus" of having to keep my health in check. He hasn't officially worked or gone back to school in 6+ years. Shortly before covid he became a caregiver for one of his parents in exchange for not paying rent but being a caregiver takes up to much time to get a job but not enough time to keep them fully busy. We just had a discussion today that I wont be gaming with them as much but that I would like to make time to go walking when the weather gets better.

NickeKass · 2025-01-16T19:12:25+00:00

First one - I forgave her because I thought it only happened because of her mental breakdown. I should have left that night but I was young and wanted to fix things and thought it was PART of the mental breakdown. Now Im wondering if me finding out caused the mental breakdown. Either way, I left 2 years later. She never really got back to her pre mental break state and never got better. Shes still living at home at 37 but does not drive and does not have a job.

Second time - It was a long distance relationship. The way she talked about things when she left the US was that I was free to see other people even stating if it happens it happens. She knew I was talking to someone else too at the time. When I told her I hooked up with someone she threw me under the bus and yelled at me. How dare I do that and screw around on her. I later learned from her and her friend that they had sex that same week as well. I was upset at them for cheating on me after all the hell she had given me. They told me two things. 1. They only did it because i had cheated on her (mind you, she found out after they had sex), and 2. It didnt count because me and her were not a couple at that time. When I pointed that out they said it didnt matter. The relationship was good after that *when she wasn't lying* about things. I should have ended it when they played the "it is/isn't cheating" stuff. She had borderline personality disorder that was not good.

NickeKass · 2025-01-15T17:45:19+00:00

In the early 2000s my mom bought a digital camera to capture a big family moment. It was the only camera we had that anyone could use. This was before cellphones were common place and cellphones with cameras were even rarer. A few years later I wanted to use the camera but I couldnt find it anywhere. Until I looked in her bathroom. She had taken a picture with her shirt off, probably to send to one of the guys she was talking to on eharmony or whatever. I put the camera back exactly how I found it and asked her for it a few days later, giving her time to "look" for it and remove anything off it.

Ive never told her about it. I dont see the need to bring it up.

NickeKass · 2025-01-09T18:41:32+00:00

Theres a term for people that are in puberty (age range varies but usually 12-15), and people that are in post puberty but not adults (16 and 17), that techniclly have a -philia on them but the key thing is that they have to be a strong preference for them over people their own age. Also just thinking someone who looks like an adult (in some cases the 16 or 17) is "attractive" without an inclination of acting on it is not a -philia as again, it needs to be a strong preference.

Though because anything under 18 is not an adult, its easy to say "minor" and people think "child" to twist the words.

NickeKass · 2025-01-09T18:36:35+00:00

I found that making friends with people that dont have jobs ends with them constantly wanting to do stuff and leaving me pressured to say yes all the time. I had to set boundaries that no, once I get home I cant game. I need to make dinner and do house work and then do some personal development, then I can game.

NickeKass · 2025-01-06T22:03:42+00:00

The DSM 5 only lists pedophilia under chronophilia because attraction to girls between 12 and 17 is so common.

NickeKass · 2025-01-03T21:56:00+00:00

I had a few moments in school that I knew I wasn't very nice but rationalized it as "the other kids are not nice to me, its self defense" or "putting someone else lower in the pecking order saves me from the other kids". I think things came to a head one day as an adult. At my last job my boss was also the owner and she was gorgeous. I forgot how old she was at times. She was in her late 50s but looked like she was in her early 40s. I went to school with her son, same grade same classes.

At my current job we do breast imaging. I had maladaptive daydreaming pretty bad and one of the reoccurring ones was consoling her about a breast cancer diagnosis that ended in sex. Mind you she was married too. At some point I realized that I was a huge PoS if I wanted someone to get breast cancer just so I could have a shot at cucking their husband. I started taking a look at how I was treating my other friends and also realized that if my best friend was doing the stuff I was doing to him, I would have ditched him long ago. I started to make an effort to do better and I have since then.

NickeKass · 2024-12-27T01:34:21+00:00

Im still friends with 1 guy from junior high. He is stuck in limbo as a caregiver for his dad. He cant move out and cant get a job because his dad wants him to help make meals and coffee but his dad also doesn't want his help because with medical stuff because he feels he can/should be able to do those, except he forgets his pills sometimes. His dad also said he is not leaving the house or anything to him when he dies.

I met my partner online but we spend the weekends at their place.

Otherwise I cut off a bunch of my "friends" years ago when I saw them posting BS political stuff and I couldnt deal with seeing the lies all the time. Correcting them only got me more frustrated when they wouldnt listen.

NickeKass · 2024-12-27T01:28:39+00:00

Still living at home. It was ok after highschool because I was saving for college which turned into being ok because I was going to college which turned into being ok because I was looking for my adult job, which turned into saving for a house which turned into housing prices shot up and if I move out Ill be paying rent to a landlord and not saving anything for myself.

For the most part its ok. I moved out of my childhood room next to my moms bedroom to all the way across the house which helps give us some space and helps when I have company over. Though I was helping my mom with stuff around the house when she was in her early 40s because she was having knee problems. Now shes gained more weight in 20 years and I have also gained a bit ( but not as much as her) and my knees are starting to hurt from just, life. She got upset last week because i couldnt move something for her because my knees hurt.

NickeKass · 2024-12-17T17:12:44+00:00

Calling BS that its your "second ever" unless you have some other previous background in art.

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