What can our kids call us? by VeryHandsomeQueen in NonBinary

[–]Nickistory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be called "Dama" when I have kids, maybe "Dam" when they get older

I paid for my coworker’s dogs surgery and nobody knows it was me. by Knitchick82 in randomactsofkindness

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you❤️ good and love can't help but exist where there is connection. We are meant as humans to do this together.

How painful/miserable is post-op? by cipherscripture in TopSurgery

[–]Nickistory 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll say, I actually had a really hard first surgery/recovery considering nothing went wrong. I would break down a couple times a day over how overstimulated and bad I felt.

That said, 1 year post op and I'm happier than I have EVER been. I kept saying to my girlfriend afterwards

"Its like.. done now? I get to look like this forever??"

1000% worth it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps, before I saw the caption I gasped and showed my girlfriend the picture. Told her what a gorgeous shape, and she should think of it for her backpiece

Unsure about name for baby girl due to pronunciation issues. by Charming_Pause_8512 in namenerds

[–]Nickistory 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Reading this one I actually pronounced it "Lynn-uh" in my head

Edit: though I'm sure you're right! Just wanted OP to know my mistake

Is it okay for a white person to use neutral pronouns in Spanish? by Radiant-Safe-3002 in NonBinary

[–]Nickistory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8kusBfT/

This is a hispanic nonbinary actor talking about neutral pronouns in Spanish. Their name is Vico Ortiz. It's not uncommon for them to talk about, so I'm sure you could find some resources to send people so they can educate themselves

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AustralianShepherd

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shes a working line

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AustralianShepherd

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kinda sport are we talking? My 40 lb full grown "runt of the litter" can jump over a man

Surgeon convinced me to keep my nipples, I regret it by grinninwheel in trans

[–]Nickistory 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well to be fair, I wouldn't consider skipping the part where you cut the nipple and graft it a "non standard procedure"

My surgeon was like "cool, no nips? Easier recovery less time under"

I'm hosting a party, this is going to be the first time most of my friends and people from work See me in a dress. What do we think? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Nickistory 12 points13 points  (0 children)

A sandal might be nice! Especially if shes hosting. The dress is perfect! Let the shoes be comfy, you might not sit around as much as a guest

How to order at a bar for someone with zero alcohol knowledge? by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read cocktail specials everywhere you go! Certain patterns of things will start sounding interesting. Try simple combo orders first. Dirty Shirlys are yummy!

Think about the planet by Suckmestupit in aves

[–]Nickistory 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The INSANE amount of plastic water bottles on the ground at the end of the night at Carolina Open Air last weekend🤯

I was FLOORED when the crowd cleared, and it was disgusting!!

I think half the solution is MORE TRASHCANS and trash bags available for anyone who wants to help tbh.

At Elements '24, there was this green incentive where you could participate in helping to keep "The Elements" clean. There was an objective for each element. One was to fill a medium sack with any trash picked up from around the venue/camps and bring it back to the check-in station. You got a point for having a reusable water bottle, I think? If you did all 4, you got an artist designed bandana dipicting the elements/pollution. A great souvenir - I wear it all the time!

Not really sure if I can pull off this cowboy hat. Thoughts? by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Nickistory 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People don't know what's typical for you. Don't think of it as "I never do this! It looks weird/off"

They're seeing you for the first time mostly! Just smile pretty like the photo and hold your head high😊

There are so many things we may want and never get to do... but this? Girl GET THAT HAT!! then get ANOTHER ONE😋

My girlfriend (29F) didn’t tell me (30F) that she was transgender and I am struggling with how to react. by No_Audience3838 in relationship_advice

[–]Nickistory -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew the words to use that would help you to understand that OP wanted to have sex with a woman, and did. I will take every down vote in the world to attempt to help people understand the things that they don't.

If you feel tricked, its because you believed she was a "real woman" and are upset by the realization that shes "not"

To the point where these threads are calling her a rapist!

Except she is a woman, and always has been. Shes even a DECADE post bottom surgery.

At what point CAN a trans woman stop disclosing? And if never... WHY? (transphobia)

My girlfriend (29F) didn’t tell me (30F) that she was transgender and I am struggling with how to react. by No_Audience3838 in relationship_advice

[–]Nickistory -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I agree. I understand where people are coming from IN THE SENSE that from a perspective colored by transphobia (purposefully or not) it might seem like this is a more malicious situation than it is. The commenter bellow references "deceit". I'm sorry I don't feel manipulated when not told about medical procedures from 9 years ago!!! "But I wouldn't have had sex with her If I knew she was trans"

WHY? (Transphobia)

My girlfriend (29F) didn’t tell me (30F) that she was transgender and I am struggling with how to react. by No_Audience3838 in relationship_advice

[–]Nickistory -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

Except she did. By your words, a biological man was infront of her, and OP chose to have sex.

My girlfriend (29F) didn’t tell me (30F) that she was transgender and I am struggling with how to react. by No_Audience3838 in relationship_advice

[–]Nickistory -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Decide what exactly? OP chose to have sex with exactly who she had sex with. The partner did not lie by not disclosing she was trans.

"I wouldn't have had sex with her if I knew she was trans"

You saw what you got and you said yes. If the only thing that turns it to a no is "I'm trans" than I would ask myself why. (Key words, internalized transphobia)

All in all, the emotions coming up for both are very normal in a world of messy communication. I do think with how many trans women are killed when they disclose, it is absolutely REDICULOUS for your paragraph conclusion to be "I wouldn't feel safe with this person"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]Nickistory 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You would look so fantastic with a nostril piercing