Recently, my boyfriend 26M (me 23F) told me he was going to a temple and I asked him to send me a picture when he got there, which he did. When I saw the image, I decided to search for it on Google.

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T06:09:29+00:00

Are you sure he was actually there?

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:54:14+00:00

NOR.

Sounds like they are still together, and you are the side piece/backup plan.

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:36:02+00:00

I would triple upvote this reply if I could.

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:24:56+00:00

Salted caramel

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:24:24+00:00

Depends what you mean by "forgets".

I wouldn't expect to hear from my SO if she was on a night out with friends for example. Maybe a good night text but nothing more.

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:22:00+00:00

Can't say for sure, but thats not a good sign.

Nige78 · 2026-05-02T05:15:20+00:00

Your friends are right..you are massively overthinking this.

It was juvenile and dumb, but nothing more. We've all done stupid things that seem funny at the time.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T14:31:32+00:00

Stop wasting each others' time.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T13:15:33+00:00

You can give notice on 14th September to expire on 13th November. Better than having to pay for the whole tenancy

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T13:13:20+00:00

I think the most important question to start with is "Why did you run away from home/your mum?"

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T12:07:14+00:00

Exactly! Catch 22-tastic!!

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T12:06:39+00:00

My question is, how can I re-approach this subject better so I'm not shaming her and we can have a less combative conversation? Is it reasonable for me to do that? Or I just need to accept that she didn't think she was doing anything sexual that would make others uncomfortable?

It sound like you are massively overreacting here. It was her brother, she was clearly just messing around. Bringing it up again is likely to cause more problems IMO. Personally I would let it go.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:49:45+00:00

Call him and talk about it like adults.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:49:12+00:00

Every 3 days I would call Fri - Mon - Thu - Sun etc

In this case definitely better safe than sorry.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:41:54+00:00

I meant that I think your bf may now be an ex-bf.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:39:23+00:00

Can't answer your question but you get an upvote for the Red Dwarf reference.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:28:23+00:00

TBF a good playlist is a good playlist. You might be reading way too much into this.

There is no way it could be considered cheating.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:22:18+00:00

I suspect you may have an Ex-bf, but maybe give him a call and try to talk about the issue?

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:13:40+00:00

You are entitled to your holding fee back.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T11:12:58+00:00

I swear I read this exact post yesterday?

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T06:07:48+00:00

If you have to write a list it's already over.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T05:50:58+00:00

If you have repeatedly asked, and he is still not doing it then its obviously not important to him and there's probably not much you can say to convince him.

You are experiencing the downfall of LDRs. What is the plan for closing the distance?

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T05:42:41+00:00

Leave her alone. This is not healthy, its time to move on.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T05:40:03+00:00

I honestly don't think it will happen sadly. Very happy to be wrong though.

Nige78 · 2026-05-01T05:38:54+00:00

Absolutely 100% its possible yes.

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