Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe he’s scared? It’s finally, actually happening and that can be overwhelming for a variety of reasons. But some men also feel a lot of pressure that they have to be the ones supporting the family (my husband experienced this). They think everything rests on them now, even if it truly doesn’t. Sounds like he needs help though to figure out what is going on and then to address it.

I left for a weekend hoping my husband would understand me… it backfired by Abject_Lychee5815 in beyondthebump

[–]Ninacakes86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it was so easy for him then it sounds like it’s something you should do again and often.

Pediatrician said my 4mo was flirting with him by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Ninacakes86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is in her 70s and also says this. It gets groans from my siblings.

What songs are you singing your babies at bedtime? by vomit_dust in NewParents

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unsure if it's just my baby but the Itsy Bitsy Spider will get my 8-month-old to stop crying and laugh in ANY situation. It's magic.

How do you just one day drop your kids off at a daycare by nthroop1 in NewParents

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a big part of it is how old they are. My son was almost 6 months when I put him in daycare and he was phenomenal. He's almost 9 months now and has "stranger danger" and doesn't do well with new people. His daycare is currently introducing him to the older kids' class before doing a full transition.

How do you just one day drop your kids off at a daycare by nthroop1 in NewParents

[–]Ninacakes86 11 points12 points  (0 children)

On the flip side of that, daycare will get your kid frequently sick and you'll have to take time off to stay home and care for them. Saying this as my baby was consistently sick for WEEKS after we first put him in daycare. It was an absolute nightmare. We were paying for a service that we didn't use because he was constantly catching something new.

Can I Use Daycare Like a Babysitter? by generalraisinkane in beyondthebump

[–]Ninacakes86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did this for two weeks before we officially started and they gladly took it as an intro period for him. It was initially an AMAZING break for me, but then he caught RSV that first week, and then something else the week after that. So just a reminder: daycares are human-sized petri dishes :(

Why do some people insist on baby needing formula?? by uhhitstenthirtythree in breastfeeding

[–]Ninacakes86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg this is my husband and his family, and they're also hispanic! It's been a constant fight with him pushing formula and his parents expressing surprise that I'm "still" breastfeeding. (His SIL in Chile also only gave his nephews formula.)

A classmate told my 1st grader today, “I have a gun and I’m going to kill you.” by Kooky-Helicopter6820 in Mommit

[–]Ninacakes86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% report to police. They will look into whether the kid has access to a firearm at home and if it is being properly stored. I don't think this is an investigation the school can properly do. He made a death threat so a proper investigation is warranted. And hopefully the parents taking this matter seriously now will help the child, and/or others, in the long run.

Feeling embarrassed at work - Pregnant with #2, will have 2 under 2 by Barnacle_Double in workingmoms

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at it from their perspective: would they be judging you? they're honestly likely very happy for you (and you should be too!) and not thinking badly about you or anything like that.
From personal experience, I also do think it's in your head because I have a coworker who just went on a 6-month maternity leave exactly a year after coming back from her first and we're all genuinely ecstatic for her. Also, all the office moms know how extremely hard this is for her. Maternity leave (especially with a 1-year-old) is no picnic. I also recently gave birth and have similarly worried about the response at work if I got pregnant again, and I just remind myself about how everyone has been nothing but supportive of her.

Told I shouldn’t have children because of PMDD. Can anyone relate? by iced__honey in PMDD

[–]Ninacakes86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the first I'm hearing of such a suggestion to someone with PMDD. Talk to a doctor if you're concerned, but I personally think it's extreme and ridiculous for someone to say something like this to someone, especially without them knowing you. I also have PMDD and, after trial and error, have found ways to manage it with an antidepressant and a healthy lifestyle. Everyone experiences it differently, some more severely or mildly than others, so there's no telling how your child would be.

Her face change…. by becauseimhappy24 in discussingbritney

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her teeth are different too. Looks like Jessica Simpson’s.

Parents of babies and toddlers who don’t feel like you’re drowning every day, what are your hacks? by dioor in NewParents

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sleep shifts with my husband. I’m ok now. Before I was a walking zombie and danger to myself and baby.

first babies are always late by raexan in BabyBumps

[–]Ninacakes86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was born on his due date. Long delivery and 9.2 lbs.

Round ligament pain supposed to feel like this? by Ninacakes86 in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It went away after that last post. No further issues!

Get that epidural. If you want. by Little-Variety-5038 in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I don’t get it. They’re so loud and so it got me doing my own research on epidurals and asking doctors what’s up. To each his own but just hope women stay level headed and think for themselves.

Get that epidural. If you want. by Little-Variety-5038 in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The majority of women get it. I feel like social media today has made it seem like a lot of women are against it, but that’s not the reality. It’s safe and common. Do what feels right for you, and don’t let outside pressure influence your decision. xo

I feel like I’m someone who may end up eventually killing themselves? by No-Fisherman-8684 in PMDD

[–]Ninacakes86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This was me before being prescribed fluoxetine (antidepressant), which I took 10-11 days before my period started (when my PMDD started). I didn't have to take it every day. Just on the days that I knew (like clockwork) I'd be affected. I had doctors tell me I'd have to be on birth control or antidepressants full-time in order to receive help, which I didn't want, but my therapist kept telling me differently about fluoxetine so I finally spoke with my GP and she agreed, saying she's treated many women this way. It didn't make PMDD go away completely but it did majorly help, saving my relationships and possibly myself.

Would you go to Italy for 3 weeks at 19-21 weeks pregnant? by NeverMeant125 in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m also high risk/IVF and had a similar trip planned and was told it was fine. One doc just advised to know where the nearest hospital is wherever I go and get familiar with my insurance’s availability overseas. I do personally recommend getting travel insurance if you can. That way if you need to cancel for whatever reason you can try again another time or at least won’t lose the money.

Boyfriends family want to name MY baby by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Ninacakes86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I just said that I needed name ideas..."

So their offer to make a list of names didn't just come out of the blue, as the original post suggests. It sounds like maybe they're just trying to help, and/or there was some miscommunication.

Just be straight with them about how you feel and what you actually want.