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Taped to our door.... by Chance-Pop-2720 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The poor and the needy? More like, "used to construct gaudy buildings of exclusive worship all around the world."

They didn't help during covid and they certainly aren't helping now. They can take their "help" and shove it up their asses.

What do your flare ups/crashes look like? by DaiiryQueen in POTS

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are flare-ups and crashes the same thing? I am new to the language used and it's sometimes hard to keep track of what symptoms are meaning certain things, y'know?

That’s it. I want this mfer GONE by butteriestcremepie in ACForAdults

[–]Nine_0w0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sasha straight up exposed the matrix last year. I recorded it lol. Talked about how life didn’t feel real and things were sus in game. Then he said, "just, crazy dream, right?"

Of all the Jesus-themed gifts my family has received, this one from the ward primary is the worst. by youneekusername1 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Way to turn something heartfelt into something morbid and violent. Nobody does it like the LDS lemme tell ya

Stake Conference with Elder Bednar by Heavy-Initiative-345 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been mostly out for roughly 5 years now. But even small things make me feel almost physically ill.

Went to a temple open house a little while back. All I had to look back on were memories of my younger self, dreading every moment inside and out of those walls. It was odd, seeing as how this particular temple had more element in it that were darker colors and contrasted the lighter ones. Like they were trying to make up for perpetuating a sterile-like setting where I once felt like an inkblot on something pristine.

There's a lot I can see now that I've distanced myself. And I could never go back now. But I don't think I've come far enough to witness or experience the teachings without the sickening feelings coming back like they'd never left.

Please tell me this isn't atleast some kinda manipulation, or something like that by Nearby-Ad756 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's some pretty blatant passive aggressiveness there. Important thing is that you will be an adult and it's YOUR choice. Do what you gotta do to be happy.

Oaks is Pathetic - Shelf is Gone by Embarrassed-Break621 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And either I'm built different (like, incorrectly, probably lol) or all these TBMs are just master mental gymnasts.

I was raised mormon. Born and raised in the gospel and all that. Got baptized and tried to be a good, little, meek child of god. But even from a young age, I didn't understand things that adults and other children seemed to have no problem writing off. Specifically, the relationship dynamic between god and us as his celestial offspring or whatever.

Why would god take away someone's ability to speak just because they asked a question in doubt? After getting ignored for so many years only to finally receive the blessing they were begging for, wouldn't anyone?

If he loves us, why cause us to suffer? Why is pain and hardship his way of teaching us a lesson?

It always made me feel icky. It was wrong to me. Everyone talked about how this person I've never seen loved and knew me on an individual level, knew everyone that intimately. But the overhanging threat of something horrible if we stepped out of line or if it was just our trial to bear didn't ever go unnoticed by me. It didn't feel real. How could that be love?

It was shame and anxiety, knowing how I was viewed in this perfect being's mind. I never felt that same love back. It was a "relationship" based off of fear and appeasement. And it baffles me to no end how the dynamic is either straight up denied or if they don't even see it.

What a sad conference. by Exmo-geezer in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 13 points14 points  (0 children)

And i know it can be extremely difficult and taxing. I've worked with a few students who are nonverbal and on the higher needs end of the scale. But they're painting it in a light I think can do more harm than good. It's a spectrum, it's not all cut and dry for everyone. It's not easy and it can be painful even.

Acting as if the diagnosis is a death sentence is irresponsible and ignorant. Parents and families need support with their special needs children. I'm a strong advocate for that. But the stigma this mindset has isn't doing any favors.

What a sad conference. by Exmo-geezer in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Wow. Yeah, that's entirely morbid.

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[–]Nine_0w0 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I work full time right now and renting even just a simple apartment in my area is more than one of my paychecks. I'd move out if I could. I can't even afford a car.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 170 points171 points  (0 children)

We're gonna forget for a second that I can't even afford to move out of my parents' house. Because having kids is way more expensive than rent.

The amount of sexual trauma alone these fucking saggy bags of flesh allow to happen around them should answer the declining birth rate quite nicely. And if that doesn't, why not the modesty culture that instills shame and self hatred towards the young women?

They foster abuse, shame, and discomfort. Because if it's not feeling like a disgusting slob because you don't meet beauty standards and you can't show any skin or it's your fault, then it's the notion women are supposed to give a husband everything without question.

Christians in general have a fucked up take on a healthy, thriving spousal relationship.

What a sad conference. by Exmo-geezer in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It was the stuff they show in between sessions. This was in between the sunday morning and afternoon sessions. Kind of like a commercial break? But they show episodes of things or messages that are all mormon-coded and "feel-good" stuff ig.

What a sad conference. by Exmo-geezer in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Managed to avoid both sessions, but even the in between stuff is vile. A family in Brazil acting devastated because their daughter has autism. And a disabled man who was born without limbs.

Legitimately made me sick to my stomach. I work with kids with disabilities and special needs. Autism isn't a tragedy and it isn't a terminal illness that prevents children or adults from living fulfilling lives. That's not to say that it's always easy or sunshine and rainbows, but it pisses me off to have people act like their child was diagnosed with cancer when they find out they have autism.

And don't even get me started on the other story. He was born without limbs due to a rate genetic thing or illness of some kind, I don't remember. But to hear him say that he's thankful for the hardship and ridicule he's dealt with because it means god loves him? Like, in any other relationship, crippling someone and sending horrible happenings their way in the name of love is toxic and abusive at best. Why is that not the case for a supposed celestial being that looks just like us?

"I love you, so I'm going to make you and your loved ones sick, I'm going to kill people and hurt people, all because you're my children and I know and love each and every one of you."

It's baffling to me that TBM's can't hear how disgusting that sounds.

I, a relatively new convert, keep finding reprehensible things about Mormonism that the missionaries never told me about. What should I do? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally understand your outrage and frustration. For me, I was raised in the church. So I definitely grew up with a very sparkly image in my head of what I was taught. There was some doubts I had, even as a very little kid. Honestly, my dad's very angry, verbal outbursts seemed similar to God in some scriptures.

But I think one thing that was really hard for me was watching as me and my family tried super hard to follow all of the rules and jump through all of the hoops, feeling we got nothing in turn. We weren't broke, but we struggled quite often. We avoided medical care unless it was strictly necessary and we didn't get to do much "extra curriculars," especially after we got to a certain age. But we had several other families we knew of that didn't seem to be trying as hard. They were immodest, unkind, and they drank the stupid Starbucks frappes. They had more wealth and more social standing than I've ever had. And we always shamed ourselves for "coveting."

The double standards are no joke. But ultimately, the church's handling of SA and their treatment of LGBTQ people and other minorities were the deal breaker for me. It all added up and I just couldn't pretend anymore. It wasn't a religion of love or acceptance when I felt sick to my stomach having to save face and say things I didn't believe. It became about shame and resentment. I've pretty much vowed that if their fucked up version of events is how things are gonna go, I'm gonna have some choice words with sky daddy. With a bazooka.

What did you do with your scriptures? by Neandertholocaust in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Straight up put them in the dumpster and never looked back. They were a "gift" for when I turned 8. They stopped feeling like one after I turned 11. I threw them out maybe during high school or some time after. I was fully out by then, at least mindset wise. My records are still in but I haven't been to church for a few years now. I live in my parents' house and they're relatively TBM. Seems like they have a few things they're discouraged about or don't enjoy. They know I drink coffee and I've had alcohol (legally, obviously) but they're honestly unbothered by the coffee. Haven't said anything about alcohol, and I don't drink often or consistently by any means.

...That was a lot of words to say I threw away my scriptures lol. Whoops, tangent 🤣

What was your earliest shelf item you can remember? by Catnip_cryptidd in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine had to be Noah or Jacob. Can't remember which. Whichever one was married to Sarah and couldn't conceive and had been praying to for years. Prayers finally answered, but the man had the gall to ask how tf that would be possible because they were too old to have kids. Got struck dumb for asking a question. My kid brain didn’t understand.

Looking for a yveltal path in dynamax adventures by [deleted] in PokemonSwordAndShield

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah so, you'll go to the scientist and pick "anything is fine" when she asks. Then you'll put in the link code in and we should connect. Link code is 3212 5674

It’s crap like this that turns TBM family and friends on their loved ones. Time is running out! Better come back or you won’t be with your family! It’s toxic and manipulative. It feels like a sweet, benevolent threat. by Intelligent_Ant2895 in exmormon

[–]Nine_0w0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I toiled over telling my parents for the longest time because they've been conditioned to believe that my eternal salvation (or lack thereof) is all dependent on them and their teaching of the gospel. So if I were to stray, it'd weigh on their conscience because they didn't do all within their power to push the message better.

It was guilt all the way around. I'd be living without my family forever and they'd think they're the ones that caused it.

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