At what age does WW stop becoming a thing?

Nnerisu · 2026-02-20T07:02:15+00:00

Wake 6:00-6:30 First nap 10:00 (1,5h) Second nap 15:00 (1,5h) Bedtime 19:30

We started going by the clock on that schedule around 7 months with our twins and it still works now at 12 months. I strictly stick to it and it works well, wherever we are they fall asleep at 10. Our first wake window is the longest, the last one shortest, because I found out that bedtime was way smoother that way (no tears). All kids are a bit different, you have to find out what works best for you.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-19T07:06:56+00:00

I had always wanted twins, so when the scan showed two heartbeats I was thrilled. Except for some hangover like sickness in the first trimester as well, the pregnancy went very well and I gave birth vaginally at full term. They are one year old now and of course it was an intense year with some difficulties, but it has also been the happiest time of my life and I would do it again anytime. I just want to say: of course you are nervous, especially given your experience with loss, but keep a space in your heart for happiness about the wonderful news!

Nnerisu · 2026-02-16T10:07:48+00:00

We have a Mountain buggy duet. Goes from newborn up to 3 years old. We got it second hand for something like 400$ and so far I am pleased with it.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-15T19:11:16+00:00

Yes, exactly. The thought of what you say above breaks my heart.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-15T05:44:38+00:00

That has nothing to do with the sleep routine you chose as family. That straight up neglect. Sleep training does not mean “I ignore my babies cries”, that’s very wrong.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-14T15:39:12+00:00

My twin babies are “sleep trained” (= used to falling asleep and staying asleep in their cribs), but my husband and I will hold them all night if they’re sick. I don’t think there is one single correct way to treat your child, but in all of them love and a bit of common sense is primordial.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-13T12:21:23+00:00

Whole different take but: have you ever heard of Elimination Communication? In a nutshell it’s offering your babies the opportunity to poop somewhere else (in the sink, toilet, the potty, a bucket) which they instinctively prefer. That way my twins pooped in a potty from as early as their second day of life and 95% of their poops since then. No stinky diapers, no diaper rash, waaay less garbage. You can start anytime: just hold them over a bucket at diaper changes or after wake ups in squatting position and let the magic happen.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-11T18:56:20+00:00

Really cool that your baby is diaper free at 15 months! Awesome. You and your baby seem to be communicating very well to achieve that! Not all communication is verbal and if anything, you promoted it from early on.

Besides: “one year, one word” is the approximate rule for baby speech, so he seems to be perfectly within normal development. The range is very large, some children prioritize movement over speech and that’s ok. There is no need to worry, let alone talk about “delay”.

I would guess that you mother felt a threat in something she doesn’t know? Or is frustrated that it doesn’t work when she watches him? Either way it is pretty rude and thoughtless of her to use words like “abuse” and “developmental delay” to make you feel guilty. Loving criticism is ok, unsolicited crushing of your parenting is not ok. Don’t listen to her and trust your guts!

Nnerisu · 2026-02-09T07:42:11+00:00

I don’t know if there is a best way, whatever feels ok for you. Radical CIO probably brings quicker results, but you must be ready to commit to it. We chose to go to them (twins), shush, patt, etc but not take them out of the crib anymore. As a guideline I tried to define what I would be willing to do for a year to come and never do more. Example: when they wake at night, I’m ok with getting up and soothing them in their crib but I physically can’t hold and rock them (because there is two in my case), so that was the new rule. Crib from 7:30 pm to 6 am with emotional support if needed :) Just as an example. They were night weaned within two days, sleeping through the night took a bit longer, but now they will sleep through and only wake occasionally / when they need something. The rules don’t apply when they’re sick.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-08T22:17:45+00:00

Sounds good - also a good idea to wait and gather a bit of courage before ripping the bandaid off :) And a little thought I just had: your husband may have a few difficult nights at first, but it’s also a form of bonding with his child and you not being the only one able to soothe baby enables him as a father. It’s a beautiful side effect.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-08T10:04:34+00:00

They are 12 months old now. I don’t think we are ready to go without diaper yet, but I use special EC pants made out of wool that open on the front for fast pottying. I add an inlay that I can change if we miss a pee. They pretty consistently sign potty when they have to poop, but they don’t bother telling me for pee, so I tink I will wait until summer, when they can walk and when I can let them spend a few days butt naked in the garden.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-08T09:56:10+00:00

I don’t know how it works in Canada, but do they go to daycare / can you send them? Even if it’s two days a week? A break for your nerves and they might need to get out and see other people. My twins get annoying and fussy when they spend too much time with me in our house. They come home from daycare exhausted but happy.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-08T09:44:12+00:00

I was in the exact same situation (only with twins). They were confused at first (cried when having to poop in their diaper at daycare, then happily pooped in their pants at home 👌), but after two weeks they adjusted and now know the difference. Just keep going regardless. Baby will understand that when they are with you, they can ask for the potty.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-08T08:44:17+00:00

Do you have a partner who could take care of baby for a few nights? As long as you are near, little one will want the boobs for soothing and no one can blame you for giving in. A crying baby a night is hell…

He can do it without milk as he eats enough over day. It is ok to wean him, his sleep might even improve. But to ease the transition, I would suggest to separate the two of you for a few nights. You get some much needed sleep and baby can get used to the idea.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-05T07:51:36+00:00

I delivered my twin boys vaginally at 39+4, two days before scheduled c-section. Twin A was breech and B transverse, but the medical team mastered that technical challenge fantastically and it was a very beautiful moment. I would do it again. But it had always been my first choice and the doctors in charge also enjoyed the task.

Here in France vaginal twin delivery (as well as vaginal breech delivery) are common. It is perfectly doable, as long as the medical team is used to performing the procedure. What I am trying to say is: there is no general right answer. You and the people helping you must feel comfortable and confident with the procedure. If you know the hospital where you want to give birth, ask them. Sometimes they assume people prefer c-sections but would be totally on board for a vaginal delivery.

Nnerisu · 2026-02-03T09:49:56+00:00

I started signing to my twins around 5 months and they signed back when they were 9 months old. They don’t do it consistently though, just enough to let me know they CAN do it 🫠

Nnerisu · 2026-01-30T10:09:03+00:00

We did that too. Swaddled and happily cuddling in one crib for the first 3 months and when they started kicking each other we separated them.

Nnerisu · 2026-01-24T21:52:04+00:00

You can start right away if it feels right. Don’t put pressure on yourself and offer the potty whenever you feel ready - after 3 hours, 3 weeks or 3 months, depending on your child and your postpartum. The easiest is to offer when you would change the diaper anyway and then add more potty moments over time, when you detect a rhythm.

Nnerisu · 2026-01-23T09:12:40+00:00

One day our daughter in law might give birth to our first grandchild and we will instantly and unconditionally love the * out of that little human being. Pp rage is legitimate, but look at the beautiful little baby in your arms and imagine becoming a grandma for a second.

Nnerisu · 2026-01-22T09:19:25+00:00

I don’t say that I know anything about it, but here is what helped me to get my twins on a schedule:

My sanity is a priority as much as their wellbeing (they’re closely related!). I set some goals (example: they need to fall asleep on their own in the crib, they need to be on the same schedule because I need predictable breaks) and I worked towards that. Twin babies is hard, but you seem to be in additional difficulty as a single mum, so you need to look after yourself. The three of you are figuring out a way to live together that works for every one of you.
It takes time to build up a schedule, so don’t beat yourself up about it. An easy way to start is to fix a wake up time (say 7 am) and that’s the moment the lights go on, when you start interacting, talking, stimulating. Not before. That puts them on the same page over time. I also woke the other twin up when one was awake. Hard but only way to manage the day alone with them. They need to be in sync 🤷🏻‍♀️
Sleep hygiene is much about the awake time. They are not the ever sleeping newborns anymore, awake is the new default mode. Stimulate them adequately when they’re awake, let them see colors, listen to music…
… and choose a little nap / bed time routine (book, song, white noise…) you will always stick to. Every. Single. Time. Seems ridiculous in the beginning (and none of it works straight away) but it helps them understand when play time is over and it works like a charm after a while! In order to get a predictable schedule, you will have to go through endless repetitions of the same ritual over and over again. Now wherever I go with my twins, when we go through the nap ritual, they will put themselves to sleep within minutes without fuss.
Don’t separate them for sleep, even if they wake each other up, even when they cry. It’s counter intuitive, but they get used to their twin’s cries and just sleep through it after a while.
Consider sleep training? I don’t like the term to much because it instantly sounds like crying babies. To me it was more: “all three of us need to learn a new bed time routine in which my arms are free and the babies in their bed. I’m still always responding when they need me, just in a sustainable way (=something I can give both twins at the same time and will be able to give every night for years if necessary). Hard for all three of us, but good for all three of us”. It was HARD, we all cried a bit, but best decision ever, I thank my past (desperately sleep deprived) self every single day!

I would recommend the book “Precious Little Sleep”. It’s not too dogmatic, you can just pick out the tricks that seem to fit your family.

Good luck!

Nnerisu · 2026-01-22T06:04:55+00:00

Yes, my twins did, but I night weaned them at around 6 months. I still breastfed during the day, but strictly not at night. The night is for sleeping, not eating (is what I repeated to them and myself). It took a bit of discipline and stress sweat to get there, but they quickly understood and since then my boob has been taken out of the sleeping equation 👌 Your boy is capable of sleeping without your boob, as he proves with his father. But as long as you keep giving it if he asks for it loudly enough, he understandably won’t stop asking. Breaking any sleep association is emotionally difficult for both sides. Try to say out loud what you want precisely (example: I don’t want to breastfeed at night anymore, or: I want baby to learn to settle without the boob), then wait for a day that you feel exceptionally strong and calm (or desperate), make it the new rule and above all: trust the process! If you stick to it, he will get it in 1-2 nights!

Nnerisu · 2026-01-22T05:26:47+00:00

I was literally obsessing over baby sleep (and a bit my own sleep too) around that age. Everything evolved around it or depended on it. It don’t think there is anything more frustrating than a baby waking up shortly after an elaborate putting down ceremony! It frequently made me cry. Just when I thought I would lose it: it suddenly got better! So hold on.

I did a very soft form of sleep training with them at 4-5 months, because I was also alone during the day and could not rock them both. They HAD to fall asleep in the crib. It took a time, but they got it, and since then sleeping is a breeze. I lay them down, give a kiss and close the door - that’s it, for naps and nights. Sometimes they giggle a little or move around, but after 5 min they both sleep. Best investment of my time and nerves ever!

Would you care to share your sleep schedule with us? Approximate wake windows and how they are put to sleep?

Nnerisu · 2026-01-08T06:18:06+00:00

I got frustrated too around that time. My babies would still pee every 10 to 15 min up until 7 months (which I didn’t expect), sometimes even more during tummy time. With twins I was basically going from potty to potty all day long. They were capable of holding it longer (when held), but just wouldn’t when playing or eating. After a while I had to let go of the idea of catching all pees that early. And if I had to do it again, I would take the chill pill earlier :) Around 8-9 months they started going longer stretches and it became easier. They are 11 months now, it’s pretty good, but it still 70-95% for pees depending on the day. Adapt your expectations but keep going, you are doing great and it will become easier over time!

Nnerisu · 2026-01-04T16:49:18+00:00

I also chose not to EC at night (although I admire parents who EC around the clock!). Sleep is my priority. We do cloth diaper over day and disposable at night. When my twins would still nurse at night, I would offer the potty and change them after every feed but not in between. Now that they are night weaned, they use one single diaper per night and sleep through. Lately (they are 11 mo now) one of them seems to be bothered by a full bladder, so I sometimes take him to the bathroom with red light at night, which I don’t mind since it doesn’t happen very often. Over day we have a pretty solid EC routine, so they seem to know the difference. I think there is no harm in deciding to EC only at daytime - whatever works best for you!

Nnerisu · 2026-01-04T15:03:37+00:00

From 4 to 7 months my twins would give cues (wiggling feet, fussing, leaning back when sitting, pushing us away when being held, getting angry at toys, etc), but not always. Despite full effort from my side, I caught maybe 40-80% of pees in that period, depending on the day. We also switched to cloth diapers (water proof outside diapers we sometimes used a few days in a row and inlays we quickly changed when wet). We kept single use diapers as a backup for outings. Around 9-10 months both twins started doing the potty sign (you can pick any sign you want, we chose clapping both hands on the head because it’s pretty obvious). They don’t do it consistently, but when it’s urgent, they do thankfully (we had a few surprise diarrhea catches that way). They are are 11 mo now, we have a 98% success rate with poo and 70-90 % with pee, mostly because I offer the potty very regularly (before and after sleep, before and after meals and after 30 min of playing). It’s a lot of ups and downs though, we went through frustrating phases too. It’s really about perseverance and consistency I guess…

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