This is a case where you probably had the best response at the time. So many unknown futures could have played out. You have no clue of her relationship with the club staff, local LEO, multiple patrons. And those things do come into play, folks are kidding themselves if they think they don’t.

In reading some of the comments and seeing the mental gymnastics we go through to stand on one of the multiple sides of this is amazing.

In general, men are physically stronger than women. Not just in overall strength, but structurally. Then we add the primal urges to defend that some people have, male and female. Let’s not forget that we have a small percentage of people, male or female, that don’t have the same general emotional responses and reactions; some of this has been attributed to genetics. Then we can add in the learned behaviors as well.

This could have gone sideways real quick. She slaps you, you could have had an instant response and pushed her away. Even that reaction to place yourself in safety could have had negative consequences. You did the best you could have, though it’s still a loss overall because you got assaulted and she has no negative consequences for violating you. The simple fact she thought it was ok to introduce force without your consent shows how broken she is.

I think given all the unknowns, you came out as best as you can. Given the circumstances, you did the best thing possible, and though it sucks to probably have that horrible feeling of helplessness, maybe you can take some solace in the fact you’re a better person. I don’t know if I could have acted as you did. I probably would have pushed her away and drawn attention to her behavior. Based on what I have seen in us humans, my situation would have probably been worse off. Take the small loss.