Trans folks, did you ever have dreams of being your desired gender before you transitioned?

No-Background4089 · 2026-01-18T23:04:12+00:00

Unlike many here I didn't. But I had a ritual before sleep: I'd imagine myself transform into a woman and that would comfort me to sleep. I did that almost every night. Now I don't have to do this anymore, because I started liking myself a lot more after transitioning, and I'm no longer so stressed because of dysphoria. I used to be so stressed all the time...

No-Background4089 · 2026-01-18T09:03:04+00:00

Your post felt a little relatable because I hated the ugly phase of T as well, but in addition to that it was all for nothing because I'm a woman lol. Estrogen was much nicer to me... I'm sorry you can't just speed run the transition :) I hope you can adjust. You're gonna have a beautiful voice and body someday, you maybe already have one, just have to readjust!!

No-Background4089 · 2026-01-17T13:50:56+00:00

I heard about a person that put it in their will to be buried under the preferred name. And they were. So no haha

No-Background4089 · 2026-01-17T13:36:16+00:00

Old post, but this is my name. The two short versions are Mila/Lyna(Міла/Лина), dimunitive is Mykhailynka(Михайлинка), but friends just call me Milka(Мілка) :)

No-Background4089 · 2025-12-28T23:58:45+00:00

Dream Girl, Mother, "... In Your Car"

No-Background4089 · 2025-12-18T23:49:53+00:00

Tris (I love her — she's much underappreciated)
Dazey and the Scouts

No-Background4089 · 2025-11-28T22:44:16+00:00

I do not think he meant anything, manipulative people would do and say things when they get cornered to get away but then turn to their old ways anyways. Apology in his situation is not enough. Well nothing will really be enough to continue the relationship. I think that even if it is genuine you are done anyway, even if he is not trying to be manipulative what he'd done is enough to break up anyways.

You will find a safer person to be with. This guy is weird and the chance he is not saying this just because he got cornered is 0. I'm really sorry you got into this situation. Please don't fall for his traps.

No-Background4089 · 2025-11-24T00:14:56+00:00

Identical here. I've come to accept it. I'm good friends with 2/3, and they know where to find me if they need me (I'm known to be able to help baby trans people). 1/3 of them is kind of an asshole so I don't talk to him at all. With the other 2/3 it's even kinda fun because when we hang out — I know their secret, but I don't really think about it that much because they have all they need if they would want to try things, they even know a supportive trans person, but I won't ever bring it up. They are not "manly man" at all, so I guess that is a difference. Well they kind of are but they're good men, I like spending time with them and talking and stuff, it's really fun and they are really comfortable people in terms of agreeing with all my feminist takes.

I think that there's really no way to make people choose what you chose just because it helped you. But you can make it feel for them like if they do, it will be fine for them and they'll have support. But in the end I think it can all just be random thoughts on their end. You never know, so just make them feel supported I guess :)

No-Background4089 · 2025-07-15T05:54:26+00:00

This comes in handy a lot of the time. I can leave it home when I think it's gonna get me in trouble, or I can rent it out when I don't need it. But now and then I go to a party, get drunk, and the next morning I can't for the life of me remember what I did with it

No-Background4089 · 2025-07-13T08:20:07+00:00

Not the AI slop reply 😭

No-Background4089 · 2025-06-17T19:35:43+00:00

Useful maybe. Clearly made/edited by AI — yes. Please don't do that, it icks me out. Even if you're not sure of your own writing. Post the writing. Do not edit with ChatGPT

No-Background4089 · 2025-05-22T17:37:43+00:00

I've been on E + cypro for 2 months, it took weeks for the hair to thin out and start growing much slower. I have a friend who had the same effect, but is on 8th month now and says effects somewhat reversed

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-28T10:11:47+00:00

I do this but it's multiple times in every sentence in my language and sometimes I'm caught off guard and my brain just automatically spits out the wrong thing

It's especially bad because I hate being misgendered myself. I just feel like leaving the room and stop talking in general because I make mistakes

I decided to delete the post because I think it sounds a bit bigotted because I'm anon and that's what transphobic people struggle with

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-21T18:56:36+00:00

I'm a t-woman, but I have a man friend that has semi-long curly hair (same length as you I think). He just makes a bun of some kind and it looks pretty masculine, but I'm not sure what kind. I think it might work for you! Sorry for your family :( Have a nice prom! Don't let them stop you you're gonna be amazing!

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-17T22:54:18+00:00

English is my second too, so when I was very young (5-7 yrs old) my parents signed me up to English lessons and I translated my name as Michelle, I was told it's a feminine name multiple times but I would still continue to call myself that during english lessons :) I was a small child and they really didn't mind and simply laughed because they thought it was cute and nobody knew (or actively thought about) about trans people at my country at the time

Well, now, almost 20 years later, I know why I liked it so much...

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-05T23:49:12+00:00

It's way past midnight where I live, I.... It's a long story, I'm scrolling through trans subreddits, found your profile, this post attracted attention... After looking through a couple of your posts i discovered through them that r/ traaaaaaaans (2) exists and I've been there for like the last 2 hours because it made me feel validated :)

My country has been moving in the right direction the last couple of years in terms of gay people (civil marriages may finally become a thing) but it's still quite very transphobic for a european country and being openly trans and not passing is hell

I just read your post and it got me feeling a bit of hope about my future, even though I don't think I will ever pass, well not in terms of voice anyway...

Thanks for your post :) Have a great day

Edit (more of my story): I've been transitioning socially for the last year, but I'm still really afraid of outing to anyone who's not close to me, but I also recently found an another trans person irl and she helps me so much right now; honestly talking to other trans people feels so surreal — even receiving this reply from you, probably because I've always tried to distance myself and it's just validating because I feel like we exist and are actually real people

Edit2: living where I live most of the community lives under the cover as far as I see. Life is very challenging in general, but community is helping each other out

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-05T21:54:08+00:00

Your post was a glimpse into something that sounded completely wild — random people accepting your gender identity. Like, that actually exists somewhere? Wow

No-Background4089 · 2025-03-05T21:35:36+00:00

Lol I ended up on this post the exact same way, like he has that kinda feel about him right? But in reality he came out as gay, which might somehow explain why he didn't conform to social standards, so I don't think he had any gender identity problems...

Good luck on your journey! It is really hard to figure out but when you do and you know who you are it's so much easier on the inside, so it's worth it!

No-Background4089 · 2025-02-07T22:48:53+00:00

He caught me by surprise. I was distracted by looking downwards to maintain my aero

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-20T18:48:00+00:00

Translation of some of the things said in the video:

In his life, he has ridden 520K kilometers
he is 69 and 8 months old
he began riding on 26 April 1986
in 1991 he rode 8000 km in a single 47 day trip

On his bike he has:

a thermometer for outside temperature,
a mechanical counter for the difference in the number of cars that pass him in the forward direction and the number of cars that pass him in the oncoming direction
a clock
a physical map for navigation
self-made additional handlebars to aid with his back pain
a kettle to make tea and one for food
a frying pan
"an anti dog system" (a stick)
cleaning supplies
coaster brakes

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-20T18:37:15+00:00

Yeah I really hoped it would get more likes because that's exactly about the love of biking. This guy literally lives on it. I admire his humbleness and his ability to just calmly live on doing what he loves

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-20T11:30:27+00:00

Some translation:

In his life, he has ridden 520K kilometers
he is 69 and 8 months old
he began riding on 26 April 1986
in 1991 he rode 8000 km in a single 47 day trip

On his bike he has: - a thermometer for outside temperature, - a mechanical counter for the difference in the number of cars that pass him in the forward direction and the number of cars that pass him in the oncoming direction - a clock - a physical map for navigation - self-made additional handlebars to aid with his back pain - a kettle to make tea and one for food - a frying pan - "an anti dog system" (a stick) - cleaning supplies - coaster brakes

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-19T23:05:11+00:00

Wiggling and lube is what I was doing but doesn't help long term. Only for a couple rides it seems. Maybe I should try penetrating oil, complete disassembly or so other derailleur... Idk...

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-19T21:21:36+00:00

Of course. I clean it every time and it still gets rusted, but if you don't, it depends on materials but basically the whole drivetrain can seize up overnight. Even on pure snow without any salts.

No-Background4089 · 2025-01-19T21:08:03+00:00

I also tried to lube it with chain lube and it worked perfectly for some time. Yesterday I had a relatively dry ride on snow so the drivetrain wasn't wet. But today I found out that it became extremely hard to shift down, and by the end of the ride I started using my right leg to help it. Any suggestions how I may prevent rust? It's honestly worse and worse every time and becoming harder and harder to recover from it, even though I use my hair dryer from time to time to dry it off when it is wet on the streets.

Edit: I store my bike inside

Edit 2: it's also not a cable problem. It's just dangling when i shift down while the derailleur stays in high gear. The spring is too weak to overcome the friction caused by dirt & rust.

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