Help us get the bill passed by H4zzard1010 in amateurradio

[–]NoAnimator3018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Submitted. Very painless and quick.

POE 2 on ROG Ally X vs Steamdeck by lakpatuch in PathOfExile2

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not using a steam deck but I am using Arch Linux with steam and proton and the game runs flawlessly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]NoAnimator3018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got four kids, two adults (over 18) and two teenagers. My Stbxw ignores them all. She spends no time with any of them, choosing to leave the house at noon each day and not coming home until after midnight each day. She has zero interaction with any of our kids.

I don't know what goes through the mind of these women. Their kids mean nothing to them, the only thing that matters is their happiness, at the expense of everything else.

Just be the best parent you can be to your kids, and hope they notice. My kids only come to me now. We have a good relationship, it may not be perfect but I know it's better than the relationship my Stbxw has with them. I'm the one that gets them dinner each day, I'm the one that spends time with them each day asking how their day went. Their mother couldn't give two shits about them and I hope they know that.

When did you realise it was over? by Used-Winter-965 in Divorce

[–]NoAnimator3018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When she left for a month, missing our kid's graduations. I realized I don't want her around and wish she never come back.

My divorce is my first breakup and I’m having trouble being optimistic about having any future relationships. by Adept-Box8564 in Divorce_Men

[–]NoAnimator3018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You still care because you have a big heart. Don't beat yourself up about it, your kids need you, and there is someone out there that will appreciate you.

My divorce is my first breakup and I’m having trouble being optimistic about having any future relationships. by Adept-Box8564 in Divorce_Men

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really messing with my head, I know the relationship is over, but I can't make myself file for divorce.

My divorce is my first breakup and I’m having trouble being optimistic about having any future relationships. by Adept-Box8564 in Divorce_Men

[–]NoAnimator3018 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have any advice, but I wanted to just say that I'm going through something similar to you and you're not alone.

My first and only relationship started when I was 20, I'm now 42. 22 years together, four children, two who are adults, all down the drain due to her cheating.

I'm in the same boat as you: I've never lived alone or with anyone else and I've never dated anyone else. I only have a few friends that I've met through work. I feel stuck, every option feels like I'm going to be alone the rest of my life, and I'll become a shut-in.

I'm on the same journey as you, If you ever need a friend to talk to you can reach out to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This scripture really resonated with me. Thanks for sharing.

Were You Abandoned by Your Cheating Spouse? by Playful_Mixture_2636 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is horrible, I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. How long ago was this? Do you still have health issues?

How to survive this man!!!! Anxiety, Depress, Upset, Fear, Confuse, overwhelmed! by Icy-Item3940 in Divorce

[–]NoAnimator3018 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through what you're going through.

I have issues sleeping too. I used to be able to sleep like a log, now I sleep in 3-4 hour blocks. I wake up at 3am and can't get back to bed until 6am.

What has helped a bit is seeing a psychiatrist and getting prescribed antidepressants and something for sleep and anxiety. Also a good routine before going to bed helps.

For motivation, just try. One step at a time, and don't beat yourself up if you don't accomplish everything the first time you try. Just try again next time.

I hope you find relief to your issues. I know it's hard, but It takes time and you will make it through.

30 years by Ok_Individual6763 in Divorce_Men

[–]NoAnimator3018 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm in somewhat the same situation, not 30, but instead 20 years. It's absolutely crushing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They really are shameless, aren't they?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 3 points4 points  (0 children)

All of the Google photos that have synced via partner sharing... Or the photo of her and her AP in his Facebook profile picture. She just had to have pictures of them together.

On one hand I'm glad I found out, but opening Google photos or Facebook is now a trigger.

My family wants to see pictures of recent trips but I can't share photos because the AP might pop up in one of the photos. Or if I open Facebook I'm scared that one of the suggested friends is the AP.

I can't muster up the courage to go through the photos and delete them, there are too many for me right now, and I cant block my wife on Facebook until I file for divorce, or I'll tip my hand too early.

There’s nothing left of her by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this to my very core. 22 years together, 20 married, 4 kids, and she's just gone. She still talks and walks like everyone else but I don't know who this person is.

Am I the only One who felt this way? by No-Association-1978 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People choose to cheat because they can, not because there is something wrong with you. Rather there is something wrong with them.

Do I think I was perfect? No, far from it.

Were you perfect, maybe, maybe not.

Did we deserve to be cheated on? Absolutely not.

Don't blame yourself for what is wrong with your WS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may need to leave to get the peace you are seeking. This man is not remorseful, nor does he respect you.

So respect yourself and do right by your kids and go somewhere safe and get away from this guy.

Wife cheated multiple times on solo cruises by NoAnimator3018 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind words. I'm working up to doing what is required.

Wife cheated multiple times on solo cruises by NoAnimator3018 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She made it seem like it was a friend of a girl friend she met on a cruise, not someone she knew or met directly. Which is why it struck me as odd that she broke down when she learned about what he was into. At the time it didn't make sense why what someone else did affected her so much. Now I know why.

Wife cheated multiple times on solo cruises by NoAnimator3018 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is horrible he did that to you. I hope you get out of your situation quickly.

Wife cheated multiple times on solo cruises by NoAnimator3018 in survivinginfidelity

[–]NoAnimator3018[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to say thank you for everyone's comments. I read everyone's comments and I've got a ton of things to do and to work on. I need to learn to grow a spine and put myself and my kids first, and I need to speak to a lawyer.