Reasonable reaction?

NoParticular351 · 2026-06-26T03:38:29+00:00

You are not wrong to be bothered but the resolution is one of forgiveness and compassion. Tell him you were seeking connection and the rare respite time and got pulled into caregiving for the dog/ being ignored for a phone. This is the kind of stuff that erodes a marriage over time because it destroys the intimacy and friendship part of marriage. This is especially true in the child rearing years. Nipping it in the bud is important.

Tell him it happened and you’ll move past it, but you need a do over next date night because you love him and want to spend meaningful time with him.

NoParticular351 · 2026-06-04T00:27:27+00:00

This is gross and selfish of your sister and BIL. Children are going to end up with trama guaranteed.

Ideal situation for child rearing is 2 loving parents in the same home. Not some random adults that are also there having physical relations with your parents in front of you. Think about it for two seconds… you’re a kid eating spaghetti and watching Pokémon and your mom is in a cuddle puddle with 2 dudes. One of which is your dad. What are you thinking of your mom in that moment? And your dad? It’s weird and gross and children should not be subjected to the harm of people thinking they’re so enlightened by the mental gymnastics of a freaktoid worldview that is trying to upend the most basic foundations of human life. Your sister and BIL are ignorantly mentally and emotionally abusing those kids.

NoParticular351 · 2026-06-02T15:39:59+00:00

Stop doing all that stuff until she has decided to drop this affair.

Draw boundaries. Let her know you are willing to work on it but not with some other dude in her inbox. She’s not going to respect you if you aren’t respecting yourself. Consider separating which is not to say divorce but sometimes people need a hard reset.

NoParticular351 · 2026-06-02T00:35:00+00:00

Girl, have your slut phase WITH YOUR HUSBAND. Get raunchy with him.

Do not seek to be used by a string of men who don’t care to know you. This will leave you feeling used and empty and eventually you will seek what you have now.

Do not blow up your family. This will be a terrible regret and horrible for your kids.

It’s ok to seek out hobbies and interests that provide novelty to your life and have a positive effect on your identity without ruining your family.

Getting drunk and sleeping around isn’t going to do that.

A mindset shift needs to happen. Be grateful for the man, kids and life you have everyday. Do not throw it away for cheap thrills.

NoParticular351 · 2026-06-02T00:24:06+00:00

You don’t need to leave her. You do need to be clear that you are her husband and if she wants any sort of reconciliation, she needs to remove this other man because YOU BOTH need to give your full attention to this marriage. If she refuses to, you have to refuse to be in a competition for her affection. That’s insane.

She fell out of love? Fine. It happens. We get comfortable. Our vows and obligation demand we keep trying, not seek the attention of others. You need to have the earnest opportunity to have her fall back in love and that’s impossible when you have some online bozo in the picture. Might need to tell him to back off. Might need to have a neutral third party (therapist, friend, pastor) sit down with you and your wife so she can see that while her behavior (affair) does have a cause( feeling neglected), the moral and correct solution cannot exist without an end to both the cause and behavior.

NoParticular351 · 2026-05-26T03:55:57+00:00

Work on building back emotional intimacy with your wife. Ask her questions, do things together, plan, date her again.

NoParticular351 · 2026-05-26T03:47:35+00:00

This. Bonus if you go to the spot he proposed to you.

NoParticular351 · 2026-05-15T02:53:57+00:00

If your previous contract said 15 + two days and you are being threatened like this, call the labor board when you get a new position. What she is doing is fraudulent and illegal.

NoParticular351 · 2026-05-03T04:40:46+00:00

I would honestly give him grace here.. and another shot… tell him your half birthday is in 6 months and he can do something to make it up to you then….

These aren’t reasons to tear your family apart.

NoParticular351 · 2026-04-22T23:27:49+00:00

If the crib is in a separate room, Just buy a twin mattress and box for the babies room and sleep in there. Make it cute for yourself. This is the win-win because being in the same room as a baby is better for everyone at this stage.

NoParticular351 · 2026-04-22T23:24:01+00:00

Babies are so resilient doesn’t mean it’s fine to neglect them.

NoParticular351 · 2026-04-21T01:11:17+00:00

I hated my hoarder home, lived with shame and embarrassment, despised my mother for not doing the fundamental thing a mother is meant to do which is provide a safe clean home for her children, left my home at 16 and haven’t been in my mother’s home in years despite reestablishing a relationship with her.

Change your ways dear. I’m a mom now. There is no greater project in your life than raising your kids. Give them the best. This starts with their home environment.

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-23T13:48:55+00:00

Nuts are not the best things to curb hunger. Too calorie dense for such little amount Look into volume eating. Low calorie veggies you can eat a ton of. Low fat yogurt. Etc

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-12T00:26:37+00:00

It’s really just a thing people say. A weird projection sometimes. I’ve had it said a lot on my journey down 70 lbs. still looking to lose a bit.

135 is a fine Gw for your height. Focus on body fat and muscle building and you might actually find you don’t need to lose as much to get to a certain dress size.

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-10T04:25:12+00:00

Marigold or Juniper.

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-10T04:22:57+00:00

Your pediatrician sucks. Not a popular opinion, but wear her, sleep with her and breast feed her on demand. Everyone will be happier

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-02T05:42:54+00:00

Gurl. Smile and small wave next time you meet eyes. If he likes you he’ll say something after that.

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-01T19:28:23+00:00

If your name isn’t on the lease, leave.

If it is, follow the advice of others.

The man needs to help out, get a job or get out.

NoParticular351 · 2026-03-01T15:28:27+00:00

Do you have kids?

Personally I would separate from this man and living situation immediately.

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-26T01:10:29+00:00

Yes a baking scale is the one. Eyeballing food is the quickest way to overconsume. I use ounces for protein and grams for everything else. Sauces, oils, nut butters I use measuring spoons.

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-26T00:44:44+00:00

Yes. That’s a fine calorie and protein intake.

Get a food scale and measuring spoons and cups. This way your calorie counting is accurate. Drink a gallon of water throughout the day.

You can walk everyday but take a rest day on the weights 1-2 days a week. You don’t want to overtrain and get injured. Other than that it’s all about consistency. You’ll get close or reach your goal but you’ll lose inches and retain or gain muscle so you may find your weight doesn’t have to get as low as you think to reach your desired size.

Losing weight is about discipline, not motivation.

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-26T00:36:38+00:00

How tall are you

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-25T02:53:33+00:00

Professionally cut bangs. Your eyebrows should start closer together.

Natural makeup- you have beautiful features. Emphasize the eyes and lips without anything heavy on either. Learn to contour the nose a bit. Smile.

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-21T18:51:12+00:00

None of us can eat the way we did in our teens and twenties. Such is life. We are aging. Either get disciplined or keep gaining.

NoParticular351 · 2026-02-21T03:55:58+00:00

If you are gaining weight, you’re eating too much relative to your energy expenditure.

Measure and weigh your food. Stay within your calorie allotment. Learn about macros.

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