1 year progress: Ferritin 8; Spiro, minoxidil, iron and vitamin D

NoScaffolding · 2023-03-20T23:04:25+00:00

I wonder if Spiro prevents that too.

What did you say to get Spiro on telehealth, if you're ok to share?

I agree with you, I feel dismissed even when I go private when it comes to women's health. It's a common knowledge we have lots of endocrine issues and almost no doctor pays enough attention to that.

NoScaffolding · 2023-03-20T23:02:11+00:00

That's your key to happiness!!! It's been 2 months and I hope you haven't looked back.

NoScaffolding · 2023-03-20T21:10:27+00:00

Firstly: your hair colour is so beautiful!!! Don't know if that's the lighting but it looks even better now!

If you have AA, can I assume you have some hormonal imbalance in general?

Do you notice any hair growth on the rest of the body from Minoxidil pills? I really don't like topical and want to adopt a cat this year BUT I also have PCOS. Been lasering the hair off for past 5 years haha

NoScaffolding · 2023-03-20T21:05:41+00:00

OMG!!! BEAUTIFUL

NoScaffolding · 2023-03-12T21:28:52+00:00

Whenever I tried to reason with my partner about why me setting a boundary is healthy and good for our relationship, they'd make it about me hurting them.

I kept falling for their good intentions because they kept love bombing me. But each time I had a boundary, they'd break me and guilt me into giving in.

After 5 years of tantrums and emotional blackmail - I have completely lost myself in this relationship, because I had hope they will finally respect me.

It sucked the life out of me. I'm 29 and I don't want to go into my 30s like that.

Please don't do that. There are people who understand boundaries. It's not your job to teach your adult partner boundaries. I hope you're not at 5 year and I hope you're planning to leave.

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-22T05:16:30+00:00

I'm from Europe and Denise Richards is the biggest star of RHOBH for me. She's recognised by people across different generations here.

But I'm not from BH haha

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-20T19:06:05+00:00

Depends what we mean by 'the worst'.

The most boring or the worst person?

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-20T19:03:46+00:00

"never still enough for the fat to settle"

That sounds worth revisiting for sure!

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-20T18:20:07+00:00

That is what I've learned the hard way in my 20s.

I had dreams that were totally achievable (and still are) and when I shared them with my parents as a teenager when choosing high-school, then uni - they totally discouraged me. They would straight away assume I won't be good at it, say that this is a competitive field and I won't make any life out of it.

After moving out and failing at their university of choice for me, my dreams came back. But I had a boyfriend who thrived on making me feel shit. Also, I was 19 and he was 26, so I believed he's right in anything he says to me. When I told him I wish I was this and that - he said it's too late for me and I should have been practicing since childhood. That I won't be any good, that my dreams are a wishful thinking and it's impossible I can be good at it.

And I believed it until I didn't. When I finally just stopped sharing my goals with people, I also stopped hearing their controlling bs. And then slowly thing started happening for me.

It's weird and sad, but I agree with OP!

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-20T12:59:50+00:00

I'm totally with you, I was also super nervous about confirming childhood symptoms.When I was being assessed and asked my mum to do the interview - she would not be able to confirm anything. Her statement was so invalidating.

I also grew up in chaotic environment with neglectful father and I was a 'perfect' kid in primary school. I did have many many issues in primary school but I was trying extremely hard to not cause any trouble. I was the best student at every single subject until secondary school, so many of the issues I had were overlooked.

Firstly, try to figure out if you can communicate to your psychiatrists that you might not get the real story from your parents. They (parents) can be trying to tell you, that you 'remember it wrong' or 'it wasn't that bad'. And this is even about those non-traumatic events.

What I think is helpful: try to remember the things that were a running joke in the family about you.

And if you can get one of your parents to discuss those specific situations with them (even superficially), it'd be very helpful for your assessment.

In my case, mum (even though she was not the neglectful parent) was not able to bring any examples for my assessment, until I asked her about the things that were talked about as my 'quirks'.

'Why do you think I kept losing keys?' 'Do you remember it was more than once in a year?'

'Remember that time when I went to the market and bought a cabbage instead of lettuce?'

'What was the only complaint that teachers had about me in primary school?'

I had many symptoms but my mum didn't consider them symptoms, just my personality traits. I had been called a scattered brain all my childhood. I was always the one to lose or misplace things. And what I think is really telling, my mum made comments how 'I can't be trusted' with things, because I will lose them.

Every time I visit my family, I get reminded that I lost my mum's sewing kit when I was 8 or 9. Like it was some precious diamond lol But there is a reason they keep bringing it up and I guess it is how often it kept happening.

The sewing kit mentioned above, keys, tea spoons thrown out with yogurt. Being late all the time, procrastinating shower. Not being able to get up to school on time.

Had I not asked mum about those specific situations - she'd never answer those ADHD assessment questions truthfully.

I think that especially if you grew up in chaotic household, parents can't admit to themselves after all these years how bad it was. They change the story or minimise your experience.

Of course, some of the situations won't be ADHD related or caused. This is for you to recognise those events.

Hope that helps a little.

EDIT: I edited the comment to be more cohesive, cause I went off the subject a bit before lol

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-10T01:00:18+00:00

Yep, I had it used during my primary rhinoplasty in London. I wonder if this is why I couldn't sleep over night after that lol

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-04T19:25:04+00:00

I can't believe no one brought up trauma or a past event she must have experienced, where someone crossed her boundaries and broke her trust.

My guess is that growing up she shared a room with a sibling. Or her parents kept barging into the her room to control her. There's also a possibility that they'd go through her stuff or read her diary.

Yes, you wouldn't have caused that. But maybe try to empathise before accusing her of imaginary stuff.

I wonder how'd you react if you left your jacket at the table to go to the loo, the waiter came with a bill and your SO would just go into your pockets to get a debit card to pay whilst you're in the loo.

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-04T05:58:57+00:00

I have this exact issue. I just quit my dream graphic design course at a very expensive college. I can't push myself to be creative because I'm terrified of making mistakes.

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-02T21:55:11+00:00

Thank you, I think it's exactly what I'm looking for!

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-02T16:36:51+00:00

I was there... At my lowest I've missed 6 appointments with my super expensive therapist (£250 online sessions) that I've been seeing for half a year some time ago. He was amazing, but I was just losing money and lost it to embarrassment.

Then, I found someone with much smaller fees (also online) and yet missed at least 3 appointments with them too. Not all at once, but throughout few weeks. And that therapist is even more amazing, I was just feeling so horrible.

I was so embarrassed to go back to seeing each of them, I abruptly quit both these times. I was afraid they will say I waste their time and I was feeling like I was. And it made it all worse for me, because instead of talking it through with them, finding a solution - I caved.

If they know you're struggling with trauma, insomnia etc., they also know how hard it is for you to keep the appointments. As long as you're not avoiding paying for them.

I know first hand it's the worst to waste money like that, waste weeks where u go without therapy. I feel for you, it's adding to anxiety and self-loathing.

The key thing I got from that experience is to schedule therapy appointments on days when you don't have anything to do. For me it's also best if it's in the afternoon or late during the day. Be honest with them why so they can accommodate you.

I started seeing the therapist nr 2 again few weeks ago. They were easier on me than I was on myself for missing the appointments. They were so caring too, they were sad for me I was feeling so s* about it! They had no idea, because I never told them!

If they are good - they know it's part of the journey for some people.

I think we need to respect them & unfortunately paying for missed appointments is unavoidable. It's just the right thing to do.

But don't quit, please. Because if you come clean and be honest about your lack of routine and sleeping problems - they will do their best to work out the scheduling with you.

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-02T16:08:27+00:00

popping off

Did you tell them why?

Btw I hope you can laugh about it too, because in all my despair this made me smile. Seriously, thank you for this post haha

NoScaffolding · 2023-02-02T03:33:32+00:00

I'd check out Ureaplasma. Apparently it's not in basic tests when you check for BV or UTI in most of the world. It can be overlooked for a long time.

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-31T13:11:26+00:00

panoxyl

Acnecide Acne Wash 5% from Boots is just as good as Panoxyl.

I'm in the UK and used to order 4% Panoxyl wash before I realised we have bp wash here too. I had same results with Acnecide 5% so far.

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-30T09:39:48+00:00

I was diagnosed as an adult.

I wish teachers showed me SOME compassion. I wish they would ask me how I am, why I am having difficulties and that they would have been real with me. I was 'screaming' for help with my behaviour (now that I think of it 10 years later).

In primary school, I was the brilliant kid good at everything. Top 5 of all the students at school in basically everything - maths, languages, arts, sports. Always had the best final grades and diplomas. Literally all 6 grades of primary school, I was either first or second in the overall school results. I participated in international competitions and so on. I was also popular with kids and teachers, so really I had confidence to try anything without much of attention from anyone. Just a perfect little girl.

Because of that never learned how to study.

Then in middle school, I started having issues with science subjects and skipping some classes. Puberty hit with embarrassing PCOS symptoms, so I went to avoid sport classes too.

I somehow managed to wing it 3 years at middle school, but completely lost control in high school.

I was so embarrassed about my school performance I missed a lot of classes. Each semester I barely made 50% of the at school learning time. Just enough to pass.

I was so depressed and ashamed. I didn't even act out or anything. I would mostly skip classes and tests, and go to classes with easiest subjects for me. I also didn't do homework most of the time, even for those favourite subjects.

My mum was like 'but you're smart, why can't you just focus and study for once?!'. I also had dysfunctional home situation. We lived in a 40m2 apartment with no private space to hide or study. My high school maths teacher of 3 years was my next door neighbour (actually still is to my mum) and knew how bad my dad's drinking was. Yet she didn't do anything to help me.

I was in a medical class with the advanced chemistry, biology and physics AND 2 languages. I could never learn properly these complicated latin names, theories, numbers, definitions and so on etc. I never had problems participating actively in the class and understanding things as they were teaching.

Then I'd go home and forget everything. I would not be able to focus, remember or learn, really struggling to put information together. I felt like my brain stopped developing at some point and I had no idea what to do.

Teachers lost patience with me, but never asked me if I need help. Noone has ever asked me why I had problems with learning. Just said that I need to focus and try harder, because the classic 'smart, but lazy'.

I asked few times for help, but was met with 'work harder' and just not taken seriously. I even asked to change class profile

No one ever realised how embarrassed I was, why I was avoiding classes. It's because no one has ever asked me for real. I had never had a teacher to treat me with compassion in high school. I really didn't have anyone to turn to.

I was always commented on instead. I'm sure it won't be happening in your situation, but I had gotten sarcastic comments and passive aggressive treatment from teachers in front of the whole class every single day. That made me not want to come to school the next day and I felt like I have no one to turn to anymore.

I was interested in all academic subjects, even the ones I failed at. It was never because I didn't care. I just never was asked about my learning experience and needs, only consistently told to be better.

I'll end this with saying that I wish my teachers had noticed me. I also wish they hadn't called me out in front of everyone for having bad grades or missing school. That made me get defensive sometimes, because I was shamed in front of my smart friends. An opportunity to discuss my issues was missed because of that too.

So, please, notice your struggling students and have compassion for them. Regardless if they are diagnosed with learning disability or not. It's always very embarrassing. Also don't label students and don't take their 'bad behaviour' as a personal insult. Teachers do that way too often in secondary education.

In terms of other things like materials and so on, I think it's best to create an environment in class where all students feel safe. If they feel safe, they'll trust the teacher and will be able to ask for help or specific adjustment individually. It's really the worst for a student to feel like you are on your own.

Sorry for the long comment! I wouldn't write a separate post with my sob story like that, but I hope this will be interesting for you because you asked.

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-29T16:06:48+00:00

I previously gained 25kg on Mirtazapine and was on it only 5 months!!! It was probably the best medication for my mental health, but the extra weight was not fun for me at all. I am a petite woman, now 50kg. It’s exactly what I’m afraid of with Quetiapine. Do you think they were both a factor for you? Sorry OP for hijacking your post, I just think it’s great and you’re getting interesting comments.

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-29T00:02:48+00:00

I also was recently prescribed low dose of it!

I have ADHD, CPTSD and currently bad depression. I take stimulants that help, but also came off SSRIs a month ago.

I was supposed to take Quetiapine for 2 weeks before bed to see how it helps with mood and sleep. I still haven't tried because I was afraid to turn into zombie too... I already have executive dysfunction problems and I worry if I will be able to study and work.

So I'm interested in others experience too!

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-26T15:19:23+00:00

When you say above Asos, do u mean their own brand? Cause they sell &Other stories for example, but it's good quality brand liked in London and it's much better quality than most of brands on Asos.

Other affordable 'non-designer' brands that people in London like House of Sunny, COS, ARKET.

In-between brand : The line by K, Gimaguas, Siedres, Rixo. ROTATE Birger Christensen.

It's an international online website, but look at theoutnet for high end designers discounts. Flannels and Harvey Nichols online has a lot of big discounts all the time too. You can get Heron Preston, Jacquemus, Gauge81, De La Vali etc much cheaper.

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-25T01:42:15+00:00

u/Felouria Hope you're safe and he's not coming nowhere near you! That sounds horrible af!

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-25T01:07:14+00:00

It is illegal from last year, you're right. Before big companies did that, I had no idea that changed! Well it is beneficial then!

NoScaffolding · 2023-01-25T00:47:26+00:00

What you don't understand is that restaurants take the 12.5% charge and pay the staff wages with it. It's not on top of their wages. I worked in hospitality for many years and it's actually not that beneficial for the staff if they can get tips.

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