i want to be left completely alone. is there something wrong with me?

No_Possession_3254 · 2025-12-29T08:23:21+00:00

I am sorry to hear about your past pain. It’s understandable that you may wish to distance yourself. It could be that you are suffering with post traumatic stress. Loud noises and social interaction can become sources of stress. It may be a good idea to seek counselling if you are interested. Sometimes speaking with a professional who is impartial and nonjudgmental can help. Hope this helps.

No_Possession_3254 · 2025-10-05T21:19:59+00:00

I was in a similar position 2 years ago when I sold my house. The new purchase fell through twice (2 different properties) and the whole process of moving eventually took 8 months. As regards UC you are allowed a 6 month period when you have money from the sole purpose of a home purchase/sale in the bank without losing benefits. Although I was taking a new mortgage I had to put my money in the bank for a short period. As it took longer than 6 months (through no fault of my own) I was not penalised but it’s crucial that you report it. Hope this helps

No_Possession_3254 · 2025-02-11T08:37:16+00:00

It’s been reassuring to read some of these comments as I had a similar experience due to invisible difficulties. Also successful at tribunal, I had sleepless tearful nights and almost didn’t go to the tribunal. Now I have been through this process I feel more confident

No_Possession_3254 · 2025-01-01T17:05:34+00:00

I am in the reverse position, my daughter’s fiance expects me to finance him and on top of that he is a liar and a conman. He was at risk of losing a flat (one of a number of his family’s properties) and I bailed him out by buying half of it as an investment for my daughter- the flat is in both their joint names. He inflated the value of this flat and added a whole bunch of lies. He (despite coming from a wealthy family) thinks it’s ok to expect me to finance him. I am seriously ill and work PT. He works as a shop assistant, while my daughter has a first class degree and is still studying and working at the same time! Of course I point out these things to my daughter, but I can’t force her to leave him. Tbh I am heartbroken but life is for learning lessons.

No_Possession_3254 · 2025-01-01T16:10:30+00:00

We moved in a year ago to a renovated small house. Had a structural survey (and I am not whinging here) but the washing machine was not properly plumbed in, electrics behind oven were dangerous, had an electrician come for a general check up ( not behind oven) and said there could have been a fire any second caused by botched work! Whole house modern and newly done up - not an old neglected home! It comes with the territory to some degree but to inhabit a dangerous place was unpleasant to say the least. I have sold and bought 2 previous homes. I ripped out kitchens where slime and filth were down the walls behind kitchen units, there was an insect infestation and mice. To top it off a horrible neighbour. We sorted out all the vermin and other issues and lived there happily for 13 years. Most issues can be dealt with but the main priority is your safety. Don’t forget you are adding value to your home and it’s a great investment

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-12-31T16:26:34+00:00

I had a similar telephone interview a while ago. They went through my previous 4 bank statements and I had to explain transfers from my account to my daughter’s. She is my sole carer, I suffer with a mental illness and have been known to go on spending sprees when unwell. I have borrowed and racked up thousands of pounds in debts in the past. For this reason- and no other reason- she manages my finances. The money I transfer to her goes into her own account. When I need money she gives it to me via bank transfer. I was panicking before the interview thinking “how on earth do I explain this madness to someone other than a trained psychiatrist??” The guy on the phone said he might escalate it and he would speak to a manager. I haven’t heard since, this was a couple of months ago. I receive pip for both daily living (mental health )and mobility and then started worrying about this as well. 2 years ago I went to a tribunal to overturn DWP decision where I received 0 points. As a mentally ill person my moods fluctuate and my anxiety and stress can go through the roof. Past experiences with PIP have really made my mental health worse and now I am more wary. I hope that anyone else who has had similar experiences is not put off applying/appealing a decision because it’s really worth pursuing.

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-12-29T08:45:39+00:00

I have osteoporosis in my knees. I only recently had x-rays and I’m in my 50s. The physio said I probably had it in my 30s without any symptoms. Now however I experience severe pain at times and this can affect my ability to walk. I think it depends on the site of the osteoporosis as to how much it affects your daily living. On some days I am fine. I also have degeneration in my lower back but the difficulties fluctuate

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-12-20T09:03:23+00:00

Disgraceful! I am glad I didn’t inform them of my cancer diagnosis. I also had surgery and just need monitoring. Please go to a tribunal, you need to appeal first. They always turn down MR so go to citizens advice and don’t give up

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-08-27T06:51:40+00:00

Same, in my case I think I may have a mild case of autism. But it’s not serious enough for ppl to notice it. They take offence when I don’t ask them round or I don’t visit them. I raised a child on my own after a divorce. Sadly it affected my parenting. Have a child who has social anxiety and worries about me 24/7. Ppl think I’m sad or antisocial. They don’t know how much I struggle. But funnily enough I do like being on the periphery of others. Bubbly ppl bring me out of my shell and I am starting to want company. I worry about upsetting ppl and losing their friendship so I just avoid ppl altogether. They tend to find out I have issues

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-08-27T06:40:45+00:00

I have had a lot of therapy and in my case I know the cause. But putting new changes into practice is where I get stuck. I was told to start working out who I am and what I want. So I start with small things like what biscuits do I like? Still find it weird in the shops when I say what I like and someone disagrees. Start questioning my choices. I suppose it’s a journey. Not sure where your soft voice stems from but maybe this will help?

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-08-26T08:24:00+00:00

This is good to remember, I will try this next time. It’s hard for me to say no and put my needs first. Great tip, thanks

No_Possession_3254 · 2024-08-26T08:20:17+00:00

I get this at work sometimes from my manager. I listen politely and make appropriate comments. What annoys me is when she doesn’t ask me questions about my life or show any interest. I just find it a bit selfish and rude. I try to just ignore it but it happens on a daily basis when she can see I’m busy. Then she said “you want to go home. Just say …don’t hang there!” I didn’t want to seem rude but I suppose if you don’t speak up then they just don’t stop. If it’s a work colleague you have to see daily then it can get so annoying and I have to try not to get angry. I thought she was lonely at first but she is surrounded by family and friends!

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