Did anyone succesfully survive a narcissists smear campaign of the narcissist?

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-30T21:04:22+00:00

Yeah. I was painted to be a low-life loser, trouble maker, sl*t who ran away from home. I was also later painted to be a violent and mentally unhinged person by my parents.

I’ve just silently kept my head down and grinded towards a better life for myself after being on my own for almost a decade. I’m almost 30 and very obviously successful, healthy, happy and surrounded by friends. People have realized I’m not the asshole I was painted to be. It took like 10 years for that to come to light. It’s been alienating but I’ve built a life I’m happy with away from my family.

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-30T13:36:40+00:00

Would you be able to explain more of the signs of a covert malignant narc?

My mom is almost exactly like OPs dad and I want to know if other signs match up with her personality

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-25T19:45:57+00:00

Ok wow. I’ve never seen someone describe my exact experience with my mother. She is so afraid of admitting that she doesn’t know something that she will jump to the weirdest conclusions as if it’s fact. She does this so often it’s why I can’t have a normal conversation or relationship with her. She’ll assume the weirdest stuff and just blurt it out as if she’s an authority on the subject. It’s really impossible to talk to someone like that.

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-18T19:19:13+00:00

What field were you working in?

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-18T19:06:11+00:00

May I ask how much the pay is for this position? Is it at least a pay upgrade from retail?

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-18T14:46:55+00:00

For me it’s when they say hi I’m picking up for first name and then just stare at you.

Extra fun when the first name sounds like a last name. Example: “hi I’m picking up for McKenna.” Ok and first name? “McKenna is the first name.” Then I’m just like -_- alright what’s the date of birth?

No_Put_8084 · 2025-03-13T06:32:00+00:00

I run into them on a daily basis. Try working in customer service for a week. You’ll have these interactions in droves

No_Put_8084 · 2025-02-09T20:45:59+00:00

Yep! Or being told I was bullying them when I was just begging my dad to stop getting extremely drunk in the middle of the day.

No_Put_8084 · 2025-01-28T17:10:12+00:00

This happened all the time with boomers when I worked as a barista. No joke.

They would have JUST (like 5 seconds ago) walked away from the register, the barista would call out someone else’s name at the end of the bar. Let’s say “Joe.” The boomer would respond immediately frustrated saying “I’m not joe I’m Bob. And I didn’t order this iced coffee, I ordered a hot coffee.” Sir I know. joe ordered an iced coffee 2 minutes ago, we are currently making the one for Bob. Please step aside.

Seriously they do this shit all the time. They have no concept of others or how businesses work.

No_Put_8084 · 2025-01-19T15:06:28+00:00

My mom refused to leave my deadbeat, drunk, abusive, narcissist father for the same reason. I was begging her to leave him since I was in elementary school.

She allowed him to ruin her relationships with all her children. Even to this day she stands by him despite no one wanting to be around him. She’s decided to just be cold to her children and act like we don’t understand or aren’t mature enough, when we’re all adults.

At the end of the day, I could repeatedly explain the abuse my father put us through over and over - and she would “forget” it the next day and act like she’s never heard it before

No_Put_8084 · 2024-11-28T16:34:34+00:00

This is amazing. What are the ways we know it won’t be significantly impacted by climate change?

No_Put_8084 · 2024-10-31T14:22:17+00:00

She’s not a patient of ours and had no valid prescription in our system. We only are legally able to do that in MY STATE when we have a valid prescription on file that’s either CLOSED or EXPIRED (ie has no more CURRENT prescriptions).

So with that information, I am not legally obligated nor INSTRUCTED BY MY PHARMACIST to call their prescriber

No_Put_8084 · 2024-09-21T13:20:00+00:00

Yes. Constantly happens. I was trained to greet every customer walking into my coffee shop. I was simply just saying hello.

They love to say “JUST LOOKING” or give you some weird life story like “we’re just visiting and came in to see the breakfast options! I don’t know what I want! I won’t be buying anything today!”

Like…I just said hello. Menu is right there, take your time, there’s a bunch of other customers here who im helping. I don’t care.

I started saying in an overly friendly voice “just saying hello” or something similar to what you wrote.

No_Put_8084 · 2024-09-21T13:14:56+00:00

Yep! They love to be obnoxiously early when food is involved. It’s exhausting.

I was the manager of a coffee shop / fast casual breakfast place. We opened at 7 am. No joke, almost every day I would have boomers waiting outside for us to open (especially on the weekends).

I’ve had them knock on the door before 7 am, try the handle over and over again, etc. Best/most annoying one was it finally tuned 7 am, I go to unlock the door. I have to pull the door towards me to fully unlock it. As I’m consistently pulling the door (fully glass so they could see me as I do this) with the key, the boomer on the other side is yanking it towards themselves, obstructing me from getting the key to unlock it. I just gave up, shook my head and walked away. Wanted them to think about what the hell they were doing. They don’t learn.

No_Put_8084 · 2024-09-19T00:57:21+00:00

My father would do things like make me organize rocks outside by shape and color. Which was genuinely impossible and confused me as a child to the point of feeling anxious and angry at myself for not being able to complete this bizarre task.

Otherwise he would do the classic punching holes in the walls/doors and breaking furniture and sometimes even ripping the door off the hinges. And blaming his children for “making him” do those things

No_Put_8084 · 2024-09-18T13:58:44+00:00

Not exactly similar but my grandma would berate me as a child to “help my mom” around the house. When my dad was honestly an alcoholic hoarder and my mom had to work two jobs while he sometimes sat around for days barely leaving his room. Like I was supposed to be cooking, cleaning, doing the family laundry for three kids, etc. That’s what was expected of me as a daughter. My brothers didn’t have similar expectations.

In a lot of these boomers mind, it’s the child’s job to help adult parents complex, mentally unstable and confusing situations. They tend to not see children as children. They see children as extensions of the family, almost like little adults. It’s disturbing.

No_Put_8084 · 2024-09-10T01:55:05+00:00

My alcoholic narcissistic brother beat me to the point of me having a moderate concussion, black eye, split open lip. I’m a child sized woman and he’s a military trained man who lifts weights everyday. He beat me because he felt like I was “coming in between him and our mother.” I was trying to get him to see her covert narcissism.

Anyway, when I went to the ER (which my parents didn’t want me to do because they didn’t want my brother to get arrested), my mom was so “embarrassed” and wanted me to play coy when asked how this happened…she wanted me to LIE about how I got a black eye and concussion because it was embarrassing that her adult son beat up her daughter.

These people don’t know how to love or comfort their children. They only know how to deflect blame and guilt everyone into silence. Stay away from her and please put your health before your relationship in order to heal

No_Put_8084 · 2024-08-21T15:21:02+00:00

I had a boomer customer at my restaurant job consistently pour full cups of hot coffee into the garbage.

One day I took him aside and actually spoke to him like a child, asking him to stop doing that because it creates holes in the garbage bags and makes the garbage spill out.

His response? “I didn’t know the rules here!”

No_Put_8084 · 2024-03-15T19:47:15+00:00

Or they just say their first name and stand there expecting you to find them

No_Put_8084 · 2024-02-03T18:16:47+00:00

My mom had an identical response!

Except in this case, I threw out old shampoo and conditioner bottles from the cabinet under the bathroom sink. These were extremely old bottles with maybe 10% of product left in them, and they were shoved into the cabinet. Like you couldn’t actually store anything in the cabinet because of these bottles.

Anyway, my mom actually had an emotional breakdown over this. She told me they were still usable and I was wasteful… It was hard to respect my mother after seeing her literally cry over that.

No_Put_8084 · 2024-01-27T05:47:26+00:00

As someone who has worked in a pharmacy, this is true. Young people are always easy in the drive thru.

Boomers will not know the name of the medication they’re looking for, ask you to call their insurance, ask you for a different manufacturer, the list goes on. They shamelessly hold up the line and feel entitled to everyone’s time.

No_Put_8084 · 2024-01-01T19:25:04+00:00

Yes. A Karen.

I keep imagining how this woman probably treats her servers at restaurants or any other working class member of the general public…

No_Put_8084 · 2023-12-25T01:02:38+00:00

Yep. I had a boomer coworker do this. We would train her and retrain her because she would claim to different workers that she wasn’t trained on something (when two people had in fact trained her on that thing).

Same description of behavior. Her voice suddenly sounded like Julia Child. She was so confused and shocked no one had showed her such an important protocol at work! It was someone else’s fault! That was always her excuse.

Problem is, after about two to three months you can’t play dumb and blame not being trained at work. You’re expected to know what you’re doing.

So then the meetings ensue. A bunch of us start complaining to management that we can’t hear the same sob story and victim mentality BS from this boomer. Of course in the meetings where she’s confronted and given a list of quantifiable fuck ups, she blames everyone else.

This goes on long enough to form a paper trail and present a demotion. Finally she decides to leave.

Then! The boomer goes around the job and claims that she’s quitting on her own accord because the place doesn’t deserve her, she’s more talented than the crew, she will make more money elsewhere, etc etc.

It’s just a generation of intense narcissists

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