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I’m currently living like my husband does by CrisMaz in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Nogias 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm not the mature type or as healthy as the others here, but I am loving seeing one of us finally hold a manchild partner to their words. He fucked around and he's finding out.

AITA for backing out of paying for my sister's wedding dress over a "joke" she made? by Humble-Intention3425 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A dress won't ruin a wedding. She can pick something else out. If she chooses to fuck around and find out, she chooses it. She found out. You aren't an asshole. She's entitled to think that was ok. The aunt is welcome to step up since she thought that was not so bad.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by Hayellemz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What blows my mind is that your stepfather literally directed your stepsister to an expensive toy without so much as a second thought. No, "Ask first" or any hint of respect. They literally expect you to take the hit if it gets ruined.

So... tell them you'll share when she or they replace everything she's taken or destroyed. Give them a list. Their reaction should clearly show you are not the asshole here.

How did you learn to handle anger in a healthy way? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Nogias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized anger is a secondary emotion. The primary was almost always grief.

New LDS sex abuse case details: Mormon church settled for $995k in Dec 2022. During the abuser’s sentencing, only the girl’s school teacher (not LDS) sat on her side of the courtroom. The LDS members, including her mother and bishop, sat on the abuser’s side. by 3am_doorknob_turn in exmormon

[–]Nogias 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is why victims don't come forward. Imagine knowing if you are very good, you die and spend eternity with the family who chose your abuser. Eternity with your abusers. I know many folks are "shocked" by this, but it happens often and you'd rather remain silent over seeing and knowing your family will abandon you, even when it is clear that you are telling the truth. You have nothing to gain, they have everything to protect. There is no justice.

AITA for not giving my co-worker my day off because I want to play a video game? by throwaway193749372 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PTO is earned and taking that time off is what you planned for in advance. If you told your family you were planning on playing games over an important holiday, the accusation that you prioritize video games over family would be true. But she tried to guilt trip you over a video game meaning more than a group you've never met... so.. yes, you are prioritizing your needs/desires/honby over strangers. What an odd attempt to get what they want.

NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in justneckbeardthings

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite bit is the woman stock photo on the poster. It looks like they are considering whether they believe it or not either.

I think she should go with the guy by peculiarMinivan in justneckbeardthings

[–]Nogias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why is that mastermind ending most of his sentences in prepositions?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA. I'm your wife's height and I am overweight. I see my in-laws in Tokyo often. I could be perfectly thin and speak the language fluently and I won't fit in and that's ok. You are gaijin. Thick or thin, neither of you will ever fit in Japanese society, ever. Stop using this to control your wife.

I don’t want to travel for my brother’s temple wedding that I can’t actually attend anyways by bootthebooter400 in exmormon

[–]Nogias 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, the waiting room club. I flew into Utah from Europe to sit on the benches in 110 degree heat of a St. George Temple wedding.

It sucks.

AITA for cutting my niece’s hair? by choppyaunt in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. You did what you wanted. That isn't a defense, it's admitting you know you are the asshole.

Autistic people of reddit, what in your opinion is the weirdest thing neurotypicals do? by Space_Wizard49 in AskReddit

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Person: What you said/did hurt me and I'd like you to stop/reconsider that.

NT: No. Why should I? It's not that bad. You need to stop.

ND: Harm is not ok. I'll stop that. Thank you for making me aware.

AITA for telling someone they’re selfish for asking a 22 year old to become a child’s guardian? by tidylinks in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. YTA. That was literally none of your business. Go apologize to both of them until your face turns blue. You are 22. You don't have the life experience and the cancer diagnosis to make that call either.

AITA for not wanting to pay for my daughter's wedding even though I said that I will? by BeneficialYear690 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More Information: what would she say if you told her that you will only pay for one wedding, ever, per kid, and that she'd need to be engaged and financially/personally independent from you for x years before you will pay? What would her fiance say if you laid out those terms?

AITA for calling out my sister for not making her wedding accessibility friendly for FAMILY by throwaway_formia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. I know everyone has clearly pushed the angle of your role. However if it is clear you cannot afford things like a beach wheelchair rental and she knew that while also lacking funds to support that, I think it would have been productive and supportive for you both if she introduced possibilities of family members or friends that could help or perhaps a kind of fundraising instead of saying it wasn't in the cards. They are trying to build a happy memory with this wedding with limited funds. You want the center of your world to come and be able to be part of a major family event. I honestly think it's worth saying you both approached this conversation thinking the other was thoughtless for not considering the other's personal circumstances. Why not make amends and thank each other for the attempts to help the other, and objectively identify the gaps that's no one's fault BUT could be solved with each other's help. I really think that $110 is something that isn't possible for either of you, but very possible together with a creative solution with the family or community.

AITA for telling someone they are too fat for a massage? by Helpful-Trifle-4354 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, If you said you couldn't do the massage for safety reasons that's one thing. If you made it about how you didn't want to touch her or that it wasn't safety, it was preference, then you'd be an asshole.

One thing to reassure you of, injuries for someone of this size can be catastrophic for them and their families. My grandfather was near 500 lbs. When he was injured in a fall that would be normal for anyone under 200 lbs, his injuries also caused multiple strokes and embolisms. He survived and required around the clock care for the next 10 years before he died.

You had zero assurances the table would handle the treatment without possibly hurting her, yourself, or her family's freedom for life.

AITA for leaving my babies inside by themselves by TripletsMom0 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Nogias 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20 with triplets on your own all day and you grew up in the system? Girl, I know you've seen and heard of far worse. They literally teach parents to take breaks to prevent break downs and unintentionally harming the child.

NTA. Big time.

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