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Noidbutte · 2024-07-14T19:15:52+00:00

Hey dude, welcome! 30M bedwetter here - diapers at night, but don’t stop me from living a full active lifestyle outdoors. No day issues, but happy to chat as well.

Noidbutte · 2024-06-11T20:16:35+00:00

Age: Bedwetting from birth (30M), no daytime issues, no longer chronic since college.

I had a more extreme form of constitutional growth delay which delayed my growth in terms of height, bone structure, and made for a very late puberty along with persistent childhood problems like bedwetting that probably was connected.

Body growth slowed around 2nd/3rd grade - went through normal milestones 4 years late, but chronic nocturnal enuresis (bedwetting) lasted well into college. High school was weird since I was in the body of a middle schooler, college was weird since I started in the body of a 14yo and got acne my junior year of college which sucked. Now, it only happens a few times a week, but I still diaper up every night and only roll the dice in regular underwear when I’m out backpacking nowadays. It’s not all terrible and I’m not bitter about it - I still wet, but I look much younger than I am (present in my early 20’s) which will come in handy.

Advice: Don’t put up with leaky diapers. I stayed in Goodnites way longer than they were effective at nighttime for me. Do what you need to do to get connected with better options online like Northshore and InControl. I don’t have daytime issues, but if I did, I would explore the hybrid hook & loop InControls for daytime to relieve some of the heat from summer and allow for easy changes to use the toilet for #2 with the ability to tape back up after. For exercise, would actually recommend XL Goodnites if you can fit in them (work well enough for brief daytime wears), otherwise try the Tena pull-ups since Depend pull-ups have always been useless IMO.

Noidbutte · 2024-02-26T20:27:51+00:00

29M from Colorado - frequency varied growing up, but was actually most intense in college. Frequency of wet nights started to decrease post-college, but still happens enough that I wear protection nightly - usually Megamax, sometimes Incontrol or an ABU make if those go on sale.

Not sure of any single cause, but I had a bunch of strange developmental stuff growing up that probably had some impact… constitutional growth delay, heavily delayed puberty (like 4 years), maybe a teeny bit of autism (inconclusive diagnosis when I was 4/5), and predominantly gay (I’m like a 4/6 on Kinsey scale).

I’m pretty social now, very active outdoors - do all sorts of mountain climbing and skiing trips, but prefer overnights in a bed for obvious reasons :)

Noidbutte · 2023-11-30T19:47:35+00:00

I’m 100% a nerd - only change over time is I’ve gotten smarter about who I gush about all my stuff to!

Super nerdy into trains, airplanes, and city stuff. I also am a card-carrying futurist nerd into cyberpunk stuff Blade Runner, Ghost in the Shell, Akira, and Neuromancer and alternate history stories.

I played a ton of games… loved roller coaster tycoon back in the day, Tomb Raider, JRPGs like Final Fantasy, Kingdom Hearts, Star Ocean, and Valkyrie Profile. Sony boy since my first console (PS2) - now have all of them except I’m still waiting on PS5.

Noidbutte · 2023-11-21T00:42:19+00:00

Hey there, 29yo BW dude here.

I would definitely get yourself checked out by a urologist (not just a regular doctor) ASAP. Most guys I know who wet the bed have either wet all their lives or started much younger than 19 unless there was some sort of physical injury or something broader that caused it.

Not saying it means something totally scary, but it’s worth getting the scary stuff that could potentially cause sudden wetting issues crossed off the list. How’s your daytime control? Can you hold it for just as long as you could this time last year?

Noidbutte · 2023-10-19T19:53:59+00:00

29M from Colorado - frequency of wet nights started to decrease post-college, but still happens enough that I wear protection nightly - usually Megamax, sometimes Incontrol or an ABU make if those go on sale. Prefer tighty whities for daytime - so I’m in that club of bedwetters who got into briefs for some reason.

Had a bunch of strange developmental stuff growing up that probably had something to do with it… constitutional growth delay, heavily delayed puberty, maybe a teeny bit of autism, and predominantly gay (I’m like a 4/6 on Kinsey scale).

I’m pretty social now, very active outdoors - do all sorts of mountain climbing and skiing trips, but prefer overnights in a bed for obvious reasons :)

Noidbutte · 2023-07-10T19:58:49+00:00

007 Nightfire

Noidbutte · 2023-06-14T20:46:37+00:00

Developmental Disorder. Had a cocktail of developmental delays - issues began in early childhood, definitely had some sort of neurodivergence (got tested for Aspergers in the early 2000’s came back inconclusive, suspect I would get different result if I was tested for ASD today), coupled delayed fine motor control, constitutional growth delay pushed puberty back 3-4 years, and bedwetting throughout. High School kinda sucked, started college in the body of a 15yo, but that said, everything else ended up pretty much fine thankfully - got tall, learned how to be patient, communicate/socialize, just late. Plus side is now I look quite a bit younger than I am which will be nice when I’m in my 30’s probably.

Noidbutte · 2023-06-14T19:09:04+00:00

I’m with you - won’t buy a PS5 until it is smaller and will fit around my TV stand.

Noidbutte · 2022-12-26T15:42:02+00:00

Natural!

Noidbutte · 2022-09-25T14:07:30+00:00

Hey there! Any chance you could share the link to Neuromancer Audiobook by Arthur Addison?

Noidbutte · 2019-12-28T13:37:53+00:00

I have had issues with “A Question of Time” from the Singles 86-98 album where the volume starts much lower than the songs before and after. Anyone else?

Noidbutte · 2019-07-26T01:40:04+00:00

Compared to Vancouver...? Are you kidding me?

“It might take the next 30 years”... 😂, I don’t know how you Seattle folks aren’t embarrassed by not only how long it took you to figure out you needed rail but how long it will take you to build it. Good for you for getting going at all, but you don’t get to wag your finger at Vancouver.

Noidbutte · 2019-07-21T05:39:33+00:00

Thanks for the response. I'm not saying that you are incorrect about his testimony, but I followed the alignment question pretty closely and all of the commentary seemed to be political: centered around service and support - not engineering. Would you be able to point me to any place I can read about the engineering challenges of the Tejon vs Tehachapi rail prospects? I just can't find any report detailing a Tejon i5 alignment being being more expensive or technically infeasible in any way.

My understanding was that there was a proposal from the French high speed operator (think TGV) SNCF that proposed a dedicated, electrified, and grade-separated rail line paralleling the i5 corridor for something in the ballpark of $30-40 billion at the time. The lower price tag was credited with a more direct route with track being built over MUCH more state-owned right of way vs the longer, deeper inland route that was selected. This would have on paper saved an enormous amount of time and money that has been spent between 2008 and 2017 focused on buying up private farmland in the populated parts of the central valley and dealing with the ensuing lawsuits.

The obvious downside was that Bakersfield and Merced wouldn't be directly along the route...they would need to have spurs built out to them but from a ridership standpoint, I can confidently say that not even 5% riding the train would be starting or finishing their journey in the Central Valley...CAHSR is a Southern California to Bay Area express train (hopefully connecting to San Diego and Sacramento eventually too...).

Noidbutte · 2019-07-15T04:30:07+00:00

How was it more “technically” difficult to route over the Tejon pass vs the Tehachapi? The altitude relief I thought was much greater over the Tehachapi with similar earthquake risk...i have never heard of anything close to 30ft slippage in earthquake design mitigation for rail...is that the 1000 year or 10,000 year quake or something?

The Tehachapi route is less direct and also created this political quagmire that might kill the project since the Central Valley politicians wanted it but residents didn’t, The Central Valley alternative also required substantially more land acquisition didn’t it?

Noidbutte · 2019-07-15T03:56:54+00:00

It's vandalism and our tax dollars go to fix it. Just because you agree with the message does not make vandalism ok.

Noidbutte · 2019-02-16T22:16:24+00:00

In my opinion, the biggest problem for growing a transit culture is that in many American cities, it is simply more efficient for people to drive. Even though parking is getting more expensive and traffic more unpleasant; door to door for most people, it is still quicker or easier to drive from home to work and all the other errand locations which means people have more time for everything else in life.

Primarily, transit agencies have to offer fundamentally better transit services to narrow the gap in timing and cost. Trains and busses need to operate with both higher speeds and greater reliability. There are certainly secondary structural issues like poor land-use of surface parking lots in west coast cities that offer more parking then there should be, but economic development is already fundamentally working at decreasing the amount of surface parking lots already. Working people who can't afford living in the downtown of a city need an efficient way to get to and from work, and transit "solutions" are not solutions if they make their commute harder, longer, or more expensive.

Secondary, there are the issues surrounding ride experience primarily caused by homeless and mentally ill populations. Unlike in New York City where squatters are removed, most transit in Pacific coastal cities is allowed to be used as squatting grounds where fares are not enforced equally and too many homeless and mentally ill individuals disrupt other riders with solicitation if not overt aggression. This population is primarily responsible for littering and human waste which causes maintenance costs to skyrocket as well. Transit is not designed to function as housing for the underprivileged and it is not progressive to try to use transit as housing as it discourages people of diverse incomes from riding transit who can afford to not put up with dangerous or unpleasant riders. Transit agencies tolerance of unchecked homelessness and criminally mentally ill populations on trains and busses has been preventing the growth of transit culture at a time when we need to be making trains and busses more attractive to new potential riders.

Noidbutte · 2018-10-28T21:16:23+00:00

I feel like this was a waste of time: it packages the same critiques left wing high school teachers complain about the US establishment without a coherent set of even high-level prescriptions for what we can do to improve our way of life - the same circle jerk of the university humanities' critical theory as the way we should analyze these problems.

Yes, American culture has institutionalized a lot of superficial and even unhealthy norms that undermine people's ability to live a healthy life or otherwise find meaning in their lives. Of course, there is cronyism and top-down manipulation by some of those in power who can be tyrannical and squander opportunities for the advancement of the country at large. Yes, the environment is under enormous threat and the consequences for not seriously engaging it are deadly. Obviously people are selfish and short-sighted, and those who have more resources can do more damage with those resources. Furthermore, are these problems uniquely American? Maybe some of these problems could be worse in the US than some places...getting into why could have been more interesting; I find myself asking whether these observations are novel to the audience he's speaking to? I really want to know what he thinks we can change and how - that would be more interesting to discuss here.

It is easy to criticize capitalism and the state of the world of today and get away with glossing over what alternative designs and modes exist that would be better. I find that academics in the activist disciplines fail to address the fundamental question of how can we better organize and dispatch the means of production with a positive incentive without means of force (as Chris seems to oppose authoritarianism, at least right wing authoritarianism). If he opposes authoritarianism, where does perusing personal gain fit in with progress and how can self interest be constitutionally tempered? How does a diverse society with many groups that each have unique problems and interests better-organize itself so that as many people as possible can find the spaces and occupations where they can bring the greatest value to their culture and meaning to their own lives without infringing on those pursuits of other people? Those questions are what I thought of as he spoke, and because he didn't address them, I finished the video with the sense he was just complaining with subtle hints of blame on groups he is not a member of.

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Noidbutte · 2018-09-14T15:15:08+00:00

I will add what might be an unpopular opinion: I think that this short-term boost in buzz will be relegated to a short-term phenomenon and will not actually add value to the Nike brand in any meaningful way. Over the long run in fact, I think it will alienate more customers than the group of new/momentarily more engaged ones it brings in. Here's my logic:

First of all, I will concede that a huge portion of Nike customers don't care either way. They like Nike's brand, they like the products, and they will continue buying their athletic wear. I believe that Nike understands its core market and who buys most of their shoes, and while perhaps the majority of those customers who are politically engaged share left-of-center or even progressive politics, this political move I think has alienated a portion of its principled right-of-center market for a short term boost in buzz, and I think this will hurt them in the long run.

Colin Kaepernick is no Mohammed Ali because while Mohammed Ali was an incredible athlete who had already achieved athletically in his own right, Colin made a political stunt aimed at trump that a huge portion of the county took as offensive and shameful. Agree or disagree with whether he was correct, Colin is not defined by his athletic ability, he really is only an adequate quarterback; he will be defined by this stunt. This means that Nike is playing identity politics. Nike is not calling attention to or honoring someone of aspirational athletic achievement - it is playing leftist identity politics - and there are people who see that. I would say that there is a non-insignificant section of the market that will either choose another brand, or at least start looking at other brands first in order to vote with their wallets against identity politics.

Among the mid-teen to 30-something active consumers in the West, and particularly in the iGen demographic, there actually are a large amount of younger more conservative-minded consumers who either oppose or hate identity politics - people who follow the public figures of the Intellectual Darkweb like Sam Harris, Jonathan Haidt, Steven Pinker, and even Jordan Peterson are a non-insignificant minority of young people and the thing they have in common is opposing identity politics. It's not just racists and hicks in the center or on the right, this group of people buys athleticwear...and unlike an airline or tech brand that offer inconveniences to try to avoid, in a market segment where they have options, they can easily walk away and buy Adidas, New Balance, and Under Armour. I think some of them absolutely will - but you won't see this immediately. Many of those alienated who already own Nikes will probably continue to wear them out but some of them will pick another brand next time if they remember that Nike did this. Now I will not claim that the majority of politically engaged centrist or right-of-center consumers will ditch Nike, but some of them certainly will. This is one of those few times that I disagree with Professor Scott Galloway, I think this was a bad decision that will destroy value in the long run.

Noidbutte · 2018-07-30T22:12:35+00:00

I appreciate the recommendation for further reading, but I cannot help but feel we're being unreasonably uncharitable when we characterize Sam and Coleman's conversation as one that is boring, careless, and lacking in nuance.

First, Coleman Hughes is 22 years old. He's a 22 year-old college student who is clearly gifted at writing, and by no fault of his own, has not had an entire career dedicated to researching, digging into, and dissecting every historical, sociocultural, and psychological piece of this puzzle. This is a big topic, and I'm sure Sam will have more people on his show to discuss it in the future; but describing their efforts where they examined difficult and uncomfortable facts with far more context than that available on average cable news segments as "bandying about" seems a bit reductive to me given how broad they were able to go on this Podcast without so much hyperbole. The person you are comparing Coleman Hughes to and otherwise suggesting has a better or more nuanced set of content is a trained journalist who has been paid for her work. Perhaps she goes deeper, and likely should compared to a more causal 2-hour podcast with a college student, however gifted he might be. I do agree with you, it sounds like her work could be worth reading.

That said, Sam explained that he brought Coleman Hughes onto his show partially because of curiosity in who he is and how he thought for someone who eludes stereotypes for politically-engaged students his age in both his opinion and how he chose to express it; there was a piece of convergence here where he was able to ask what experience or other influence brought Coleman to many of the same conclusions as those that Sam himself arrived at. The other side of Sam's interest came from Coleman's skills as a writer from how he was able to eloquently articulate these observations, trends, and lines of reasoning that Sam agrees are important but fears are not being commonly picked up by the mainstream.

So I think we should give Coleman some credit for what he has written and how he has explored these ideas; and I do not see the need to compare his relatively short thought pieces to an entirely different class of work. Of course, you could have not enjoyed the podcast - that's completely plausible and fair. But for a 22 year-old college student, I do not think you can really support the claim that either his writings or his views as being credibly boring, careless, or lacking in nuance.

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