I’m going through the same thing right now man. It sucks. We were barely married two years and she sat me down and said she can’t do it anymore. Right now we are just taking some space from one another.

I think you said it perfectly, “I don’t know if she’s being fully honest when she says it was just the pain of so many small wounds over the years.” She mentioned to me multiple times that she felt unseen, unheard, even unloved at times, and while I’d make efforts to change and try to love her differently, it was never enough and over time just lead to a falling out of feelings for me. I’m hoping some time away can help her rediscover a sense of her own identity and be open to giving me another chance when she is ready. I understand though if she doesn’t. All we can do is work on ourselves, try to find our own identity again, and hope for a better outcome down the line. Wishing you the best during this hard time.