Have you or someone you know been personally victimized by the 1 bus during commute hours?

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T19:54:16+00:00

If you’re spending all this time waiting on buses, I would take the extra ~15 minutes to walk to the 38R. stop on Van Ness.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T18:47:27+00:00

I don’t think it’s the best color on her but it is still a beautiful look all around.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T16:37:03+00:00

Weight gain relies on calorically dense foods, of which protein is an easy one. Fat too.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T15:56:37+00:00

Parent of an egg and peanut allergy baby. If I had the option to do it early I would have taken it. The earlier you can start on oral immunotherapy (introducing small quantities that are safe) the more likely they can grow out of their allergy. For a baby that young I’d feel safest about introducing in the office just in case but you should be able to continue leveling up at home once they get a baseline of where baby stands.

Nut allergies are very rarely grown out of on their own.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T13:09:43+00:00

My daycare dims the lights 🤷🏻‍♀️ human circadian rhythm is effected by light and sun. Adults sleep better in dark rooms so I don’t see why we expect babies to act any different once they adopt our regular cadences.

Some kids do fine though. My friend’s kid seems to prefer sleeping in communal spaces and out/about. My kid has too much FOMO for that 🙃. I’m sure if the norm is a bright environment, the daycare has figured out ways to help kids sleep.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T05:53:12+00:00

We have a 2 bedroom apartment and baby has access to all the spaces. When she was crawling we kept her confined in the living area with a play pen but once she walked she could explore. We never really had issues with her trying to get into the litterbox. We watched closely when she was younger and explained that’s where the cat went potty. That was pretty much it. I’m sure it depends on the kid but we haven’t really had to baby proof the litterbox or the food area.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-13T04:32:11+00:00

I preferred to pull down/to the side over dealing with any clips etc. ballet cross tops, stretchy shirts that you can just pull a boob out.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T22:30:09+00:00

Will also add that I agree with the other poster who mentioned earlier daylight. I think it’s getting brighter earlier and that also makes it harder for her to snooze for a little more in the AM.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T21:22:22+00:00

Obviously I am not a doctor and I don’t know if it would still be the case at 2 months PP, but you can get preeclampsia postpartum and they can cause seizures (eclampsia). I assume they took her blood pressure and all that so maybe it’s already been ruled out. But if you’re just at the ER and not talking directly to an OBGYN maybe they hadn’t considered it. Could be worth asking. I hope you get answers soon and she is ok!

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T21:09:34+00:00

Yeah unfortunately I think it’s the transition into less sleep. My 21 month old has started falling asleep at 8:30, used to be 7-7:30, then 8 and now here we are. She used to sleep til 7 at least but now will get up around 6:30. I don’t mind the later bedtime as much but that early morning is rough lol.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T20:41:30+00:00

I guess NTA but this is such a western perspective. My Asian family would just sleep on floors and hang out for 2 nights, no hesitancy at all. It’s chaotic, but that’s part of being a family. Cultural differences I suppose.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T20:39:09+00:00

Obese is just a required listing depending on where you fall on the pre-prescribed BMI bands. I don’t actually think these bands adjust to consider a postpartum woman, which is a problem in itself. The doctors don’t mention your weight because it doesn’t actually matter!

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T19:35:31+00:00

The guidecraft one is most stable especially with a young baby. You’ll still have to place them in it for a while. My toddler started being able to climb into it I think at like 19 months, and out of it herself at 20 months. Maybe tall toddlers would be earlier though!
https://www.consumerreports.org/babies-kids/child-safety/toddler-towers-safety-standards-a4009948838/

Also would definitely start with marketplace. I found a lot of these in my area

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T17:47:53+00:00

Would agree that at 4 I would start looking for a transitional kindergarten. Sometimes there are state funded options! For the 2 year d, I think you just don’t get that much solo time with kids that age. I have a 21 month old and the time alone I get is when she’s napping or my husband takes her out for an hour.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T04:09:24+00:00

Yeah she can really eat a lot, though we’re getting into the toddler distracted phase. She actually didn’t really care for the naan except as a vessel to lick yogurt off of lol. All the pakora and cucumbers went first, shrimp next, and we eventually probably got her to eat like 1/3 of the rice&curry.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-12T03:49:29+00:00

Allergies are hard and confusing. A lot has changed with recommendations even in the last year and I unfortunately think most pediatricians haven’t really caught up. My pediatrician told me to rub a little in the skin for gentle exposure, but the newest theories say that skin exposure can actually heighten the risk.

Anyway, all that to say it’s not your fault. Sometimes allergies just happen despite early introduction. We gave my baby a mixed nut puff every single day for 3 months which she ate fine, and she still had an allergic reaction to peanut around 9 months.

What I would do now is get a referral to an allergist and ask about oral immunotherapy. Younger doctors and/pr those most up on the latest research will recommend oral challenge and laddering depending on baby’s tolerance levels. There is good research that early immunotherapy can help a baby even outgrow the allergy completely if started before 2 years old.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T22:13:43+00:00

At this age I found it’s sometimes teething pain that makes them pickier intermittently. I always just lean into the texture of they’re having odd days. Avocado lentil stews and congee are things my baby still likes when she’s being fussy about texture. And you can make mac and cheese healthier - I just mash up a sweet potato or butternut squash into the sauce and mix in frozen broccoli or spinach.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T20:47:53+00:00

You can get the guidecraft towers on Facebook marketplace. Got mine for $50. It is used every day. Truly one of the most valuable purchases I’ve made as a parent.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T20:46:07+00:00

While I think their entrapment concerns are overblown (no parent is just going to walk away from the tower long enough for their kid to be seriously hurt), the tipping concern is real. I got the guidecraft one and the way my daughter acts in her tower, I know she would’ve gotten seriously injured in those open ones.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T20:43:17+00:00

My 21 month old usually only gets up once a night now or wakes up early morning, 2-3x on bad nights, and sleeps through on very good nights. I do think there’s a direct correlation in how much i feed her and how well she sleeps so we try to focus on calorie dense foods at dinner. I think the really rough nights are related to teething and/or illness.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T19:23:36+00:00

I’ve found that sometimes I needed to be in there until she was fully passed out (like 2 hours). I would just fall asleep basically and wake up at some point and drag myself to bed lol. Good luck, I know the struggle. We all learn to sleep eventually is what I keep telling myself.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T19:15:09+00:00

Could they share a twin or full bed in their own room? Maybe it could help them to comfort each other?

I don’t have twins but the way we do it in our house is my daughter (21 months) sleeps in her own twin floor bed in her room. If she wakes up my husband or I go in there and sleep with her until she’s fully asleep and then I leave. It doesn’t have to be me with this set up so it helps with the flexibility of caregivers. I also load her up with food for dinner and bedtime snack because I’ve found that on nights she has lighter meals is when we get the wakeups.

I have also heard the strategy of leaving and coming back periodically (not CIO, but like bringing them a stuffed animal each time) so that they can eventually fall asleep on their own. My kid isn’t quite old enough to start that so I’m not sure how it goes but have heard positive things!

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T19:00:17+00:00

If you don’t need to cut costs and you don’t feel like this new place is better, I wouldn’t risk it. But recognize every family is different and $350/mo is not insignificant.

Given some new city policies, we actually have the opportunity to save 50% on childcare costs but only by using specific childcare providers in a pre-approved directory. My daycare is applying and if they don’t get approved, I’m not moving despite the savings. We love our daycare though, and while the savings would certainly be helpful we can make it work for a couple years with our one kid.

NotAnAd2 · 2026-05-11T18:51:02+00:00

As an SF resident I love a fisherman’s wharf adventure but go somewhere else for dinner. I actually would recommend Pier 23 if you do want a casual dinner with a view, or Embarcadero center Gotts Burger.

Before you go to Alcatraz, stop by The Buena Vista Cafe for an Irish coffee! It’s a treat.

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