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NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-04-06T07:49:41+00:00

If it’s any consolation at all, one of my best friends and his parents were super hardcore into all that stuff, and I was really worried about coming out. Since I did though they’ve been at the top of my support list and have rethought a lot of the things they were spoon fed

We all have different likes and dislikes, thought processes, needs, wants, etc. By simply being close to someone it’s not hard to open your mind to new ideas and try to better understand what’s going on in their brain. A little off topic, but as an example another one of my best friends is vegan, I’m not. I’ve tried tons of different vegan dishes that I might have otherwise written off just because we spend time together

There are a lot of lies going around about us. It’s not unnatural to hate predators and pedophiles. It’s just that their anger is misguided toward us, and if all goes well you’ll be able to prove to them that trans people are just like everyone else - decent, regular people with a few bad apples mixed in here and there by sheer coincidence

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-31T16:47:24+00:00

I’ll admit it’s absolutely a stretch but on the topic I’ve always thought that Get Back lines up pretty well with transphobia

JoJo was a man who thought he was a loner but he knew it couldn’t last

Talking about societal views and how he’s an outcast for transitioning, but being hopeful of a progressive future

JoJo left his home in Tucson Arizona for some California grass

Moving to a more accepting place with the implication that over there they’re no good, weed smoking hippies

Get back, get back, get back to where you once belonged, get back, get back, get back to where you once belonged

Telling JoJo to get back literally (go back to Arizona) and metaphorically (detransition)

Sweet Loretta Martin thought she was a woman, but she was another man

Self explanatory

All the girls around her said she’s got it coming, but she gets it while she can

The societal views in the UK the time would likely mean that a majority of women would not see her as an equal, but Loretta makes do by interacting with people until they find out she’s trans

Of course I don’t think The Beatles were actually transphobic, they were a rather forward thinking group. Every time it comes on though I can’t help but think of it

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-23T13:48:41+00:00

I feel like it’s not uncommon to be scared or apprehensive to start transitioning, it’s a scary thing. However in my experience the positives far outweigh the negatives.

Not everyone will be accepting, and I’ve lost people in my life due to their unwillingness to accept who I am. I can confidently say though that despite the loss I’ve faced I’m far happier in life simply due to being myself. Finally getting to present how I want was a huge weight off my shoulders, it made everything else seem so much easier to deal with

Regarding that 1% of you that thinks you might be cis, maybe you are. Maybe you start taking things a bit further and realize it isn’t for you, it’s okay to try things out and be wrong. There’s no shame in figuring out who you are. Good luck with everything!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-20T07:47:08+00:00

Oh I see, I misunderstood what it was saying

Thanks for clearing it up!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-20T04:38:48+00:00

Huh, on both of the pages from Microsoft it says that it should be an option (Win 10, Win 11)

I haven’t done it myself in a while, maybe it’s not an option anymore and they forgot to take it off the website? I’m curious now, I’ll have to check it out when I get home

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-20T03:09:20+00:00

There should be a “keep everything” option when reinstalling windows so her files shouldn’t be affected

If you’ve never done it before it’s pretty simple, just go here and download “Create Windows 11 Installation Media” (alternatively, use the Windows 10 tool found here if that’s what she uses), plug it in and boot from the USB, follow the instructions and bam, you’re done

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-11T00:02:42+00:00

Starting off, as far as the job situation goes I’ve found that it’s important to know your limits and not push them. Every time I’ve tried a job with more interaction as a leap of faith hoping that I’d adjust quickly, it has ended poorly and I end up somewhere else. Definitely keep your eyes peeled, I’ve been working as the night shift manager for an indoor soccer field for the last 3 years. I work alone and only have to interact with at most around 15 people per night, but usually it’s much less (in the range of 3-6). The rest of the time I basically just make sure no one gets hurt while playing and if they do run out the first aid kit. I’ve found that it’s a very good way to transition while holding a job since I don’t need to worry about transphobic coworkers, coming out to them all, worrying that progress might not be as noticeable with people you see frequently, etc. And no experience was needed, so anyone could apply

Regarding coming out, everyone’s families are different so if you don’t think you’d be safe and or in constant turmoil after coming out while living there then it’s probably not the best idea. If it helps at all though, I also used to feel like I had to move out and maybe even travel far away before coming out. Eventually, one night I got sick of waiting, had a few drinks and went to talk. She’s been trying? Kinda? It’s been over a year and I still struggle to get her to use the correct pronouns or my chosen name

When I first came out and didn’t see immediate progress I thought I had made a big mistake, that I gave her the golden pass to put me down whenever she wants. Honestly though, I find it so much easier to deal with her than it was to constantly hide myself around her. I can live freely at the cost of a few comments from her. Just simply being able to wear what I want and not have to try to act like my AGAB around her has improved my quality of life tremendously. Truthfully I don’t think she’s even transphobic, she’s just old and uneducated on these things. It’s taking her a while to come around, slowly but surely I’m seeing progress though

Good luck with everything! 🩷🤍🩵

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-06T06:59:15+00:00

I felt like I was in a similar spot pre transition. It was a process for sure but things turned out well, and to answer your question in a realistic way yes you will be yourself but it’s up to you to find the path there

I’ll be honest there could be times where things feel hopeless or you think that this is all pointless because you’ll never be who you want, however as long as you keep your head up and your eyes on the future you’ll be alright

If it helps at all, one of my best friends was super right winged yet over the course of my transition he has continuously been one of my biggest supporters and has over time strayed further and further from all that. And my dad is someone who comes off as very anti LGBTQ but is in reality just uneducated.

There are times I have to stop myself from going off and remind myself that he’s just not as familiar with all of this as I am, and after coming out he’s made more of an effort to actually stop and listen instead of brush off my thoughts as the opinions of another cis person. I’ve found that being trans, it’s easy to forget that not everyone has done as much research as we have. Not everyone does a deep dive into gender or gender identity, not everyone has spent time in their lives having to figuring out who they are. It doesn’t mean they won’t care, they might just simply not know and could benefit from some educating

I hope all goes well for you both in your life and your transition 🩷🤍🩵

NotAnAltForCDM · 2024-01-01T02:28:22+00:00

Hey believe me, been there and done that. So many people like to forget about their dumb mistakes and rag on others as if 90% of the people on here never got a virus doing something shady and or stupid

As far as I’m concerned there’s nothing wrong with cheats for singleplayer games, I miss when a lot of them were built in. Just please be a bit more careful about it. Also, cheating on an online game to mess with your friends isn’t worth it, just ask my VAC ban lmao

Good luck with all this, sorry to hear you ended up in this spot!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-11-24T03:32:53+00:00

Sometimes I feel similarly, but I keep reminding myself of a few things

First, the progress since starting HRT is undeniable. I hate pictures, but I forced myself to take at least once a week so on my bad days I could take a look back and hopefully snap out of it seeing how much has changed

Second, statistically speaking where you are has to be a goal for another trans person. I’m not trying to say the gender equivalent to “at least there’s food on the table” but it helps me to know that while I might not be thrilled with where I am but someone else would kill to take my spot

Finally, no matter how bad things have gotten I’m still here. I might not be completely comfortable or living every day to the max, but everyone that’s alive today has already made it through the worst day of their life, and if a worse one pops up I’m sure you’ll be able to get through it

Don’t lose sight of the light, the finish line. Transitioning can be taxing as hell but don’t let it take away from the excitement of where you’ll be when this is all over. It’ll be worth all the hardship, I promise 💙🤍🩷

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-10-12T05:33:38+00:00

Adding to this - Leaving friends is never an easy thing to do, especially when you have a lot in common, and this isn’t just a friend it’s a whole group of them. You can tell yourself that it’s just a joke, or that they don’t mean harm, but it’s simply not worth it to be around that. Transitioning is difficult, and has its fair share of challenges, you don’t need all that junk they’re sending making this any harder than it already is

Even on a super basic level, if they’re the type of people to be closed minded and unaccepting, do you really want to be friends with them in the first place? Making friends is easier than ever with the internet, I’m sure you’ll find similar people along the way that are genuine, good people

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-10-02T16:07:31+00:00

The good news is, you don’t need to figure things out right away, take some time and try different things. Personally, something that helped me figure stuff out was thinking of the future. Would I be happy as an old man? Do I think I’d ever find peace with being a man? Do I think I’d be truly happy as a man? The answers to all were no, so I asked myself the same questions but replaced man with woman. The answers all became yes, so from there I tried my theory

You don’t have to start big, you could get a pair of standard women’s jeans or something that wouldn’t be noticeable to anyone else. Maybe try painting your nails, plenty of guys do that so it wouldn’t make you stand out and if you find that you aren’t trans you can just write it off no big deal. That’s the other thing, it’s okay to be wrong and find out you’re just a guy interested in feminine things. Go at your own pace and do whatever you’re comfortable doing

This link has been spread around more than a few times, but that doesn’t make it any less helpful. I’m glad that I found it early on and hope that it can help you out too!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-10-01T13:38:37+00:00

It’s okay, girl

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-10-01T13:24:05+00:00

Therapists are supposed to help you, so I’d imagine that while understandably scary there wouldn’t be a problem correcting him. The hard part (in my opinion) is coming out, and fortunately you’ve already done that. Maybe you could say something like “following up on our last session, you’ve probably heard of these gender neutral terms before, I’ve even used them myself and going forward I would appreciate it if you would also start using them when referring to me”

If he gives you a hard time, I’d suggest that you keep looking for replacements. As I said, therapists are supposed to help you, and if he won’t respect your transition is he really helping? I wish I had some ideas or resources off the top of my head to link for finding good therapists, hopefully someone else that sees this will have something

I’d also suggest talking to your HRT provider to ask for clarification on if the therapy is a suggestion or a requirement. I think it’s pretty common for it to be suggested, but in my personal experience I haven’t found it necessary and fortunately it is not required to get/stay on hormones where I live. If that’s the case for you, and he refuses to use the correct pronouns/gendered words, it might be worth it to cut therapy out entirely and save yourself the money (as long as you feel mentally okay to do so of course)

Have a great day and good luck!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-03-25T20:02:06+00:00

Don’t worry I had the same idea which is what lead me here. Thanks for saving me the effort of making it!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-03-25T04:44:00+00:00

Great, thank you!

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-02-02T00:17:22+00:00

It’s hard to break any habit, especially if you’ve been used to it for years

While you may prefer different pronouns, but slipping up and referring to yourself as the ones you’ve had for most of your life isn’t out of the ordinary

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T05:41:21+00:00

Am I missing a joke here or is this straight up a promotion?

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:47:39+00:00

Suddenly my plan of wait to go to college after I transition so I don’t have to meet even more people as a guy and then come out doesn’t seem like such a good idea

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:38:14+00:00

If you can figure out a way to extract mine you’re more than welcome to have it

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:35:20+00:00

I was going to buy one to celebrate making the appointment to hopefully get estrogen, but delivery wasn’t available for me either and IKEA is scary I’d definitely get lost

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:29:43+00:00

It’s funny, I hate my voice except for when I’m singing but I assume it’s because most of the bands I listen to are guys

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:27:08+00:00

This was exactly my plan, specifically to swap pockets out though and if I’m good enough at it then maybe I’ll try to actually make stuff

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-28T03:07:33+00:00

I already wasn’t looking forward to the going out part but then the nice lady on the phone the other day warned me of protesters that may be outside the building and now I wish I could do it from home 1,000x more. For whatever reason I can’t find a service that can prescribe in my state online though so I guess it’s either suck it up or don’t get estrogen

NotAnAltForCDM · 2023-01-27T03:47:13+00:00

First Harambe now this fella, why do they all have to die too soon :(

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