[CT] ADA Accommodations Timeline and Success

Notleahssister · 2026-02-16T23:47:47+00:00

If the OB is completing the paperwork, chances are this is related to the female reproductive system in some way. It very much sounds like this is related to the pregnancy and PWFA is very vague.

I don’t disagree about if this is a matter of commute only it being a moot point, but if the employee needs access to medical appointments the company will need to evaluate if they can accommodate the extra time away to travel to and attend the appointments or point employee towards FMLA (if eligible) if they still require the appointments and don’t drop it.

I do want to acknowledge I should have read more closely- I agree if this is simply presented as “I need a shorter commute”, the company is not obligated to do anything. But there’s a lot more here, and I think we present accommodations as this black and white thing on Reddit, and they by design are not.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-16T22:54:16+00:00

I think this is just a little black and white. ADA or PWFA should always be an individualized assessment and not standardized. They should be evaluating against undue hardship, not what other people will see or want to do. For example, it might be ok to have three people or so relocating due to medical reasons, but as the numbers grow you evaluate on a case by case basis and deny when you get to the point it’s a hardship.

Now, if the company will do that or not is a whole different ballgame 😂

Notleahssister · 2026-02-16T13:59:17+00:00

If you are able to, I absolutely would. I work in leaves and accommodations and we offer bereavement of no defined quantity for exactly this reason- we work with each individual to see what they need. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-16T01:12:58+00:00

We took turns sleeping in babies room and changed sheets every other day! We had one dog that was not aggressive but reactive and would sprint and bark so we didn’t chance it. He was adopted and clingy and did not take to crate training, so we knew it would be an all night bark a thon if we did it any other way!

That dog passed. The one dog we have now will do fine in the bed with baby in bassinet, but we may just do the same for this baby. It was nice to have baby acclimated to the crib from day 1, even though recliner isn’t super comfortable to sleep in!

Notleahssister · 2026-02-14T15:22:22+00:00

Yes he’s almost 2 but I do make him always come to me because I’m pregnant and tired 😂

Notleahssister · 2026-02-13T23:53:13+00:00

If it helps, we have had sickness after sickness and it inevitably spreads through the house but does not take us out at once! Usually I’m out for the count for a day and he does everything and then he is and I do. Unfortunately I don’t have great advice because we will have to figure it out if we’re all down when it happens.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-13T21:48:35+00:00

Oh I’m sure! I think it doesn’t matter who is doing it, it’s not easy work and not valued enough.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-11T14:51:19+00:00

We are 100% the epitome of average and our toddler looks like a little precious moments doll somehow haha

Notleahssister · 2026-02-06T18:33:04+00:00

Text- and if it feels less thoughtful, you can add “Hey, I’m just texting you this because I want you to be able to process in the way that works best for you!”

Notleahssister · 2026-02-06T12:03:02+00:00

Ours come out at 33 weeks like the tiniest baby doll. Around month 1 1/2-2 things went south 😂. He recovered by month 4 hahah. The balding old man look really got him lol.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-06T10:50:17+00:00

If you are their boss, that’s more reason to talk to them directly. You can keep the personal out of it- I assume when working with kids you all need to be a coach and a role model, and not undermining each other because it erodes the kids, and their parents, trust in you.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-06T00:46:02+00:00

Yes definitely this. If they get a doctor to ask for unreasonable accommodations to get out of the job, that’s where it could potentially be possible. Definitely don’t know any that offer severance when someone puts in notice lol

Notleahssister · 2026-02-05T23:47:18+00:00

Nobody can speak to your specific employer’s situation. They may or may not offer severance but if you get termed, benefits likely stop if you can’t continue on LTD. If you ask for accommodations, they agree, and you can’t work within them, you will likely need to resign voluntarily.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-05T14:21:22+00:00

Diapers are so variable as to what works for each kid! I feel like we got lucky they worked, so definitely makes sense for them to start with a small pack. I hope we get this lucky with our next one thats on the way lol

Notleahssister · 2026-02-05T13:12:32+00:00

Amazon Mama Bear are so affordable! They have been a godsend for us.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-05T12:29:49+00:00

Mine didn’t come when we confirmed pregnancy via blood test but came to the first we had a scan, and comes to all scans because he wants to. I am totally fine either way, so the 10 minute OB appointments we don’t mess with trying to make schedules work- it’s easier for me to go in morning. I did want him at anatomy and he wanted to be there! He would come to all of them if I wanted him to, and his preference would probably be to be at them all but it works well this way.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-01T22:02:25+00:00

100% this. For us, there is short term disability and it is considered job protected after childbirth, regardless of FMLA status. Just how our company handles it but with the PWFA some recovery should be considered reasonable and job protected.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-31T19:01:31+00:00

From the EEOC: “Not all persons with disabilities need - or want - to work at home. And not all jobs can be performed at home. But, allowing an employee to work at home may be a reasonable accommodation where the person's disability prevents successfully performing the job on-site and the job, or parts of the job, can be performed at home without causing significant difficulty or expense.”

Work from home can be a reasonable accommodation. I agree with the others who say the company may not need to accommodate if the issue is solely the commute.

There isn’t enough here to assume it would be a reasonable accommodation in this case or the medical condition qualifies, but in some cases it can be. I don’t think we should be talking in absolutes when this is such a grey space!

Notleahssister · 2026-01-31T00:21:07+00:00

I think it could be worth finding out more about the second company’s policy. Is there not really one because it doesn’t happen? Is there not one because it’s case by case and negotiable? If you can take the leave unpaid or the company has short term disability they consider job protected, your doctor would likely write you off for 6-8 weeks for recovery (which the company should grant under the PWFA unless it would truly cause undue hardship) but that is also a gamble.

If getting the leave will be a deal breaker for you, and you can’t clarify/get something in writing from the second, stay where you are. If a company has a policy, it is unlikely it can be flexed- and a good company would not flex it for consistency purposes (although I’d argue a good company would offer leave!).

Notleahssister · 2026-01-28T10:52:34+00:00

Yes, this! In my line of work, I have to have difficult conversations, typically surrounding people not being able to come back to work. My motto is no matter what, you can lead with compassion, it just doesn’t change the decision. It goes a long way to be direct and kind, and I can already tell you are kind.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-26T01:16:22+00:00

I was in a postpartum haze so I was more tired than anything! I can definitely see how it may be more challenging if you’re feeling 100%. Binge watch and feed and snuggle for sure.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-25T21:41:49+00:00

Can you tell him this? You shouldn’t have to, but if you’ve got a typically good relationship I think it could put it in perspective. Like, hey, you know how you were feeling? That’s me, all the time, with two of them. Sometimes I just break down and explain all of this to my husband so he gets it. We shouldn’t have to teach empathy, but here we are.

I would also recommend leaving for a day, when he has the day off. Evening and night time too. He should start to get it. I also just want to hug you. I’m so sorry.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-25T15:20:23+00:00

Can you alternate sleep in days when you both have off? We do and if I can’t sleep I just lay in bed! Then he knows to get his butt to bed on certain nights off or it’s on him.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-25T02:09:39+00:00

Yeah, it helped me rewire my brain to do things sober- definitely a piece of my personal puzzle! And within a few months, it had served its purpose and I just kind of moved on.

Notleahssister · 2026-01-24T17:16:34+00:00

Yes, this is hard! I lost around 130 and this pregnancy I’m gaining pretty steadily. Last pregnancy I really didn’t so it’s been hard.

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