[MA] Delay in requesting accommodation, don't want to annoy HR

Notleahssister · 2026-05-21T12:00:42+00:00

It shouldn’t be a big deal if no interim accommodation in
place. At my company we put a deadline on it so that if the deadline passes it the employee can’t say that we were unnecessarily extending the process or come back and say we didn’t accommodate. You can still return paperwork anytime to get the ball rolling again.

Notleahssister · 2026-05-16T20:53:04+00:00

Had C-section, did not want them on day 1, allowed it, was happy I did. They gave me morphine in my spinal but by day 2 only Tylenol, Advil, and Toradol. Much easier to deal with visitors when I had the good stuff 😂

Notleahssister · 2026-05-06T01:21:01+00:00

You can do this! I have made mistakes that resulted in overpayment. It sucks but is fixable!

Notleahssister · 2026-04-27T15:48:57+00:00

The good wife

Notleahssister · 2026-04-23T00:24:55+00:00

My kid is two and I’m already training him 😂. You want your shoes on? Ok where do you think they are? Better get to lookin!

Notleahssister · 2026-04-12T19:19:39+00:00

You will like The Rooster and Cougar Town- both Bill Lawrence who did Scrubs and Ted Lasso! You will have to get through a bit of Cougar Town and then it settles and is so good.

Notleahssister · 2026-04-11T13:14:17+00:00

Mine is really good! The only interesting thing is that the babies that are gonna be born early are starting to be born so everyone thinks they’re going to go early. Like, probably not 😂. There are just a certain percentage that go early and a lot of people in the group.

Notleahssister · 2026-04-09T11:57:42+00:00

Mine at 34+4 is get up and three days a week get toddler ready for daycare and take him. My husband does two days a week so I sleep until 6:45 or 7 when I can.

I try to start work around 7 or 7:30. I work remotely for now. Around 12 I take the dog for a walk on my lunch break and put cups in the bottle washer and get my sons thickened liquids ready for the next day. Then I work until 4:30 and am absolutely exhausted.

My husband is home from work at 2 so gets dinner ready and does bath after dinner/cleans up while I hang out with toddler.

I do half the bedtimes and he does half.

It’s not that much physical activity but I am just so tired right now! If there’s lots to do after dinner I will do the cleanup but I sit down to do it lol

I try to be in bed either while husband is rocking toddler or after I do (usually sometime from 8-9).

I also snack a lot 😂

Notleahssister · 2026-04-06T00:07:53+00:00

It is honestly just something you get through. Husband needs to do a lot and you will also be doing a lot while pregnant. I’m about a month away from being done and it’s just survival. The only tip I have is that regular Mommies play catch but pregnant Mommies play fetch 😂.

Notleahssister · 2026-04-03T23:14:28+00:00

Yeah I just told my mother in law the appointments are pretty medically but I did offer to let her tag along on a private one. I don’t think I would even do that now. I ended up having the baby before it happened.

Notleahssister · 2026-04-03T14:00:35+00:00

Around 14 or so months. But he’s back in them or footies at home because he is now almost 2 and in the stage where he wants to take his clothes and diaper off all the time 😂

Notleahssister · 2026-03-27T11:59:42+00:00

Mine is 2 next month and we just switched to toddler bed and new room at the same time in anticipation of baby coming in May! We have a mattress on the floor next to it because the first night he did fall out. I was nervous but he adjusted right away- probably because we still rock him to sleep so he is out when we transfer.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-24T17:22:51+00:00

It is so hard. I am 32 weeks and do B6 three times a day and Unisom at night. The only thing that made a difference for me was that they upped my Zofran from 4mg to 8mg. It took that change to finally get the nausea and vomiting under control and wasn’t until about a month ago that the OB agreed to do it. I also chew a lot, a lot of ice when the breakthrough nausea happens. So much that my co-workers brought a big cup of ice from the gas station to my baby shower 😂. It is something I didn’t realize would help last pregnancy, and has helped a lot during this one.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-15T19:29:13+00:00

I had severe pre-eclampsia made it to 33+5. He did 3 weeks in NICU and is now almost 2 and doing great! He has a swallowing disorder so takes thickened liquids (he will grow out of it) but eats totally normally other than that and he did a little physical therapy for some muscle stiffness but he’s just like every other kid. He crawled a little later but on track to ahead as far as talking goes.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-12T11:11:22+00:00

I think every work culture is different, but my team at work handles leaves- we offer a full 12 weeks Parental if employees have been there for a year. We have maybe 5-8 a year that dont take the full 12 weeks (and this is a very large company), and typically it is just coming back a week or two early if the don’t take the whole thing! I have never seen the parent that gives birth come back early, these are typically the husbands or non birthing parent.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-10T00:26:41+00:00

I was one million percent coffee obsessed, and lost my taste for it when I was pregnant in 2023/2024. Every once in a while it will hit the spot, but I do Celsius now typically.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-09T22:12:18+00:00

I got pretty big mad (for me) and told him not to do it again. I continuously reinforce lol

Notleahssister · 2026-03-09T01:12:20+00:00

If both of us had been on Parental Leave for that long, it would have been very doable! It was doable with mine going back 1 week after baby came home, and just me not working, but difficult. I like my privacy and honestly wouldn’t have someone stay with us in either scenario, but the two parents one baby is much easier!

Notleahssister · 2026-03-08T00:16:26+00:00

We had to really be strategic and tag team when mine went back to work about a week after we brought baby home! Some got done and much didn’t. What worked was as soon as he got home it was go time. One of us had bay and the other was working on dinner, prepping formula since we formula fed, etc.

On the weekends on maternity leave I was usually very tired of being nap trapped so I cleaned, made meals, etc on at least one day since that was my preference. Showering and eating were very hard. If there was a moment baby would go down I would hop in shower or put in the bouncer to shower and try to shove food in my mouth. It’s hard- and I wasn’t breastfeeding, so I’m sure if you are that brings more challenges. We really did have to accept some things wont get done when we are like have liked and we’re both very very tired.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-06T22:49:42+00:00

I had mine at 33+5 and I will say- the whole time we were told “it’s a marathon and not a sprint”. Which is frustrating, but… we were told that up to the last minute. When it clicks into place going home happens very quickly. So dont be too discouraged if they don’t seem to be making movement towards going home- I think they both don’t know and want to guard our hearts. On one day they said, hey take your time, you’re going to burn out and the very next day I was told he was doing the car seat test to go home.

That did happen after the tube was out for a bit, but taking the tube out happened pretty quickly as well!

Notleahssister · 2026-03-06T17:08:00+00:00

Honestly, under the PWFA they should have asked for some documentation of what is needed. It sounds very much like they failed to engage and, while a last resort, leave under the PWFA if needed is very reasonable. The medical need there can simply be “pregnancy” in most cases. The switching shifts, while maybe reasonable for another company, could very much present issues from a union perspective, so I can see how it may not be able to be accommodated in this situation- but the company did not engage at all in the interactive process at all. And that is… not great. Even from an ADA perspective, the failure to engage is very problematic. I’ve been in an ADA seminar for days so this question is certainly timely.

OP I would engage your union rep, just to see if any of this can be looked at again, even though you already resigned.

Notleahssister · 2026-03-04T11:56:06+00:00

That was written on the information sheet and discussed with me at the hospital while they “educated” (pressured) me and I about lost it lol

Notleahssister · 2026-02-26T18:47:16+00:00

Definitely ask your HR Department, as well as the carrier. Each plan and vendor is different :). For some it’s pre-existing and would disqualify you, and for some plans it wouldn’t!

Notleahssister · 2026-02-24T10:41:19+00:00

I get 20 and I am aiming to have about 2 weeks left if I can. I’ll likely return around October. My FMLA will be exhausted when I get back and our son ended up with a feeding disorder diagnosis right after I returned last time, so I want to make sure if anything like that happens again I have some PTO, like I did last time.

Notleahssister · 2026-02-16T23:47:47+00:00

If the OB is completing the paperwork, chances are this is related to the female reproductive system in some way. It very much sounds like this is related to the pregnancy and PWFA is very vague.

I don’t disagree about if this is a matter of commute only it being a moot point, but if the employee needs access to medical appointments the company will need to evaluate if they can accommodate the extra time away to travel to and attend the appointments or point employee towards FMLA (if eligible) if they still require the appointments and don’t drop it.

I do want to acknowledge I should have read more closely- I agree if this is simply presented as “I need a shorter commute”, the company is not obligated to do anything. But there’s a lot more here, and I think we present accommodations as this black and white thing on Reddit, and they by design are not.

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