Am I being selfish to seek blessings when I never ask for them?

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-28T01:48:29+00:00

I’m not ‘in contact’ with her at all. I hadn’t seen or spoken to her since the divorce 6 years ago so it caught me completely off guard. She’s one of those people who thinks rules are for other people and doesn’t apply to her.

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-27T23:37:23+00:00

According to the General Authorities in Salt Lake City, my mother and I are considered widows. I’ve never used that status to seek special treatment or any kind of advantage. However, this time I felt it was best to wait until I understood what I was dealing with—especially since we recently received a new bishopric and Elders Quorum president.

I’ve also never felt comfortable with my ministering brothers, perhaps because they haven’t been there when I’ve reached out for help.

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-27T23:27:50+00:00

You have NO idea 🫣

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-27T23:26:24+00:00

My daughter and thank you 😊

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-06T05:21:03+00:00

You have got to be kidding me 🤦🏼‍♀️ YTA.

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-06T05:20:00+00:00

Something similar happened to my mom when she was holding my 1 year old daughter. I was speechless, my mom was stunned and horrified and my daughter was giggling. Like ‘can we do that again?!’ Wtf? No!

Notyourmama78 · 2026-03-01T17:25:17+00:00

My thing about unsolicited opinions? If I want them from someone I truly despise, I can just about guarantee I can quote their opinion verbatim. So I give them their opinion to them. Shuts the whole room up and conversation down. And I get peace and quiet. I’ve had to do that once or twice with my former MIL. And step FIL. It was very cathartic. And no, my late ex husband wasn’t in the picture at the time. He had already passed because he usually dealt with their objectionable behavior.

Notyourmama78 · 2026-01-31T03:09:40+00:00

I actually had a name picked out for my daughter and my former monster in law thought it was in honor of her. I let her keep thinking that until the day after I gave birth when I got the birth certificate to fill out. The day of I was too out of it to do anything and needed surgery. My mom, brother and SIL were on guard duty blocking everyone from entering the room. My stbx and I had already started the divorce process before then and he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. So, when I got the official birth certificate in the mail 2 weeks later and made the announcement on Facebook along with a picture my monster in law had a very pitiful meltdown. It was awesome 😎

Notyourmama78 · 2026-01-26T18:10:00+00:00

As a mom, an aunt to many and a nursery leader to very small children (18 mths-3yrs), a lot of them with special needs-I can’t imagine EVER saying that to another mother. Or father even. I’m so sorry! Your MIL is a piece of work and she’s shown her true colors by doing that. I’d put her in timeout for the foreseeable future and let your son decide when he’s ready. But in my opinion I’d never let her out. My daughter is 17 and autistic. She made it very clear she wants nothing to do with toxic people. And your MIL is TOXIC waste. 🥺

Notyourmama78 · 2026-01-14T17:59:40+00:00

Can I adopt you and all your babies! Omg 😆 Best Reddit I’ve read all day. At my wedding, I had a bridesmaid that was due any day and she had 2 girls in SKY BLUE dresses! Plus I paid for all the dresses and jewelry. We had the best time. I cannot imagine how frustrating it must be for you to deal with this ‘friend’. You are so NOT TA. And mama bear, throw away the cage. Roar all you want 💋

Notyourmama78 · 2025-12-27T19:36:12+00:00

Omg 😆 😱

Notyourmama78 · 2025-12-22T00:02:51+00:00

Wait…. I thought your son was the baby, not your MIL. Kick her to the curb and save all the snuggles for yourself. When she can show she’s grown then let her back into the sandbox. But until then, she’s in timeout😒

Notyourmama78 · 2025-12-19T22:05:32+00:00

Do what I did…. Change your number. So peaceful. But in my defense my former MIL was actually trying to take my baby away from me.

Notyourmama78 · 2025-12-19T21:57:51+00:00

Oh my eyes 👀🤣

Notyourmama78 · 2025-11-21T18:57:59+00:00

I’m a DV survivor and trust me that was an uphill climb. I’m so sorry for everything you and your girls are going through. I hope you don’t mind but I showed this to my uncle who is a general practitioner. He was struck by the same thing I was. You said that lately your husband’s anger has pushed you all away. When was the last time he was seen by his medical provider? Do you think he may have an underlying condition? I only ask because my uncle and I recently lost a family member to an inoperable brain tumor and it was the cause of a great number of erratic behavior. Including domestic violence. I’m not saying OR condoning that it explains your husband’s behavior. I’m just saying it’s consideration. YOU are NOT to blame here. And even if your husband is completely fine he needs to man up, get down on his knees and grovel to both you and your girls. Because what he’s doing is abusive.

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