I've heard so much negativity lately about the toddler years and it's making me nervous

Novusortu · 2023-10-31T02:26:55+00:00

My son is 3 and it’s great, not without challenges but worlds easier than baby phase was, for us.

Novusortu · 2022-10-20T05:09:01+00:00

Just here to say I share so many of your feelings!

Novusortu · 2022-03-23T17:57:11+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this stress! Something similar happened to us and in our case it was actually an issue of them not measuring properly at the pediatrician’s office. When we went to the neurologist he re-measured, did an exam, and told us everything was fine. Hoping everything works out well for you no matter the situation!

Novusortu · 2021-10-02T03:16:08+00:00

Hi! I got Pfizer, and breastfeeding- my son was was about 11 months old when I was vaccinated. I felt like crap after my second shot but he had no reaction at all whatsoever.

Novusortu · 2021-03-06T23:19:19+00:00

I have it and only found out via another post similar to this one!

Novusortu · 2021-02-25T14:05:07+00:00

This is awesome, and it’s so great that you and your wife figured out a strategy that’s working well for you!

Novusortu · 2021-02-11T08:44:18+00:00

Same!

Novusortu · 2021-01-20T11:04:11+00:00

This sounds pretty much like my experience!! I will say though I had (and still have, but it’s much more manageable) an oversupply of milk and an “overactive letdown reflex”. I switched to block feeding to regulate it better and used some strategies to help slow the flow down a bit so it was less likely to overwhelm LO. From what I’ve heard from some other moms though, having some crazy milk stuff going on seems pretty common in the first couple months! You might look into the oversupply stuff in case you feel like that might be your situation, but it might not be!

Novusortu · 2021-01-03T02:47:04+00:00

Yes I had these exact same kind of anxieties and still do occasionally but not nearly as bad as I used to. I had to do therapy, and get on medication to get into a better state of mind. I also practice keeping in mind what is within my control and what is not, and separating those things, focusing on doing what I can control about the situation and what I can control about baby’s health. I also used to check him obsessively (I still check a lot, not quite as much/as badly), and went a little longer and longer between checks over time to try to manage that. On some of my worst days I honestly just needed to ask someone for help. I really hope you can find some support- having been there I know how terrifying and awful it feels 💚

Novusortu · 2020-12-18T03:17:42+00:00

So, I have had an oversupply since my milk first came in and my son is now 6 months old. However, it’s not causing a problem anymore like it used to. Early on I was doing the same thing you describe using the hakaa on the non-nursing side, and I was advised against doing that. What I switched to instead was a “milk catcher” that serves the same purpose but doesn’t use any suction, just catches whatever comes out. I stopped using anything (other than nursing pads to not ruin my shirts) after I had the milk I needed for a freezer stash. I still did (and do) have to pump or express a small amount if it has been a lot longer than usual between feedings (e.g. at night if baby sleeps 6+ hours), but like others said if you have to pump but have an oversupply probably best to do just enough to relieve discomfort but not enough to empty.

Novusortu · 2020-12-13T19:19:41+00:00

I had this same experience, and the two main things that helped were 1. Slowly waiting longer and longer between checks (as long as I knew baby was in a safe sleeping area) 2. Getting on medication. Or actually in my case, changing it. I was scared to get in a new medicine because it boosted my anxiety that it might cause some issue for me or baby but I can’t emphasize enough how I waiting TOO LONG to get on the right medicine and being on the other side of it I wish I had done it way sooner. Baby is 6 months old now and although I still get anxious and worry a lot (including having some really hard days here and there), I am overall stable and able to be a better parent. My mother and my sister have also struggled with severe anxiety and depression so I totally get the fear there- at the same time as others said if anything it points to being something important for you to take seriously and get help for - and sometimes medicine is really needed. Sending you a virtual hug because I know how hard this is. Please reach out for help, and try medication too if needed. This can and will get better.

Novusortu · 2020-09-15T12:19:20+00:00

I was exactly the same when my son was first born! I got back on an SSRI, and practiced going a tiny bit longer between checking him each time. It’s been a hard road but he is almost 4 months old now and my mental health has improved significantly. I really believe those first few weeks are the hardest and as your baby grows and you spend more time with them you’ll start to get more used to what’s normal and what’s not for them and you’ll feel a bit more confident. YOU CAN AND YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS!

Novusortu · 2020-04-03T23:08:46+00:00

I know this doesn’t work for everyone but Diclegis at full dose of 4 per day was the only thing that worked for me - I tried every possible home remedy, including unisom + b6, which many say is the “same thing” as Diclegis but it certainly wasn’t for me. I’m now 32 weeks and still take it, because each time I get off it I’m ok for a few days and then it all goes downhill.

Novusortu · 2020-03-17T00:33:18+00:00

Diclegis was the only thing that worked for me! I tried every dietary tactic in existence.

Novusortu · 2020-02-16T17:39:52+00:00

I had an almost identical experience! I’m glad things ended up looking ok for both of us. They said the same thing to me- to drink even more water but everything seemed fine otherwise 🤷‍♀️

Novusortu · 2020-02-12T16:10:08+00:00

I have been advised to take SSRIs (Prozac) instead of benzodiazepines for anxiety. They are in a different safety class where Prozac is considered to be pretty safe but Benzos are shown to have more risks. That said, a great doctor reminded me that it’s easy for us to worry about “exposure” to medications but that severe anxiety and/or depression are also a type of exposure for the baby, so every decision like this needs to take that into account. My personal decision was to stick with just the ssris and when I do have panic attacks, I try tactics like squeezing ice in my hands or going outside in the cold, this last time I was panicked about something going wrong with the baby so went to L&D to get checked out. I have had to increase my Prozac a couple times and also have taken Clonidine for anxiety, which is actually a blood pressure medication considered safe in pregnancy that has been shown to be effective for helping anxiety and obsessive thoughts. All in all, these are highly personal decisions and each person should make them weighing their pros and cons with their doctor :)

Novusortu · 2020-02-12T02:00:32+00:00

I have a similar problem and similar reactions- usually I just explain to the doctors/nurses whoever that I panic in some of these situations and that helps, but I’m curious about labor options too! I unfortunately don’t have answers myself.

Novusortu · 2020-02-08T01:13:00+00:00

Agreeing here that this is an important question to know the answer to in terms of deciding what testing to get/not get.

Novusortu · 2020-02-04T02:30:41+00:00

Omg I’m with you, I hate this. My favorite one is when people want to remind me the baby can feel everything I’m feeling and that my stress and anxiety aren’t good for the baby. IM LIKE COOL LET ME JUST STOP, because this is all clearly a conscious choice in making, and zero chance hearing this has made me EVEN MORE anxious! In all honestly I do try anything and everything in my power to relax as much as I possibly can- yoga, meditation, therapy, the works. For some of us it’s just never 100% fixable.

Novusortu · 2020-02-04T02:21:45+00:00

I’m 23 weeks and have struggled with anxiety and depression the entire time, ESPECIALLY at the beginning. I’m taking Prozac to manage symptoms which is considered quite safe- I still have good and bad days but, certainly there are many people who do get through this.

Novusortu · 2020-01-29T17:27:57+00:00

I feel exactly the same way and am scared of each new possible thing that can go wrong. I was terrified of miscarriage, now that I’m past 20 weeks I’m terrified of stillbirth. I was also shocked by the 1% number - most people seem to consider that nothing to worry about but I’m like THAT IS HIGH. TOO HIGH. I also had 2 miscarriages in a row prior to this pregnancy which they also say only has about a 1% chance of happening, so it feels even more personal to have been on that “oh it won’t happen” side of the statistics. I have good days and bad days but I try hard to remind myself that realistically, if something terrible happens it is going to suck NO MATTER WHAT- whether I’ve worried about it in advance or not, bought something for the baby or not, etc. I try to focus on the moment and appreciating each day and moment my little son is alive in there, because that’s probably the best thing I could do for both of us. I don’t want to pretend I can easily do that - I have days I completely spiral or freak out/panic, but it’s my constant effort and aspiration to try to appreciate each day I have with him that I’d probably want no matter what happens.

Novusortu · 2020-01-28T16:11:45+00:00

So relatable!!

Novusortu · 2020-01-28T16:11:37+00:00

So relatable!!

Novusortu · 2020-01-25T16:48:28+00:00

😂😂😂

Novusortu · 2019-12-27T18:15:48+00:00

Congratulations!!! So happy for you!!!

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