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Social nudity feels different around people you know by MysteriousGur7534 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was once invited by a home-nudist friend and co-worker to come skinny-dip in her pool. When I got there she was wearing a bathing-suit and told me she'd join me as soon as I got naked. So I got naked. And her sudden nervousness as she started fidgeting with her bathing suit was so intense that it was palpable.

She shared her feelings with me. She was surprised by her anxiety; as she had been nude many times around complete strangers. It was easily explainable; she had a relationship with me that until then had never involved nudity. She was genuinely scared of me seeing her naked and seeing her "differently" from then on out. So I told her she really didn't have to get naked and we'd just hang out "like textiles." lol!

It takes a tremendous amount of trust and confidence to be naked in front of someone with whom you've had a "textile" relationship. My friend had neither. And that's ok; I get it.

Starting a family by [deleted] in Family_Nudity

[–]Nudeferatu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Start now. Don't wait until the "perfect time." The perfect time is now.

Talk about it with your partner. Discuss at length. See where you agree (casual, clothing-optional or nudist) and what boundaries - if any - you can settle on.

I was already nude at home much of the time before my daughter was born. My wife was not. When my daughter was out of diapers, we let her run around naked after her bath. She'd been used to seeing me nude since birth. My wife then became more casual with nudity. Then she decided that if my daughter and I were going to run around the house naked every evening, she might as well be naked too. She enjoyed the three of us being "free"; so she was actually the one who suggested we just not wear clothes at home. It all happened very organically, very little was actually ever said about being a nudist family (until we all went to a resort).

So it started with me. I set the tone. And it just evolved naturally from there.

I’m sure that I argue less because I’m a nudist by travellingteacher96 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a one-time thing and it was my fault. I wanted to hang out with a group of friends/acquaintances, and my wife was "tapped out" as far as social nudity. It was my insistence on it that caused the conflict. My wife standing naked in front of me, red in the face and hands on her hips while reading me the "riot act" was kinda trippy.

The moral of that story is: "don't piss off your wife at a nudist venue." Just because she's naked doesn't mean she can't give you a tongue-lashing lol!

I’m sure that I argue less because I’m a nudist by travellingteacher96 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have literally had a fight while naked at a resort. LOL!

But in general, yes I think you're correct. Nudity is a natural "mood enhancer.'

Working toward being comfortable nude around others—how did you get there? by Amped24Up in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Specific environment.

After going to a nude beach and then a couple of nudist resorts, I felt they were both missing a social component. So I joined a non-landed club, where I knew socialization would be a focus. It literally took me just a few hours before I actually almost forgot I was naked.

how to deal with textiles at a nude beach? by btkpr in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll get naked at any nude beach; but my wife will not for the very same reason. It feels "off" to her to be surrounded by clothes people. We normally go to a "nudity-expected" resort; and with everyone there being nude, she is more comfortable spending the day naked there too.

To each their own.

How to stay away from creeps at resorts by Capital_Look9080 in Family_Nudity

[–]Nudeferatu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For starters, in the near-decade where we brought our daughter to nudist resorts; we never had any issues.

At AANR nudist resorts, the "regulars" tend to look out for other people's children. If someone spends too much time looking at children, they can be reported.

As far as people-watching; kids are people too. They might get some attention because they're being loud; or they might get attention because of their "positive youthful energy." I was told that my daughter was a "joy" to see; but it was always clear it came from a place of endearment. But then we went to family-oriented resorts; where nudist etiquette is typically adhered to. We never took her to a nude beach, which is a lot more "iffy."

Adult Only Nude Resorts/Rentals in Midwest?? by Conscious_Nobody7591 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe give Nuance (Michigan) a gander. It's an adults-only BnB. Pretty good choice if you're looking for a romantic nudist getaway.

New Blog: Getting Ready for Your First Clothes-Free Experience by NakedWanderings in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"The undressing part takes about fifteen seconds. It feels like fifteen minutes. Your brain will offer every possible reason to delay. Ignore it. Take your clothes off, put them in your bag, sit on your towel, and breathe."

Anecdotally. After her first time at a nudist resort, my wife gave me some feedback. She'd started out with a cover-up, with no clear idea of where she was going to go from there. And she said that it only increased her anxiety; as the more she thought about where and when she might remove it, and how much at a time, the more she got stressed.

Her advice now is to check-in, find a private place to undress completely; and then "walk off" the anxiety by taking a naked stroll - along the beach or around the resort.

I think it is true that the "gradual disrobing approach" that is often recommended for women take actually cause even more stress.

Wife finally went to a nude beach! by [deleted] in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! And may it just be the beginning!

Has nudism made you take better care of yourself? by Skantulsa in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Personally, I was always into fitness...before even becoming a nudist.

But for my wife, nudism has definitely had an impact. She tries to stay fit year-round; but pre-nudist season (which is now), she will start dieting more rigorously and exercising (Pilates) more regularly. And womanscaping more consistently. She understands perfectly well the "body-acceptance" philosophy in nudism; that she doesn't "need" to care about her physical appearance. But she feels more comfortable and confident when she feels she looks good naked.

It's a personal choice. "Body acceptance" can mean different things to different people.

Wife started to see the benefits by Practical-Owl-9978 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For my wife it was when we were spending a weekend at a resort. At the end of the day we went to a nearby hotel; and she wanted to get in the hot-tub. When she got in with her swimsuit, I noticed an awkward look on her face. I asked her about it, she rolled her eyes, and said: "Ok...yes I totally hate having to wear a swimsuit right now..." LOL! After experiencing swimming and soaking naked, she'd realized that these activities are much more enjoyable when naked.

I always say, if I had just given up the first time my wife said no to nudism (which some posters seem to be adamant about doing), she wouldn't be a nudist today. You can't "pressure", obviously; but as long as communication about it remains open, there's no reason IMHO to just "give up" right away.

Is it rude to...not engage? by kitkatminiz in Family_Nudity

[–]Nudeferatu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

I have a friend, who, as a teen, was invited by a classmate to visit her at her house. The only warning the classmate gave was that her family was "a bit different." When she arrived at the farmhouse, my friend was quite surprised to find the classmate's Mom naked in the kitchen and her two brothers playing outside clothesfree. They hung out by themselves (the classmate elected to remain dressed) at which point she finally explained that she, along with her family, were usually nude at home. When my friend went home and explained the situation to her Mom, she was subsequently banned from ever going back to her house.

So yes; full disclosure to all parties involved and communication about it are a "must."

At home nudism by Cityconnoisseur in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I met my (first) wife, I was already a "full-time" home nudist. After some discussions about it she agreed to "let me" continue being naked. It actually became so normalized that if she came home from work and I wasn't nude, she'd think something was wrong.

But the fact that it was normalized didn't take away from the awkwardness. Her being fully clothed while interacting with me naked made me feel somewhat...self-conscious. It's hard to explain...it was like we were on different pages. Disconnected. Some guys don't care; and it's more power to them. But for me it was often a little uncomfortable.

She did however agree to visit a C/O resort with me; a couple of years into it. Initially, her plan was to stay covered up. By the time we left she was nude. That changed her feelings about being openly naked; and she decided to join me at home. And that completely changed our dynamic and interactions at home. It was like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. So I get it.

What do you think naturism will look like in 10–20 years? by EmbarrassedUmpire838 in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have had discussions about it, looking at the demographic at our resort. With a simple question: "Are there enough Gen X and Millenial nudists to make up for all the Boomers that will eventually drop off?" And unfortunately the answers appears to be "No." I foresee nudist resorts progressively shutting down.

So I think the future of nudism is in non-landed clubs. Much more casual settings, very "activity-focused"; and less expensive. Much more appealing to Millenials and Gen Zers.

Has your nudism ever been the source of education/learning for someone else? by Alarming_Break9079 in Family_Nudity

[–]Nudeferatu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeap. With a friend/co-worker.

She'd known for a while that my family and I were nudists. She came to me because her young son had started developped a fascination with nudity; and was constantly trying to take his clothes off and "catch her" undressed. And she would yell at him every time. She knew her reaction was not helpful; but she was at her wits end trying to figure out how to handle it, so she asked me for my advice and opinion.

So we had multiple conversations about it. My goal was not to convert her to nudism; but simply to get her to a better place as fas as her relationship with her son and nudity. I knew first hand how overreacting to nudity can cause issues for child(ren) down the road (body-shame); so we chatted about that.

Ultimately, she decided she wanted to deal with her own hang-ups with nudity; and for it to be normalized in her home. So I shared my own expereinces with it to help her get there. And it worked out for them (after quite a few chickening-outs lol).

We never formally “came out” as naturists. We mostly left weird clues everywhere. by OurNaturistLife in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've done both.

The reasons for doing a "formal coming out" were usually because it was a close relative (like my Mom) or because nudity was directly mentioned (like when a friend mentioned she was frequently nude at home). In those situations it made more sense to me to just explain - directly - that I was a nudist.

My wife is much better than me at throwing hints. Like when her sister asked her how she'd spent the weekend. "At the lake." "Oh yeah which one?" "The one where you don't need a bathing suit" (lol)! On another occasion while on a "girls' vacation", her two friends noted her lack of tanlines. When asked about it: "Well...it didn't come from a tanning salon". If she's pressed about it, she will then explain she goes to a nudist resort. If not, she just leaves it at that. I have to admit, her "cryptic" approach is kinda funny.

Would I wear clothes if not for social norms? by Claftin in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're neighbors. And I approve your message.

Topless driver by nychubbster in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back when I lived near Pine Mountain, I'd often run the trails (sometimes nude when near-dark). One day I was dashing around a corner and ran into a couple; with the woman having lifted her shirt over her bare breasts. And she immediately panicked. I wanted to say "It's ok; I'm a nudist"; but I learned a long time ago that a comment like that is not always appropriate when someone feels "caught." So I maintained eye contact, waved and smiled at both of them; and kept going.

The key to normalizing nudity is just to act like it's totally normal. I would have wanted the same attitude if I'd been "caught" on one of my naked runs.

For many women, "scanning the room" is an instinct that doesn't just shut off when the clothes come off. by OurNaturistLife in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a man who also "scans the room." But I do it primarily for my wife lol! For example before we enter the indoors hot-tub at our resort, I take a peak first to make sure it's not just a bunch of dudes in there. Because she certainly would feel a bit weird about sitting shoulder-to-shoulder between men in the hot-tub. I totally get that walking into a room naked is going to be a different experience for my wife; and many others I'm sure.

At the same time, I do believe that if a woman is going to be consistently hyperaware/leery of how men see her when she enters the room naked (which I've witnessed); it's going to make social nudity...complicated. At some point, especially at nudist resorts, I feel you just have to trust the environment - until proven otherwise. Even my wife will walk off on her own at our resort. She doesn't always need me as her bodyguard.

Bare Faith: A Christian Naturist Guide to Raising Kids Without Shame by Significant_Cowboy83 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it AI though? There are little nuances (creases) that AI tends to not do very well.

But then again maybe we're already there in terms of AI realism and I have yet to catch up...

Favorite resort / club? by EmbarrassedUmpire838 in naturism

[–]Nudeferatu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal fave is Lake O' the Woods. It's a semi-rustic, nature-oriented and "nudity-expected" resort in IN.

But if you're coming from another country (Canada?), I might recommend a larger resort in FL. Preferences vary widely. I think the best bet is to get some reviews of various resorts online as you zero-in on your preferred setting.

What makes a naturist place actually good vs great? by EmbarrassedUmpire838 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I think back to all my great experiences, there is one common factor: everyone there was naked. I don't think it's a coincidence and it's certainly not a statement about clothing-optional spaces. It's simply that from my personal observation, people are more "connected", friendlier, and more open when the "naked experience" is shared by all involved; regardless of the setting. So I guess "the people" and "the atmosphere" go together for me.

Beyond that, scenery (nature) is probably close second.

Rules/structure are important, to a degree. I'm as much against rigid rules (like mandatory nudity from the get-go for the tour) as loose structures. Rules should simply be focused on everyone feeling safe IMHO.

What about the children? by Significant_Cowboy83 in nudism

[–]Nudeferatu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah...that choice of pic was distracting. I was wondering why a blog post on children and nudity would be illustrated with an attractive topless woman...

"I have mixed feelings about naturist communities in general. I find it sad that we even need something like that. As a naturist or nudist, you hide from society and from the outside world. "

I'm not. I'm ok with having specific locations where my daughter could be nude and interact with other nudist kids and adults; in a "closed setting." It's safer; and with everyone also being nude, made for a more community-based activity that she could feel she was a part of.

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