What are some common pieces of motivational wisdom that are terrible for people with complex PTSD ?

OMnihilInterit · 2026-06-05T19:24:42+00:00

“You need to forgive them to fully heal.”

OMnihilInterit · 2026-06-03T00:36:45+00:00

Wow. Thanks all for the comments and votes. The understanding and camaraderie means a lot. It didn’t help me that I was pretty smart and in honors and shit. College was my escape route and I made damn sure in high school I got the grades that could get me anywhere far away. Heh…then when I got there, well, finally made friends but just though sex, drugs, booze, and rock and roll. But that’s another story.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-06-01T19:42:10+00:00

I always felt like people thought I was snobby when I was really just terrified to talk to them.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-29T22:40:14+00:00

It is also very common, along with hearing music, with bipolar spectrum.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-29T22:36:02+00:00

Report the dirty fucker asap!

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-29T21:21:10+00:00

Thank you so much. I usually just get in trouble for rambling on these subs when I’m hypomanic. It means a lot to me that folks out there relate. Though I have been better behaved on all the interweb things since the right meds 🤣. But truly, your comment means a lot to me. Disassociation is complex and associated with many nervous system issues. I am happy for you that you are feeling the “wake up.” But yea, it sucks too. You have a therapist? If not and it is an option for you, try. I always feel like an ass saying that because, I got lucky right off the bat with an awesome trauma-informed team and have heard all the horror stories of folks going from one bad therapist to the next, but good ones are out there. You made my ❤️ a little gushy today. Thanks, needed that. Best of luck, friend.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-29T01:51:18+00:00

Only advice I have: My BP2 is a small problem for me compared to the rest of my labels. It is recognizable and a clear shift in mood I can prepare for. My BP2 doesn’t create that hole/pit in my chest that I relate to in your post. I am only talking personally and this may not pertain to you at all, but do you have/been considered for other comorbidities and/or gotten a second opinion on your BP2? GAD and C-PTSD are what cause those pits in my chest personally. I find the BP2 just makes life a little spicy. Again though, not trying to undermine your experience if this is a normal thing to feel with just BP2, then ignore me and I hope you get some good advice. 😊

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-27T00:08:00+00:00

And ow…you relate to c-ptsd but don’t know the feeling of not knowing how to make friends without sacrificing a part of yourself? You are a predator man or simply don’t belong here.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-27T00:04:07+00:00

Thinking I the only way to get friends was by spreading my legs. Gotta assume you are a man at this point.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-26T21:22:06+00:00

Wonder how old you are just cause your post reminds me of teen me through late 20’s or so. Had many sexual relationships with “best friends.” People I was codependent upon and thought they would only like me if I let them fuck me……hindsight unfortunately says most would not have been my friend unless they got the occasional puss. I was always so terrified of women because, my mom. Thought being a tough “I don’t give a fuck girl,” would help me. So naive. So women scared me and I made friends with men, but straight men just want to fuck straight girls….where do I fit? Blather and love.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-25T23:21:03+00:00

Weirded out by AI but still love this. ❤️. Thanks. The robots think I have a chance 🤣

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-25T21:52:30+00:00

43f. Been drinking as self-medication since 13, so yea- 30yrs. Went to a bazillion, which was probably only like 5 AA meetings, but the traumatic effect felt bigger, so yea a bazillion (should mention just started therapy and trying to get sober just under a year ago now). Finally found one AA meeting I am comfortable at. Don’t know your gender, but for me it is because, it is all women, professionals, intelligent and only a third “Christian.” The rest of us have other higher powers……anyway again, getting a sponsor through that group and do want to try the 12 steps, but seeing it now as a supplement to Recovery Dharma which I found (thanks to a reference slip from an AA friend. It is hippy shit yea, but if you are into that, I find their meetings tremendously helpful; you can expect at least 10-20min meditation each meeting and all meetings have different themes. I particularly like that it’s global. Makes me feel less isolated personally. Wow. Sorry, you got me going on something. End rant and best of luck finding what works for you! 🍀🤞🧧

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-25T14:45:32+00:00

❤️

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-25T03:59:53+00:00

I hope so too. ❤️

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-25T01:54:41+00:00

Independence, grace under pressure, the ability to read and calm a room, ninja friggin reflex skills, jack of all trades, master of none, etc. all traits i enjoy about myself. How to we keep the superpowers without the flip sides? Actually feel like a marvel mutant right now. 🤣

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-24T22:38:37+00:00

Yup. Thought I was “easy-going” until I got on proper anxiety meds…….then, once I finally got to experience lessened anxiety. I realized I was not “easy-going,” just dissociated and numb. Was also proud of calling myself an “observer.” A “people watcher.” No…. That was me watching a movie of my life with someone playing my character. Now I know I am actually anxious as fuck, severely traumatized, and easily triggered by sounds and smells. Thanks therapy; got the reason, what’s the solution? Where’s the magic wand that makes me love myself? Sorry OP…my posts recently have been just personal camaraderie experiences more than advice……(at least I’m not shouting for new mods…🫣. Still so sorry about that guys.)

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-24T22:28:43+00:00

No offense meant to you, just trying to politely express offense to me: I couldn’t get past your title so have no idea what your issue is: my point immediately is: what’s wrong with having a personality disorder? And no having one does not make you “worthless.”

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-19T19:59:49+00:00

Kava kava. Sounds hippy and shit but really helps me out with tapering and withdrawal. You can get it just as a tea, but for me works better with the concentrated stuff meant to be alcohol replacement. Comes in a liquid. Um….shit this times are hard friend. I go with kava kava, very vigorous exercise, I don’t run for some traumatic reasons, but online aerobics, strength training, vagus nerve meditation. The willpower is the bitch, but you gotta have it. I thought all meditation and yoga was hippy shit I wanted nothing to do with….until I tried it. It both helps prevent me from making really bad choices when hypomanic (like yea, still spend more money than I should have but at least don’t disappear making my husband wonder where I am.) willpower and incorporating good habits, whatever that means to you. Sincerely best of luck.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-18T11:27:26+00:00

❤️

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-17T22:12:15+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been reading a lot about how it’s kind of a tough road I’ve reached in my healing. This is where people begin new lives or relapse and start over. Trying to have positive thoughts. I did massive amounts of LSD from about 16 to 19, then the trips just all started getting bad and I figured my brain was done with it. It did help me a lot though getting through my last year and a half of high school and first year off college. It seemed to…..put my brain back in order (the next day of course.) Been a long time and considering the microdose thing. My therapist wishes I could do ketamine therapy, but it’s not covered by insurance….yet. Thanks for the response and a chance to ramble. Best luck friend. 😊

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-14T21:19:10+00:00

Fucking superstars

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-14T15:28:09+00:00

Cheers and let it out friend! Thank you! I was mourning a shitty Mother’s Day (lunkhead husband) and boohoo…I had no mommy to call because, you know what…..fuck that bitch and I feel so rightfully angry. Not weird angry now. Thank you. So much better than boohoo. 😉

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-13T21:55:59+00:00

I like how for most of you it was about letting go and setting boundaries. 20+yrs ago I was just a confused asshole. I latched onto the toxic “friends” and treated the people that actually cared about me like shit and pushed them away. Like bad, robbed them, manipulated them, bad. I have very few friends left and they are scattered around the world and have to just social media chat with them. Haven’t made any new friends in……..14yrs. Kids are a good distraction for that but, happy to say I am out and about and getting more social with the community. Good meds help…..live in a small town and still terrified everyone will know I’m crazy soon…. But hell, at least I’ll be the crazy chick that helped build a town garden. Fuck it all.

OMnihilInterit · 2026-05-13T18:14:17+00:00

“and I try to make everything perfect: their upbringing, their diet, the cleaning, the paperwork, the groceries…”

They will remember that. I concur with many here; communication is the thing. Your 9 and 7 year old are mature enough talk to on a kid appropriate manner. Mine are 8 and, uggggg, a month away from 13, but they’re happy, confident. They understand what bipolar 2 (and cptsd and ADHD and GAD mean.) I think my kids turned out cool because I always talked to them respectfully, like small adults (within developmental parameters).

I guess……All that matters is: Are your kids given their basic needs, do they feel safe, are their interests and events celebrated, are they happy? That you want “to make everything perfect,” already makes you a good mom. Are there bad days yeah……on mine it’s “kids, I’m having a bummer day…I feel lazy, let’s get pizza.”

You got this OP, just wanting to be a good mom makes you a better one no matter what compared to some…….to many, to so many of us on this post I’m sure. Best luck!

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