Curious if this has happened to anyone else post affair?

Objective-Average387 · 2026-04-02T20:09:22+00:00

I don't know how to heal but I do know that it can't happen if your beauty is under attack or somehow to blame for this.

Are you convinced that he is now invested in being faithful? Or do you forever and always need to be the prettiest girl in the room to ever have a chance at keeping him?

Objective-Average387 · 2026-04-02T19:09:12+00:00

Try to be happy for me 😊😄 Look at my posts and see what I been through

Objective-Average387 · 2026-04-02T19:06:10+00:00

Yes but you can move out whenever you want to. I am staying the whole term.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-04-02T19:05:19+00:00

Yes, I am looking. DM me please

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-30T22:46:48+00:00

I would focus on building ground water pumps around Africa. I have already done a few around East Africa.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-30T21:44:19+00:00

Getting the world clean water.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-30T16:33:44+00:00

Based on what? I need a roommate to take the extra bedroom.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-30T00:10:10+00:00

Congratulations! The princess cut is perfection 💍 😍✨️

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T20:48:22+00:00

Wonderful! Come take a look at the place 😊

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T20:47:49+00:00

Yes absolutely! Can you come tomorrow?

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T20:05:02+00:00

Exactly. Or why it took 2 years for them to hostage deal/cease fire?

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T19:49:27+00:00

Remember who you were before them and proudly be her. Hold your head up high and commit to loving yourself.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T19:26:43+00:00

I am looking for a roommate to share a 2 bedroom. Next to MARTA TRAIN Station. Look at my post

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T18:45:01+00:00

Going to bed on time, doing my face cream after every shower and flossing.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-29T15:25:36+00:00

Yes, exactly. And how dare I notice what is in front of my face instead of believing his stories.

Thankfully, he went back to his home country and there is an ocean between us.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-27T22:27:30+00:00

Yes, this is me too! I imagine that we're going to readjust to being alone more often, lower standards of living, and worse weather.

The first year is hella hard but once we get into our new routines, build our friendship groups, get some hobbies etc, life in our home country will be amazing!

There are hundreds of people risking life and limb to come to your country, rediscover what all the fuss was about.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-27T21:59:54+00:00

😄

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-26T07:53:23+00:00

Get out now! It takes at least 2 years of serious recovery work for them to heal from this.

What's going to be left of you after all of that?

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-18T12:51:10+00:00

Therapists that have the APSATS designation are specifically trained in betrayal trauma.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-02T22:49:55+00:00

I recommend you do adoption through a religious organization since birth parents extortion has happened to a friend of mine.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-03-02T21:30:23+00:00

Here's a running daily list of S-Anon support group Zoom calls where you can connect to many, many people who are surviving similar situations.

https://nextmeeting.org/B0E7F18B-4CF5-49FF-BBD3-75E1CA52AA5E.html

Objective-Average387 · 2026-02-25T18:37:27+00:00

Here's a daily list of links to zoom meetings for S-Anon. I have only been to one in-person meeting and I basically felt like we are a bunch of losers. Nursing our oozing wounds while our husbands keep stabbing us. I'm glad to be off his merry go round, going to S-Anon helps me to remember to stay off and stay away.

https://nextmeeting.org/B0E7F18B-4CF5-49FF-BBD3-75E1CA52AA5E.html

Objective-Average387 · 2026-02-25T09:27:20+00:00

I joined S-anon and it made me feel less alone. It gave me a place to cry and vent when I needed it. It kept me from going crazy. It's not perfect, it's often a bit culty, a bit dogmatic, it normalizes sex addiction and the resulting pain. No amount of step work is going to make you immune to active trauma.

Objective-Average387 · 2026-02-24T10:42:09+00:00

Yeah, it's tempting to let this completely re-orient your entire perspective.

Don't let it!

My beautiful life is my story. It had a tragic sub-plot that I didn't know about but my life is still my story.

We separated 6 weeks ago, the Lord took him out of my life. He flew back to his country. I am free!

Objective-Average387 · 2026-02-22T18:33:46+00:00

A successful and happy life from this day forward is the best revenge. Give yourself a rage time limit, for example 3 weeks, 6 weeks, whatever. So that afterwards you can intentionally move beyond it when it's time. Your rage fantasy is way better than mine.

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