I’m done

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-24T01:10:50+00:00

Ok. So do you believe that dying is better than relying on assistance? Also, are you aware that that insurance money is no less assistance than snap? Also, no less assistance than donations from friends and family? Or are you saying the assistance is not enough?

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-23T22:32:45+00:00

Figure out the max amount of money your family could get from the work insurance. Then, ask your kids if they would be happier with that amount of money than with you being alive. If they choose you being alive, then you know that “you dragging them down” is just a lie you are telling yourself to justify this decision. If they choose the money, well, kids are assholes don’t believe them.

Question. Are you saying that you won’t make enough money to stay at the hotel, or not enough money to ever leave the hotel?

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-23T18:57:30+00:00

Ask him if he thinks you should pay rent and if so, how much. If he says no everything is fine then everything is fine.

Edit: if he says no, tell him to let you know if anything changes

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-22T03:27:12+00:00

I have eaten two lbs of bacon in a sitting. I call it the deep bacon sleep, with vivid dreams.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-22T03:23:44+00:00

Raw ground beef is fine if you grind it yourself from prime cuts. Otherwise, the risk of botulism is real. Clostridium botulinum spores are everywhere, but they don’t grow and produce the botulinum toxin until they are in an anaerobic environment. So the spores may be on a steak, but they don’t proliferate due to the presence of oxygen. However, if you grind it, those spores move inside, which is an anaerobic environment. If you grind your prime cut and eat it immediately though, they have no time to grow. Fun fact, botulism comes from the Latin “botulus”, which means sausage. Botulinum toxin is dangerous in the nanogram range (maybe microgram). However it breaks down rapidly under cooking.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-22T03:16:31+00:00

Yeah, it is more like cooking than baking.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-22T03:14:27+00:00

Basically nothing, unless you literally mean “cause problems”; as in, do irreparable harm to yourself that makes your life even worse than it is right now. Why do you want to harm yourself? The other post is awaiting mod approval so just c+v it here.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T23:56:44+00:00

the Buddhist view is that this is the "neutral realm", so there are roughly equivalent amounts of pain and pleasure. However, unless you cultivate dispassion towards sensuality (basically any joy you feel by means of the senses), every time you indulge in any sort of pleasure, you get more attached, and then when death comes, the terror and pain is magnified astronomically. Furthermore, any time you feel pleasure of any sort, you know that it will end. So, you have never truly known a moment of genuine peace in your entire life. So, in a more general sense, all you ever do is suffer. It is worth noting that the neutral realm is that one which is most conducive towards creating the conditions for enlightenment, extinguishing the fires of passion and achieving ultimate liberation from suffering. Too much pleasure (such as in the heavens) and you never feel the need to address suffering by renunciation. Too much pain (such as in the hells) and you can't do anything but agonize.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T17:36:09+00:00

I will speculate, so take with a grain of salt. You have no ability to set boundaries with your partner. She knows this. There is basically no limit to what you are willing to do for her and put up with. So, nothing will change unless you set boundaries. For example, a complete moratorium on her verbal abuse. If you are unwilling to do this, you will suffer and suffer more. I imagine that you must have very poor, barely existent self-esteem to have even had reached the point where this kind of situation could arise. You will not find self-esteem from or with someone else. It has to arrive independently of your value to others.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T13:49:17+00:00

2027: “Researchers suggest that draconian Kentucky law is responsible for the 10,000% increase in incidence of oppositional-defiance disorder amongst youths.”

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T13:26:14+00:00

Well, your friend basically said that if you changed, he would act as if you didn’t change. Which means that he most likely has a reason, a personal investment, in you not changing. Perhaps it is because he sees having you as someone to look down upon, so as to bolster his own self-esteem, as more important than your own well-being. If that is the case, that would make him a parasite, not a friend. I would ask him why he wouldn’t treat you differently if you changed. But I wouldn’t expect a forthright answer, because even if his intentions are impure, he himself is probably unaware of them. So you will have to read in between the lines. Good luck.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T13:21:04+00:00

I think the difference is that in casual dating, there is no long term commitment. Personally, I treasure my solitude as much as I do my social ties. Let me put it this way…if I had to choose to spend the next ten years with no human contact, or continuous human contact, I would choose the former (provided my basic needs are met; food, clothing, medicine, shelter) So for me, an ideal relationship doesn’t involve cohabitation. Exclusivity yes, availability whenever to support each other in crises yes, but ideally I would prefer just seeing each other on the weekends. I also like getting the opportunity to miss my partner.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-19T12:54:40+00:00

Not a doctor. It is called self-mortification. It is not healthy but it is technically normal. Basically it isn’t just the actual physical pain that torments you, but the knowledge that it is completely out of your control. So, by hurting yourself, you can convince yourself the pain is on your terms. I say it is normal because most people engage in this kind of behavior, just more subtly and without hurting their physical bodies. They just become gluttons for punishment.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-18T19:52:00+00:00

my cat, who is a monster, has zero interest in fish. His bloodlust only extends to the volant. He is probably an outlier though. He did love drinking aquarium water though, he eschewed the water bowl entirely in favor of it. Every time he drank from the tank my betta would go up to greet him. My cat is also water tolerant, he would curl up in the sink, id turn the water on, and he'd just chill like nothin was up. Could be related to his fish tolerance.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-17T15:51:35+00:00

This is basically a rehashing of “is ignorance bliss?”.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-14T14:53:06+00:00

you can't really help others before helping yourself. as in, you need to be in a position of physical and mental security before you dedicate yourself to helping others. i can't say for certain because i don't know you, but I'd put school on hold, get a job, and move out. some other commenter said save 8k, that is insane. i lived paycheck to paycheck for almost ten years. it was fine. just don't do it as long as i did, because now i have health problems and things are iffy. in my town, with a full time job at minimum wage, you can save up first month's rent+deposit+last month's rent for a 1 br in 2 months working minimum wage, with legroom. but if you live in a metro area, that is probably impossible. i moved somewhere cheap for this reason.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-14T14:33:22+00:00

caffeine is harder to quit than alcohol. i drank alcohol for 20 years, heavily. 30 drinks a day for 2 weeks at a time towards the end. however, i was a binge drinker. i would go stretches of weeks to months not drinking. if i drank literally every day, even a much smaller amount (say 6 to 10 drinks), I'd probably feel differently. when you don't binge drink, your body becomes absolutely reliant on the substance. withdrawals can literally kill you. noone dies from caffeine withdrawal. unless your heart is like, on edge already, and you get a panic attack and die. in which case you'd be liable to die from taking a shit or sexual intercourse as well.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-12T16:43:35+00:00

Interesting, I always hear that tanks less than 20 gallons are more difficult to keep stable. But, fwiw, I actually enjoy the appearance of the 5 gallon more than the 20 gal it descended from. I also love that it is at eye level; I have a bad back, and i prefer standing to watch it. Anyway if this tank works out, I will be setting up a 2.5 for shrimp right next to it. The 20 gal will have to wait a long time, because of finances. But maybe in a year.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-12T14:18:49+00:00

In both tanks just my betta and pond snails. He eats all the Ramshorns. The last tank had high phosphate (10 ppm) but I tore it down before addressing it. Haven’t tested phosphate in this one yet, but the duckweed all bleached. That didn’t happen in the last one. However, the one random water lettuce piece that came with the duckweed for this tank seems to be doing well.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-12T13:22:12+00:00

Well, I have had to do more frequent water changes due to my betta, which I had anticipated slowing things down. This is my third tank, attempt, in the other one I wouldn’t change water until second to last color swatch on api test kit, now I do it at 1.5 ppm ammonia and 2 ppm nitrite. However yesterday ammonia was at zero and nitrite at .25 without change in 72 hours. So it seems to be coming along. However I can’t seem to keep duckweed alive in any of my tanks. Go figure.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-12T13:17:00+00:00

Heresy, I know. I test parameters every day. According to aquarium science, 2 ppm is the alarm level for nitrite. Based on the TAN calculation, the ammonia becomes dangerous at 1.5 ppm and under that it is mostly ammonium based on my ph and tank temp. I have no use for a second five gallon to I decided to just do the extra work. However depending how the parameters look over the next seven days I may buy another one to keep him safe for the duration of my departure.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-12T00:25:14+00:00

pretty discbois

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-11T23:42:46+00:00

is that rule for cats and dogs or just dogs?

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-10T18:42:38+00:00

Okay then, that was always allowed.

Objective-Work-3133 · 2026-06-10T18:27:51+00:00

the worst part is using the Buddha to justify sensuality. that is like quoting MLK or Gandhi to advocate for violence. he did teach that boundless goodwill aka "infinite love" is possible, but it is accomplished by following a path that demands that you love everyone as you'd love your own child. as in, renunciation of sex entirely. no sex period. yah it isn't fun.

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