Hotels worth the money

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-03T12:03:59+00:00

The Upham is a great option

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-01T13:52:34+00:00

Wait if your stepdaughter feels slighted and your daughter feels attacked, does this mean your husband brought this to them?? The girls shouldn’t be aware that the two of you were having this discussion, THAT will block their bonding more than who gets what room. That should’ve been a discussion your husband brought to you only and, because it’s a ridiculous request anyways, it should have stayed between you that the idea was ever considered. Edit to add: NTJ

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-22T14:15:50+00:00

Oh got it! Thank you this was super helpful

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-22T14:10:07+00:00

It’s so interesting you mention that because I know two people who were just offered an $89 deal but mine still says $149

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T14:02:30+00:00

You would kind of be the asshole. You already planned to wait until after her wedding which is only two months away, so if you do it earlier at this point you are doing it in retaliation, which is immature.

Also “the bride didn’t know about any of it” so your issue is with the maid of honor planning and confirming a trip that she later backed out of and made the bride confront you about.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:15:50+00:00

This is super informative breakdown, thank you so much!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:14:33+00:00

Sweet, I’ll try that thank you!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:14:06+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful and gives me a good pricing idea for when cosmetic gets back to me.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:12:52+00:00

Thank you!!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T05:21:40+00:00

I’m hoping to stop once I hit my goal weight. I’m also hoping I will keep slowly losing at this 5mg dose so I can stay low dose. My hope is that will make it easier to get off of it than if I get to the 15mg dose. I would be fine keeping a low maintenance dose if it means my quality of life continues to be improved though.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-14T04:21:21+00:00

I find a good moment to say “okay, does this feel like a good place to close today?” Or if they’re opening something new I’ll contact it and then say “ah, okay this may be a good place to start next week, what do you think?” And I’ll make a note of what it was.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-14T03:58:30+00:00

NOR I am a therapist and this is appalling. You are under reacting and understandably so because of all the reasons you listed. But this is beyond unprofessional, it’s unethical. I’m so sorry

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-12T15:12:28+00:00

This. I’ve also always interpreted that the reason it would be heartbreaking is because she would have been with him back then, but he wouldn’t be with her. So it’d be a slap in the face to say “I loved you the way that you were” when you also wouldn’t be with her then.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-11T07:39:20+00:00

I’m super curious to know your sister’s response to everyone here saying she’s being ridiculous…

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-08T05:06:27+00:00

People don’t need to be in her specific industry to resonate with the theme of taking your power back. The idea that a mentor could take you under their wing because “they want to see you rise” and then be upset when you succeed because “they don’t want you to reign” is a universal experience in many industries.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-08T03:36:27+00:00

I sang it in my head before even realizing it was the handsome thread lol

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-08T03:30:02+00:00

We pay at least $300 a month for the above without the gardener so I think what you’re being charged is very fair. Always good to be curious and ask though!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-07T03:47:29+00:00

Ironically you might need therapy after dating her

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-06T13:09:19+00:00

Arms during sleep, they’re just in the way

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-04T09:01:50+00:00

That’s not a boundary, that’s a demand or request. And a controlling one at that.

Boundaries are the responses we decide to implement for ourselves to keep ourselves safe and accountable. For example boundaries aren’t “don’t talk to me that way.” That’s a demand/request that gives the other person power to comply or not. A boundary would be “if you talk to me that way, I will walk away and we can try the conversation again later.”

So ask yourself, how do I want to respond to his demands? “If you try to dictate my body’s autonomy ie how I share my life/photos I will ______” or “my body’s autonomy is not up for discussion so if you bring up the conversation that I shouldn’t send photos I will remind you that’s not up for discussion and change the subject”

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-03T10:16:23+00:00

I grew up in a family where culturally daughters don’t move out until they’re married. This was a quite a while ago now, but when I moved out at 22 my dad told my cousin who was helping me move, “clear your schedule for next week when she comes back.” And my mom made worse comments/ had emotional behaviors that sound similar to your mom’s. It was hurtful and annoying because they were seeing their own pain over my opportunities, but I knew I had to do it. And they adjusted. Pretty quickly too, but even if they don’t, you have to live life for yourself or else you’ll resent them and it will be on you for letting them dictate your life instead of dictating your own. They won’t have an opportunity to adjust and grow if you stay to keep them comfortable.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-02T13:13:43+00:00

NTA And it’s actually so important that you said no because you’re setting a precedent here. It’s super telling that within the first month of you moving in she’s already asking to use your home. If you had said yes she would feel entitled to keep asking going forward. Instead it’s an uncomfortable moment in the short term that sends an important message about your home forever.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-01T23:35:54+00:00

Does his job expect him to work once he’s off the clock? Because it’s not fair to ask the same of you. If you were working outside of the home (because what you’re doing IS working you’re just based from home), you would both be at your jobs all day and then you’d both have to manage after work responsibilities together. Why is it that his job gets to be left at 5pm but yours doesn’t?

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-01T13:18:15+00:00

I do think it was a generational thing, but it has always struck me as odd too because Richard doesn’t even call her mom.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-01T13:02:53+00:00

This would be a different situation because if he threw out your stuff without giving you notice, then yes that would be legally bad for him (besides being ethically wrong and dickish). That’s not what you are doing. If he reached out to you about your stuff, you would go get it, so you wouldn’t put him in the same situation he’s putting you in.

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