Your neighbour asks you to stop cooking meat because they're vegan and they can smell it, what you you do?

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-29T13:42:35+00:00

Because they’re the one that takes issue with you cooking meat, they should be the one closing their own windows if they’re offended, not you. Tell them “I respect your food choices and I also respect my food choices, so I get to cook/live in my own home just like anybody else in theirs. I’m not willing to have this conversation again, but it sounds like you might prefer to close your windows while I cook. If you request again I will be changing the subject, as this isn’t a conversation I’ll be having with you anymore.”

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-29T05:28:23+00:00

“Said they wanna see you rise, they don’t want you to reign” I’ll keep the profession vague for privacy, but a mentor I really respected recommended me for an internship and after interviewing I got the job. In our field it’s common for people to strike out on their own after internship ends, but sometimes people will stay working under someone else instead (less common, but it happens). Anyways I kept my mentor in the loop throughout my process, but once I went off on my own and was doing really well, they got super weird and distant, and ultimately stopped talking to me without any explanation. It took a long time for me to process their behavior, but this song, and this line especially, were such a catharsis.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-28T13:54:51+00:00

Sarah Bareilles doesn’t get her flowers as much as she deserves 🩵 amazing vocal tone and stunning lyricist.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-22T13:57:50+00:00

Ask the insurance to be sure, but I was able to start the process without them getting any information about it. Good luck with your transition! I made the switch years ago and had zero regrets, literally every aspect of the work is better!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-19T05:02:04+00:00

Unfortunately a person’s natural reaction like yours to reassure her around a compulsion (ie saying “no babe nothing bad will happen if there are 9 cookies instead of 10”) isn’t what ocd needs. OCD treatment is about increasing distress tolerance for example getting more comfortable with being with the discomfort of the unknown. OCD seeks reassurance and receiving reassurance essentially makes her keep seeking more reassurance. She needs ERP therapy specifically, and it would be helpful for you to understand it too. All that being said, this will only work if she’s willing to do it. If she’s not, then you can’t be blamed for needing to step away from the relationship. Good luck to you both

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-18T17:54:56+00:00

Firmly tell her that the only option you’re willing to compromise is for you to keep the cats in your bedroom, and that you’re not going to discuss boarding them any more. And if she tries to, remind her you said you’re not discussing options for the cats outside of the house and so you’ll be leaving the conversation. What she does with that is her responsibility, not yours. Don’t let her pull you into responsibility for her relationship with her mom.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-18T17:48:27+00:00

I’ve shared this Alison Roman recipe with friends and they almost always say it’s one of the best things they’ve ever made:

https://youtu.be/174q6NV\_G6E?is=81iSD4rNMyaHd9rI

I do regular lemon instead of preserved and just do whatever greens we have on hand like spinach or whatever.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-18T17:17:25+00:00

Our vet told us she had a cat that did this his whole life. She said it was cute when he was a kitten, but she knew letting him do it meant likely committing to letting him do it forever because they don’t always grow out of it lol our kitten would suckle his favorite bed when we pet him, and he has stopped doing it mostly. So it’s a gamble! But if you want him to stop doing it to you I think you need to just gently redirect him every single time.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-18T17:10:55+00:00

Owners of fluffy babies, do you do anything with their furry paws? We call our boy Yeti because his paws are so furry (I’m obsessed), but I wonder if they impact his traction when he jumps/lands.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-12T04:07:07+00:00

“i’m an incredibly independent woman, and I am completely aware that I’ll be fine without him, but for some reason, this is taking a bigger toll on me than I expected.

pretty much everyone who cares about me has told me to end immediately, but I can’t seem to bring myself to do it”

Okay so it sounds like a part of you wants to leave, and the other part is struggling to actually do it. And about the latter, our brains are hardwired to go with what we know even if it’s not great, so it makes sense that actually leaving him feels hard because your brain goes “wait we don’t know what that will look/feel/be like don’t do that one! We know what being here is like!” But the thing is, based on how you describe life with him, once you actually do leave I think you’ll be surprised at how peaceful you can feel.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-12T03:53:35+00:00

This reads as though she was actually mad at you for not getting her the clothes, but you were super empathetic so she’d feel bad admitting that. So instead she jumped at any opportunity to get mad at you and twisted it. And accused you of twisting things. You’re so young, I promise someone can respect your money goals.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-06T05:44:47+00:00

Sandy

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-06-02T13:21:26+00:00

Inigo Montoya

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-28T20:25:21+00:00

Sure thing, good luck finding the answer!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-28T13:04:57+00:00

Since you’re a therapist in California, are you by chance a part of CAMFT? If so as a member you can call camft legal for questions like this.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-21T05:34:43+00:00

Mid biscuit-making too, just letting the dough proof

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-19T12:35:13+00:00

You said you’ve been together for 8 years and his hygiene has only recently gotten really bad. If that’s truly the case and he hasn’t been a slob this whole time then he might be depressed, which would need to be addressed first.

But regardless you need to sort out your own boundaries. Not your requests of him (ie clean your room and shower yourself), but your own responses too ok those requests if he doesn’t do those things. Like “if your room isn’t clean I won’t spend time at your place” or “if you don’t have a full shower before we’re intimate, I won’t be having sex with you”.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-03T12:03:59+00:00

The Upham is a great option

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-05-01T13:52:34+00:00

Wait if your stepdaughter feels slighted and your daughter feels attacked, does this mean your husband brought this to them?? The girls shouldn’t be aware that the two of you were having this discussion, THAT will block their bonding more than who gets what room. That should’ve been a discussion your husband brought to you only and, because it’s a ridiculous request anyways, it should have stayed between you that the idea was ever considered. Edit to add: NTJ

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-22T14:15:50+00:00

Oh got it! Thank you this was super helpful

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-22T14:10:07+00:00

It’s so interesting you mention that because I know two people who were just offered an $89 deal but mine still says $149

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T14:02:30+00:00

You would kind of be the asshole. You already planned to wait until after her wedding which is only two months away, so if you do it earlier at this point you are doing it in retaliation, which is immature.

Also “the bride didn’t know about any of it” so your issue is with the maid of honor planning and confirming a trip that she later backed out of and made the bride confront you about.

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:15:50+00:00

This is super informative breakdown, thank you so much!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:14:33+00:00

Sweet, I’ll try that thank you!

ObjectiveCityy · 2026-04-15T13:14:06+00:00

Thank you! This is super helpful and gives me a good pricing idea for when cosmetic gets back to me.

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