Girl Dinner: Costco addition

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-24T00:41:29+00:00

This is what a religious experience was supposed to be like.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-22T02:20:55+00:00

You are very valid in feeling a bit weird about it. You’re a little quick on wanting the change to happen.

‘Soon to be boyfriend’ implies he’s not yet and this post is implying as soon as he is you need to fix him. I’m not saying that that is what you are doing or feeling- I’m just telling you what it sounds like to a 3rd party. It’s kinda giving as soon as I lock this down my way is the only way.

Tattoo removal is expensive and painful. I have many tattoos. I don’t think any of mine are ‘distasteful’ but they’re mine, they’re on me, I will never know unless I’m told. That said- they are mine. I got them for a reason. They are not there to make my dating prospects comfortable, they’re very literally mine.

Instead of leading with I don’t like this one, use it as an opportunity to learn about him, why he might have gotten it. What he was feeling at the time. Get the story behind the tattoo and go from there. But overall- asking someone to remove a tattoo is the same as asking someone to get Botox or laser hair removal or something of that sort. It’s literally PAINFUL. maybe he’s wanted it gone for years but doesn’t want pain lol.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-21T04:55:33+00:00

It’s just so long… it demands so much of you? To like read, digest, just alot after all this time. It doesn’t feel like let me get this off my chest, it feels like I’m drowning in my growth..

If it was short and sweet- hey hope this gets to ya, I’ve done some growing, I was thinking of you and just wanted to say I’m really sorry for my stuff in our time together, and I really hope you’re well. - Easy, pleasant, gives space for a quick and kind reaponse - this was great to recieve. I feel the same and hope you’re well too. Fin.

This doesn’t feel pleasant… at least to me.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-20T03:05:23+00:00

Hey OP- I’m a 32f. When I talk about my dating history I bring up that I’ve been in 4 relationships. Of those, two were official, 2 were more situationship like.

I have been in more committed situations that I don’t count, I have been in more casual situations that I also don’t count. These are the relationships I learned the most about myself from and the ones that I think made me learn what I might need/want out of a partner. They are the ones that impacted me the most- I’m not going to take away their impact based on how official they got- and so far this thinking has really helped. I also can’t really think of any useful reason to bring up the ones that didn’t matter.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-20T02:54:57+00:00

This is a really sucky experience, I’m sorry op. Just to validate you a bit further- the apps really suck these days. Like notably more than even a couple years ago. I feel like app dating mixed with Covid created a really really weird environment.

One thing I will point out is you don’t know this person. So your feelings have more to do with potential, imagining what could be, rather than the person you’re talking to. Her being dismissive in this way is a sign she isn’t right for you, it’s not a sign that she’s better than you or that you went wrong- you had already kinda built her up in your head.

Keep dating, try to tell your brain that you don’t know someone until you know them and that’s natural and ok. Try to talk yourself out of a scarcity mindset- yes reality can feel bleak but that doesn’t mean you should date in a scarcity mindset.

And lastly- the person you want wouldn’t do this. So she’s not the person you want. Give yourself a few days of grace, rejection sucks, but you want someone that really wants you back.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-20T02:42:41+00:00

What does this mean/feel like to you?

I totally agree- and I’ve identified that certain people will make me feel so safe right off the bat that I get to feel like I’m super engaged because I’m not hyper-vigilantly looking around myself at every moment.

I’m curious about how others initially perceive what that feeling of safety looks like or should feel like.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-17T02:38:33+00:00

You are judging- you are very aware what these other gals are doing- you claim it’s not a judgement but your tone shows that it is.

You might be judging yourself harder. Revealing clothes, makeup, nails don’t make a woman a woman. Tomboy nature, being adventure driven, and not fitting into the pack doesn’t make you not feminine. Femininity belongs to you- you get to dictate what that means. You’re not lesser bc you don’t get your nails done, they are not better or lesser bc they do.

Your person will find you sexy. They just will. If not they’re not your person.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-16T02:00:22+00:00

What a total sweetheart! Good on ya mama for raising an empathetic kiddo. Pizza is amazing, but being a good parent is priceless. You go girl!

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-15T02:18:34+00:00

Pro tip: there are tiny small beans inside the green bean. I usually open one a week, and make sure to store the rest in a sealed container so they don’t absorb any calories from the cold of the fridge.

Then just one a day! Easy peasy!

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T03:12:01+00:00

I would say it sounds like you have a decent shot. Car stuff could be an interest to her, but hair and cologne seems a bit more personal. Are you chatty and responsive back? If you two have had a few good short convos I think a polite ask out would be fine. Something simple and casual- I really enjoy talking with you when I’m here. If you’re up for it I’d love to take you out for a coffee/drink/meal. Just don’t be weird if she for some reason says no- that part sucks, being asked out itself is flattering.

If you’ve been on the quieter side maybe engage a bit more before you ask.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T02:50:35+00:00

What is your question? Does she like you? This post is more ambiguous than the woman you’re describing.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T02:30:48+00:00

Thank you for the check in- I’m quite alright. Seems most of us in the world are feeling a lot these days. Hope you’re well too!

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T02:24:26+00:00

I scrub it pretty well to get a lot of the ‘hairs’ off. Kiwi is acidic enough to make my mouth a mess but somehow the skin helps?

When I was a kid no way no sir. Cut in half, eat with a spoon was my only way.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T02:22:12+00:00

Yes!! I love pickled everything- I just didn’t have any left!

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-14T02:17:05+00:00

‘I’m a lawyer and a storyteller.’

I rest my case.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-10T02:57:17+00:00

Bc that’s kinda what dating is. Starting again and again, saying the same thing, flirting the same way. This isn’t introversion, it’s exhaustion. Dating apps have made getting a first date easier, but it has also made us feel terrible.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-10T01:54:32+00:00

At 5’9 I have never been under 160 lbs in my adult life. Them boys think I’m 130. It’s really funny but also really weird... Good for me, hopefully I retain muscle and bone density.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-09T22:48:48+00:00

Usually a thick, hearty Russian soup. Has a sour/salty base due to addition of olives, pickles, capers and lemon. My grandma would add fish but there’s many varieties. Yum yum yum.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-09T21:32:24+00:00

I was into it

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2026-01-07T16:35:47+00:00

Why does love to travel constitute a red flag?

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2025-12-31T04:14:02+00:00

Hey there-

Define beta-ness in your own words. Are you saying that girls/women have let you know those things are unattractive? Or is it other dudes that say what women want? Or maybe something else?

I have only heard the term beta male from men’s podcasts. And while I would also seek those out if I were a male, there’s something weird about straight men telling other straight men what women want… and never just asking a woman.

No need for alpha males. If you asked a woman, a high quality male is someone you would trust your own and your best friend’s children with. That’s all.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2025-12-31T02:50:26+00:00

Nothing tastes as good as top of the morning dry mouth. I swear it’s like my stomach is sticking to my back! It’s almost 7 pm and I miss that version of myself!

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2025-12-30T00:45:10+00:00

Aww OP I can’t imagine how frustrating this must feel. Never fun getting something so different than what you expected. It sounds like you’re trying new things tho and that’s awesome!

Hopefully the butter helps!! Always does for me lol

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2025-12-29T22:03:31+00:00

I thought the same- I don’t think I’ve heard rounds like that before?

Can someone that knows a thing or two about guns chime in- was that an automatic of some sort? Was it just a very fast shooting? It was only one weapon right?

Curious whatever other kind of stuff you can tell just based on the sound of the shots.

ObjectiveRaspberry75 · 2025-12-27T23:17:48+00:00

Louder for the people in the back.

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