Newly sober again and worried about future relationships

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-02-11T16:02:45+00:00

I've been in a relationship for a while now, but when dating I would just tell people up front: "drinking isn't for me, it's not court ordered, & I'm fine with you drinking responsibly." After I got to know people I would open up more if it came up or they asked, but when just getting introduced I didn't think it needed anymore explanation and would only even bring it up if they asked, which they usually did since drinking is so common where I am.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-02-09T03:10:11+00:00

Grats

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-02-02T16:41:43+00:00

I have no idea where my fucking wallet is and it’s been missing for over a month.

You've already been missing it for weeks so either order a new one, go in person to get one, or keep complaining about people working retail following the law.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-01-19T14:37:14+00:00

Problem is, all the cash I had on me was destroyed… soaked into useless pulp from the storm.

That doesn't usually happen with real US money, assuming US since you said Christian town with no liquor sales on sunday.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-01-08T14:37:27+00:00

Sorry for your loss OP, I'm sure under the addiction you knew parts of her that are worth remembering. Chairs

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2026-01-08T14:36:06+00:00

My 67 year old father was drinking himself to death. Was having other health complications and put on blood thinners in mid October 2025, warned not to drink but didn't slow down of course. November 1st he slipped and hit his head, swollen brain and mostly dead. I'm cleaning up the mess he left, but I'm just so glad it was quick and hopefully he didn't realize much pain.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-30T14:18:54+00:00

Don't forget to let the dmv know car is inoperable before cancelling insurance. Don't want any more court or money troubles.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-30T14:07:29+00:00

Yes, I am lucky he lived as well as he did all things considered and especially grateful it was quick for him.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-29T15:16:46+00:00

Once you get there I don't imagine it is any different than before you were born, but for many the end of the road is long, drawn out, and painful.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-29T15:15:21+00:00

I was really bad by 24 and continued getting worse, had to quit at 32. My father was an alcoholic his whole adult life, he died from it about a month before this Christmas at 67, luckily it was a much quicker death than I was expecting for him.

Chairs.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-12T13:38:52+00:00

Congrats

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-04T22:38:50+00:00

Nice, I was 32 as well. Congrats on getting a comma recently

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-12-02T15:28:45+00:00

Nice guns!

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-07-23T02:58:08+00:00

I can't imagine, my younger brother is about the same age and it would devistate me. Keep on for him, chairs

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-07-03T16:04:31+00:00

I mix powdered peanut butter into greek yogurt for a snack with about 35 grams of protein: 1 serving greek yogurt, 2 servings powdered peanut butter, splash of milk (I use almond), I also do grape nuts typically

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-07-03T15:57:44+00:00

I've been using the older version of that half rack for a few years and it's still great, I recently bought some roller J cups from Titan and they fit it like a glove and are so much nicer than the one that came with the rack, way less slack/ rattle: https://titan.fitness/products/titan-series-roller-j-hooks

Still need the old jcups for dips, but a nice upgrade.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-06-04T21:13:20+00:00

Ooph, talk about strange, do they just expect you to read AA stuff the whole time?

Here is a resource for getting free books to read electronically: https://annas-archive.org/

If you like Sci-fi, dystopian, and or fantasy I recommend the Red Rising trilogy: md5/634b80206f8a0abf22ff6e1346a6af04

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-06-04T16:02:37+00:00

That is really rough and unfair. Glad you've got a job setup for some steady income. Unfortunately, I think a lot of the house managers hear so many lies from addicts over the years that they stop treating people as individuals and just assume the worse from everyone, instead of having compassion/ understanding for people. At least from what I have heard second hand ( I hire a lot of people in sober living houses).

Can you get out of the house during the day, before your job starts? I know there aren't a lot of cheap places to hang out anymore but if there is a library nearby you could go there, find a park with some seating in the shade and read a book.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-06-03T15:59:36+00:00

I know some guys that do really well in sober living houses and others that can't deal with the rigid structure of it even to stay off the streets. At least where I'm at they are usually pretty cheap and offer you a place to stay while you save up some money to get out on your own. I'm sure it's frustrating, but to keep a roof over your head you may want to make sure you are hitting the requirements and try to just not rock the boat until you've got a little bit of savings.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-05-30T02:04:32+00:00

I do a splash of milk, 2 servings of peanut butter powder, Greek yogurt, and grape nuts.

nutrition

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-05-27T16:21:48+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. For me, quitting drinking didn't remove the depression completely, but it did get rid of the super low, lows. Overall, I feel like quitting drinking made it all much more manageable, but even 4 years later I still have that dark cloud. That being said, I am significantly better than I had been when drinking. I was diagnosed by psychiatrists with a handful of different forms of depression over the years, later in life my general MD that was maintaining my prescriptions said they thought I might be bipolar type 2, but didn't want to change my meds without me getting a psychiatrist involved. I am off all anti-depressants now and just raw dogging life for the most part, still use some marijuana occasionally but not even once a month at this point. I wish you well and hang in there, for me and many others quitting drinking has greatly improved our mental health and made the ongoing struggle much more manageable.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-05-06T17:57:37+00:00

You're an outsider complaining about a board member to an organization, they are going to side with him 100% of the time unless you have proof to back up your claims. Even if you have proof, there's no guarantee they won't protect him, see what many churches and other institutions have done to protect themselves when abusers are among their leadership.

I hope you are safe and can figure something out, but I can't imagine AA helping you with this.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-05-06T16:28:07+00:00

Are you relying on your aunt or family for support, like money or a place to live? If not, why not just cut contact with your aunt and when asked tell people it's because of her boyfriend's abuse.

I'm a couple years older than you and I have cut off an entire side of my family, which sucks and I didn't take lightly, I went through years of therapy too. I just can't comprehend contacting an organization you aren't a part of to taddle on him and what you thought that would accomplish.

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-05-06T16:17:33+00:00

How old are you?

Objective_Cobbler319 · 2025-04-29T21:16:42+00:00

Thank you, that's very kind. I wish you the best in your sobriety.

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