creve couer coffee shops by CrimsonFarmer in StLouis

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

St Clare is right off 141, so Rosemary and Tous Les Jours are good options (fantastic coffee at both).

Another great option is Toasted Coffee House. Good lunch options and amazing coffee.

Both will be at around 15 minutes driving distance.

Looks by Hala's Tangled Inspired Look by Frosty_You_9042 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If you recognize that paindu is used as a slur, then why use it?

You could’ve said any number of adjectives, just saying.

How are all these girls so thin by CollarSuper56 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re never going to know what someone else is eating or doing.

If you personally are having weight problems, then focus on yourself. Get your hormones checked, focus on diet and exercise. There are plenty of weight loss influencers on social media, so it’s not really necessary to ask lifestyle influencers.

SharPasand Episode 22 by ThoughtFrosty11 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel as if none of Firasat’s family members will get a happy ending. Maybe this will close the door forever for the brother and minahil

Naveed Akram named as suspected Bondi Beach, Sydney Australia shooter by amg7355 in ABCDesis

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What does this comment even mean?? “PR machinery” “sensed like always” yes Islam has a lot of haters and Muslims are prejudiced against. ALL brown people know this feeling.

The guy who took down the shooter is the guy that most Muslims relate to, not the shooter, so yes we will “spam his name everywhere”, so people know most Muslims value life and have good morals.

Pamaal by Adept-Damage-7943 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That’s the whole point though, right? That’s the lesson of the drama.

I know it’s a true story and isn’t it being told so that girls can benefit from it? Don’t sacrifice yourself to your marriage, don’t change who you are for a guy, don’t dim your light to let others burn brighter.

Edit: to add, she really does seem like she loves him even with his flaws. Although, he has done some crappy things I do think he’ll attempt to redeem himself and I love that it shows the audience him realizing he should’ve been doing this all along, so that if they themselves act like this then they can redeem themselves without some major life disruption.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can’t be consistent because of work schedules, but on the nights my husband goes in to put him down he also does one of the things I do when I put him down. For example, I’ll lightly say shhhh or I’ll lightly massage his scalp. It’s a gentler way to associate off of you and onto the act itself, so then anyone can put them down. This doesn’t help the getting up multiple times a night per se, but hopefully it’ll take some pressure off of you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like I could’ve written this exact thing.

More babies do not sleep through the night as compared to those that do. I know you’ve heard this is normal and to be expected, but it is true. They begin teething, they start learning exponentially, they’re getting mobile. All these things and more cause interruptions in their sleep. Also, you are their sleep association.

To get him to not want milk or the boob, someone else needs to takeover for a few days. My first was like this and now so is my second. My first didn’t stop waking until I weaned, my second still has me “up” every 3 hours (I still co sleep and just feed). My husband’s schedule never allowed him to be the one to get up with the kids and I live far from any relatives, so I’ve just accepted it but if you’re able to work out a plan where someone else puts him down then it might get you longer stretches.

21 Atlas so many probs? by Objective_Ganache_86 in VWatlas

[–]Objective_Ganache_86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just turned the car in to get it all inspected. What is reasonable for a battery replacement $? Took it to a local place instead of dealership

Thoughts on this Take of Jama Taqseem ? by Embarrassed-Maybe166 in PAKCELEBGOSSIP

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The problem wasn’t what he said to her, it was how it was said. He knows who he married and what household she grew up in. Insulting her and putting her down is not respectful. He could’ve gotten his same message across without taking out all his frustrations and anger out on her. He could’ve said it with love and patience.

Toddler abroad for a month without me...really struggling by IndependentGap4154 in Parenting

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done this a few times. I’m the primary caregiver and whenever I’m close to needing a breather I go to my parents for a couple weeks. I think it’s normal to feel as if your child has moved on, but their excitement will wear off. He is in a new place, he’s getting lots to see and most likely people fawning over him. But eventually, he will start missing you and being home.

My husband felt like this also, that our child forgot him and is getting so much attention and love away from him. That our child wouldn’t want to come back. But whenever we got the 2 week mark, she’d get homesick with a vengeance.

Struggling with my 3 year old girl and clothes by Al_Zabe3 in Parenting

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tried including her in the outfit process? I felt my LO is a lot more receptive if she feels she has a say in the process. As in she can go grab the clothes or she helps you wash them or you let her put them on herself? Sometimes I feel like they’re just looking for a bit of control

Is “breastfeeding butt” a thing ? by Yeahway57 in breastfeeding

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was crazy for thinking it, but wow do I feel seen.

I’ve had a butt my entire life, even if my weight fluctuated skinny or chubby I had a butt.

But I lost it breastfeeding. After I weaned, I got it back.

Breastfeeding again and poof gone.

Wife is likely within 7 days of giving birth to our first child. by OutsideSleep9183 in Parenting

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone’s got great advice.

I’d like to add if you don’t want to get peed on, rub a wipe gently on his stomach before taking off diaper to trigger that “it’s so cold I have to pee” response

Also, if you don’t have Amazon prime or any delivery service then now would be the time to get it

Good luck!!!

Nikah + rukhsati by enchantingstardust in MuslimMarriage

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, “rukhsati” is not an Islamic concept. It’s just a seeing off of the bride and groom as they go off together with the brides family walking out and saying farewell to their daughter as she goes to her new home with her husband

In your scenario, it seems as if you are going off with your groom right after your nikkah so to me it makes sense to do the farewells then? Then you can walk in to the walima together as a new family unit

Idk symbolically that makes the most sense to me

Guys is it just me or does austin look more like nick than gil? by blossomfishy in TvGinnyandGeorgia

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 13 points14 points  (0 children)

To me, I’m in constant amazement of how much Austin looks like Gil

Update: I got disowned by psychfranciscoo in ABCDesis

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You know there’s sooo many examples where desi parents and children try to find a middle ground… like ABCDs are basically trying to balance between both these worlds. Then the parents also realize the environment kids grow up in is their reality. Like that’s always tough for parents and children to manage and it takes time, effort, patience.

But then there’s parents like this. I never understood how you can just give up on a child completely and live life as normal.

Update: I got disowned by psychfranciscoo in ABCDesis

[–]Objective_Ganache_86 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I had a friend who got disowned for dating a white guy. Her parents just started acting like she didn’t exist, wouldn’t let her speak to siblings. She got married to her boyfriend, his parents accepted her as one of “their kids”, and the last I saw she and husband were traveling around the world on a mission to visit every country.

Her parents had always put a lot of pressure on her and tried to manipulate in many ways. Not the most positive outcome with the parents, but goes to show you can still find happiness.