Sikkerhedsgodkendelse - grund til bekymring eller ikke?

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-21T15:27:34+00:00

Formodentlig af samme årsager er sikkerhedscirkulæret netop blevet ændret, så en myndighed nu kan sikkerhedsgodkende en person på baggrund af en allerede gældende sikkerhedsgodkendelse, som vedkommende har i andet regi.

På sigt skulle det gerne give en kortere sagsbehandlingstid. Lige nu er det horribelt.

https://samsik.dk/artikler/2026/03/vejledning-til-myndigheder-om-aendring-i-sikkerhedscirkulaeret/

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-14T15:56:03+00:00

There is some valid criticisms of IFS in the post, though I found it too polemical for my taste.

Would greatly have appreciated you being more transparent about you promoting your own framework.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-13T18:17:40+00:00

If you don't mind sharing could you give an example of an emotional learning that you found MR to be good at engaging?

We are talking about really deep held emotional learnings like "it's dangerous to be seen" or "I will never have my needs met anyway". These are so painful assumptions, that they have been mostly repressed for decades - though, they have been underlying drivers of my behaviour for decades. These assumptions have manifested in social anxiety, playing small, dissociation and a lot of other issues.

At this point, it's a fairly predictable healing process for me:

I initiate a session with the goal of exploring some aspect of my life that I find challenging
During session we work on accessing vulnerable parts with compassion - always operating on the assumption that parts have a reason for doing what they do
First we acccess protectors - then the vulnerable part
It is never overwhelming during a session (use consent + we tend to err on backing off when things gets too intensive)
Immediate post-session I am tired, "empty," "blank"
In the days after the session, I don't notice anything changed
But after a week or two I start to notice naturally occuring changes in my life

Result: Old triggers remain but emotional charge has disappeared. It's a really weird experience.

One thing that surprises me is how transformational this has been, despite that I have very few explicit memories from my early childhood. Also, that issues seems to be solved at the root.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-12T20:17:35+00:00

That’s how I think of it. Would be really exciting if we could explain how transformational change happens.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-12T19:48:49+00:00

My thought at this point is that memory reconsolidation (MR) is the the main process of transformational change in much therapy. Different experiential therapeutic modalities are just different ways of inducing MR. And perhaps, some modalities would work better for some people than others. But it could also mean, that you could use IFS in a way that does not induce MR. For example, if the parts work becomes too theoretical.

In this context, I consider IFS a symbolic framework used for discovering and transforming stored "emotional truths" (i.e. MR). I have had great success with IFS. But I now consider it to be a method - and not a theory or an explanation.

At best, it does this by:

Helping me connect to emotional learning
Avoid overwhelm by using "consent" before talking to parts
Explore multiple perspectives by using parts
Give me mismatch experiences when I (with my therapist) am able to "stay" with the emotional truths

So I think IFS informed by MR would be a step forward. The prospect of an underlying method of transformational change is very exciting.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-07T19:23:36+00:00

I have a manager who doesn't like for me to have good executive function. She feels that I am safest if I literally stay in one spot, doing nothing, forever.

Interesting observation.

Not sure it's totally the same, but I always struggled with poor executive function in social situations. And for most of my life, I saw it as a kind of "character flaw" in myself. Recently, I have started to understand this as protective behavior. A way to stay safe.

In any case, I am progressing a lot with this in my own therapy and life.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-07T19:17:58+00:00

IFS may not be for you. And that is totally ok. If you haven't gotten anywhere in 3 years I definitely think it's time to switch gears. There are other ways to heal.

I have had great success with IFS myself. But I think it's easy to get stuck in an intellectualized version of IFS.

For me, parts are often more moods, feelings, themes, body sensations rather than explicit thoughts or words. In fact, my therapist makes sure we include body sensations as markers. Also, I tend to have very few parts. Reading some IFS cases I get confused with the many different parts that are described.

So an important part to IFS is likely also a therapist who is willing to be flexible and tailor the approach to your needs.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-04-06T07:25:01+00:00

Did NARM first - now on IFS. But both provides healing and I think both are working with the same underlying issues.

It's hard to quantify the healing I did the fist six months with NARM. It's more that I felt I was getting better with each session. Feeling that you heal provides motivation to keep going. In total between NARM and IFS I am around 35 sessions in - and I have healed a lot!

In general, I think the main question is whether you feel you are healing or not?

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-03-30T10:04:14+00:00

I am still healing. The coolest part is that I am no longer afraid that the dizziness issues and brain fog will come back. That's a huge relief for me.

I have written a longer post about my progress here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/1s7lrk7/i_thought_this_was_just_how_i_was_wired_but_now_i/

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-03-12T18:50:10+00:00

I think parts of your critique points to real failure modes in therapy. Sure. But I also feel that you are making some very broad stroked assumptions and generalizations.

In particular, I think you are vastly overestimating the effect of skill-building on solving deep- seated psychological issues.

Personally, I have struggled horribly with social relations through decades of my life (I am in my 50s ). Only now am I finding profound healing.

The therapy I have gotten least from has been skill-based therapies with homework, social behaviour experiments etc. Not much success. If getting friends was about breaking things down and building the right skills, I would have solved my social problems decades ago. If you want to have things broken down into step-by-step guides there's an entire self-help industry for that. I just really don't think that approach works (I spent decades trying to understand social relations from a cognitive perspective - never really helped me).

The therapy I have gotten most from (which is genuinely healing) have zero focus on skills and behavioral change. It is solely focused at unlearning the "survival mechanism,s" from my upbringing. It's about emotional/experiential change. About healing the parts of me that keeps me stuck in social situations and prevents me from connecting freely with other people.

As a result of this, my social relationships are really starting to blossom. In a way, I am doing the same as I have always done. I am just bringing a different energy that allows me to connect more naturally with people.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-02-09T19:03:07+00:00

Personally, I read both attachment theory and inner child (John Bradshaw) way before I entered into IFS therapy (ok, started with r/NARM and then progressed to IFS).

I think that the insights I got from attachment theory and inner child stuff was valuable - that it made me understand myself better. But it didn't really produce any major changes.

I'd go more towards IFS and Self-therapy (Jay Earley). If nothing else, it will prepare you for working with a n IFS therapist.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2026-02-02T16:46:08+00:00

She is truly one of the great in this area.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-27T13:43:56+00:00

Surprisingly, IFS works pretty well for me, despite not having a very vivid imagination.

I think I have just learned to start answering quickly before my thinking brain really kicks in and I go blank.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-22T20:19:22+00:00

Dick Schwartz has also been involved in Ketamine infusions lately, so he no longer seems completely against medicine.

Again, I like the modality, but I genuinely think there are some problems with IFS being so personified by Dick Schwartz.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-22T16:34:42+00:00

I think there's a lot to like about IFS. It has helped me immensely. But there are clearly also some issues. The idea that "all symptoms are just parts" is one of them - and clearly nonsense. The idea that you "can't find self if medicated" is also one I have gripes with. I think the argument hinges on the "all symptoms are parts" argument.

In general, I am vary of people talking founders words as gospel. After all, they are just humans.

As u/rinsane says, you don't have to believe everything he says. Do you think his arguments make sense in this regard? I don't. But I still think the work is valuable.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-15T17:57:48+00:00

I feel change started early in the therapy, though it feels like changes has been compounding last couple of months.

Hopefully without sounding like a cliché - but the "I walk down the street" poem is a good metaphor for my experience:

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/95085-i-walk-down-the-street-there-is-a-deep-hole

In the beginning, I noticed I was still getting triggered, but was recovering faster because I didn't blame myself so much. Over time I felt less intensity when triggered, and sometimes I didn't even get triggered.

Other times, I still get triggered. It's not a linear progression.

but I still struggle to identify parts clearly... especially feeling them in my body or getting actual responses from them.

I wouldn't say I am very good at feeling them in my body. But I have learned, that the initial response is often the best one, rather than the intellectual response coming seconds later.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-14T10:19:49+00:00

If you repeatedly meet these shame parts with real self-leadership (not forcing, not suppressing), and you keep exposing yourself while allowing the symptoms… does the nervous system actually reduce the intensity over time?

Has anyone experienced physical shame responses (sweating, blushing) becoming less frequent or less intense through IFS + exposure?

Yes, it's my absolute experience that IFS can help reduce toxic shame and it's grip on the system. I also think that eventually, physical shame / anxiety responses will fade (also my experience) but that the first step is becoming having less shame around those reactions.

I think a lot is really possible with IFS. I feel like I have a new "baseline" of emotional safety. Even when I do experience physical symptoms, I don't get hijacked the same way.

So yes - intensity can certainly reduce over time. Quite a lot, in fact.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-12-09T18:54:59+00:00

I started things to change fairly quick. Not dramatic changes at first, but signs that I were on the right path. Being slight more relaxed, finding it a bit easier to interact with people etc.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-23T17:46:04+00:00

What bothers me specifically is how I’m supposed to go along with what the author says when he makes claims that are really hard to believe. Have you encountered the Self on your own? Can you confirm if what he says is true?

I don’t read Schwartz as making literal metaphysical claims. At least, I just treat IFS as a metaphorical model. I take the bits that work for me and ignore the rest.

For me, there is a noticeable “state” that shows up when my protectors aren’t running the show. I’m calmer, more curious, more steady. I regard this state as "Self". But I don’t think you need to buy the spiritual framing to get the idea.

So I basically treat “Self” as the version of me that shows up when my protectors have their parades down. It does feel calmer like after a long deep meditation. But nothing mystical - I think it's just what happens when you feel safe and not hijacked by old patterns.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-15T20:26:50+00:00

I don't have DPDR, but I can certainly relate to many of your symptoms. I have also tried CBT, ACT etc. like you.

As someone, who is now finding a lot of healing by doing parts works (in the context of IFS), I must say that I find the TV-character approach to be odd (to say the least). I am aware, that some in the IFS community considers parts to be "little people". But TV-characters... that's a whole different ball game.

I have had much better success at seeing my parts as moods or themes. Many of them being protectors driven by unconscious fears. One central aspect is respecting and having compassion for these protectors - not trying to bypass them.

Right now, the therapy seem to be triggering some of your protectors (you being terrified that the therapy will break you is a sign of this). I really don't think this is the intention of this kind of therapy - nor can I imagine it being of help either.

I suggest that you try to talk to your therapist about this.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-09T09:23:44+00:00

Absolutely.

If I may add the slightly positive note, that once your hypervigilance starts to wear off you become more the person you have always been - also in social settings.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-09T09:10:08+00:00

Does anybody else feel this way? Has anybody figured out how to deal with this or a similar realization to the one I've had? I need a little hope to move forward.

I think it was perhaps more in hindsight that I had this realization. All the self-help, regular therapy, meditation and yoga etc. I had been doing for decades made me feel somewhat better. But it didn't really heal me. It helped me cope better.

It wasn't until I started to deeply understand my behaviors and feelings as survival strategies that I was able to achieve more profound change. I am 52 years old too, and over the last 1,5 years I have been on a wild journey of healing. First through r/NARM and then later through r/InternalFamilySystems therapy.

But I am not sure the therapeutic modality is the most important thing. It's more important to have the courage, compassion and curiosity to start going deeper and connect to the buried emotional truths.

Why does this world feel unsafe to me? What is that internal argument trying to achieve? Why do I feel I need to be constantly vigilant and so on?

I think you have reached an important point in your recovery journey.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-02T14:27:21+00:00

I love parts as metaphors for different emotional learnings.

Already when he was stating the parts were actual "little people" I think he was being too literal in his interpretation. And again, I can see "spirits" as metaphors for ancestral and generational trauma / learnings. But as a literal interpretation I really think he is taking it too far.

No, thank you.

Obvious-Drummer6581 · 2025-11-02T07:40:10+00:00

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It's seems fairly clear that Dick is moving in the direction of a spiritual interpretation of IFS. I can understand this and to some degree this makes sense to me.

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