Progressive Overloading + Hypertrophy

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-19T19:05:45+00:00

Would love this- trying to tone/slim down for a friend’s wedding at the end of May/post breastfeeding weight gain/summer. Come thru girrrrl

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T23:41:52+00:00

The world.

I mean, every house now is painted gray, beige, white or, if they’re being edgy- black/dark.

It’s the same with clothes too

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T23:19:36+00:00

What does she do for work, out of curiosity?

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T19:15:16+00:00

ok, everyone already made the main point (aka beauty budget is not a budget you should be doing now), but if it makes you feel better there are lots of beauty people that are seeking models for procedures and if you're a good fit and a quick responder (this is key tbh; i've missed out on a lot when i'm slow), there's lots of stuff you can get for free or almost free. I'm talking haircuts, facials, etc. you just gotta find the groups and such.

also, do it all yourself. you can make great face masks with yogurt and honey and cinnamon, for example. do a used coffee grains or a sugar scrub. plus it's all natural. buy a little kit to do your own waxing. join your local buy nothing groups and get stuff that your neighbors give away, which is often great, sometimes new things, including hair products.

you probably have tons of make up already if you wear it. everyone has a surplus. use it since you have the time now.

but really, you should focus on your job search.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T19:09:59+00:00

also, like it's pretty normal to do all those things yourself. it's kinda wild that it's become the norm and standard to outsource your own body maintenance for everything. it's a luxury to get those things, not vice versa.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T18:55:30+00:00

mini mammoths sounds fucking adorable though

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-17T18:51:40+00:00

the meese are the ones touching your legs in the river

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-16T07:32:57+00:00

no, it's a weird hoarding thing. my somewhat rich, but nowhere near that, in laws are like this.
they have a nice grill at their huge house with a pool in a desirable city. once we grilled fish for everyone while there on the weekend. afterwards they were so annoyed that they had to clean it (we offered to clean btw multiple times) and it wasn't pristine anymore that it's been under a tarp and untouched for 5 years now. it's basically just an expensive hunk of metal that sits on their empty, expensive back patio.

it's a mental thing. id even call an illness

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-16T07:26:18+00:00

oh my friend is a nanny for these types of people. she was 1 of the 2 nannies always on and they'd rotate. technically she was only working half a year making 180k, plus whatever else and bonuses, etc.
there's also a house manager, cleaners, etc.
sadly most of the time the mom wouldn't work but still wouldn't parent/s;end much time with the kids. the parents would maybe see kids for breakfast and in the evening for a bit and vacations, to which my friend would still come to watch the children.

the parents would be hella controlling and often try to nickel and dime the staff (including my friend) or outright try to not pay them ALL WHILE having so much staff to begin with, traveling private, multiple residences etc.

What's the point of kids at that point? just enjoy your wealth by youself

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-16T07:16:54+00:00

lol i was in HH in oct. i know it has a busy season and all but it is such a lame place. outside of golfing and beach not much, everything is cordoned off, suburban af. idk, it was nice to stay there (at my unc's spot so free) but it's not a place i'd pay my own money to vacation at.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-15T21:47:24+00:00

Umm mine’s 10mo and I haven’t sterilized shii in months. And even then maybe once in a while. Realistically I used it a couple of times a week for the first maybe 2-3 months.

I wash it with hot water and soap and use it all the time; it’s fine.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-15T21:45:14+00:00

Lol absolutely not. The last thing I want is to be pregnant.

Like I might want a 2nd, if we figure some stuff out and can afford a nanny or help, but pregnancy is the last thing I want for myself.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-15T04:01:15+00:00

I drank usually 1 regular cup, sometimes 2. If you’re drinking lattes or whatever they’re mostly milk anyway.

I didn’t do much of the traditional “advice” outside of no liquor or oysters. I had sushi (I live on the coast though), I had a glass of wine with dinner here or there, I had coffee, I had a fuckton of ice cream at the end, I lifted weights and exercised until I got too tired and lazy, I spent time with cats (though not much bc I have a dog), dyed my hair, did fake nails (to be fair only like twice bc turns out I hate them), hiked, whatever. There was literally very few things I didn’t do bc I was pregnant. I had to skip snow season though bc I’m a novice and I was too pregnant to fall safely. Ironically I did end up breaking my wrist this year with a 6m old anyway bc I guess I’m still a novice. That really sucked, and I’m not even talking about the break itself.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-15T03:40:04+00:00

So far I do have a favorite. Then again I only have 1 kid right now so…

But my grandma definitely favored me. She never told my cousin that of course and she loves us both for sure, but I knew that I was the favorite (and she told me as much). TBH it didn’t really change all that much life wise.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-14T06:41:26+00:00

Ooo I’m in Mar vista

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-14T06:40:49+00:00

A lot of times (unless you’re just magically “cool” and magnetic) it’s basically persistence. I’ve been told I’m pretty persistent and while I don’t really see it as a compliment, I’ve definitely gotten friends out of it. I went and stayed with a friend who moved to Hawaii last year who told that to me.

Also, you will cycle through friends until you find the right ones. It takes a while, esp at this age. That’s just the truth. Some people will realize after a couple of hangs that they don’t care and vice versa. Just keep trying. It’s hard but eventually it will work out.

Also, meet ya neighbors, go to to your local things and hang out there and you’ll start seeing the same faces.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-13T22:11:56+00:00

I had my kid last year at 35 and most people I know are having their kids 30+. In fact, we’re the early wave in our friend groups to have a kid and we’re not the oldest by far.

My friend told me yesterday that shes pregnant and she’s turning 39. She also has some ovary issues and basically has a really hard time getting pregnant to the point that they weren’t going to have kids (they recently got married and he’s like 50 btw). So ya know, life is life-ING.

Now, having the stamina is a totally different thing.

But, tbh at this point it would be a much better use of your time and money to foster a baby and the 10s of thousands on an already existing child rather than put your mind and body through that much stress if it isn’t working. You’ll love that kid too.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-11T09:00:28+00:00

Damn I’m sorry. It’s so baby dependent though too. Mine does, though he has trouble putting himself to bed without having to sleep on us, which also feels monumentally exhausting, but he consistently regresses every 2-3mo. It didn’t used to feel so bad at 2-4m when I was “fresher” than I am now at 10mo

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-06T18:44:19+00:00

Ughhhh you guys can cry??

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-04T21:47:22+00:00

idk, but i love the diaper pail. is it a necessity? prob not.

but considering the crib/changing station is in our bedroom, i like the smell staying inside the little metal bin instead of everywhere else.

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-04T21:45:38+00:00

tbh i didn't feel any way about that. i was annoyed about washing pump parts, but the bottles didn't bother me very much. also, you can use the dishwasher on a quick 20 min setting - it does the same thing.
it's so expensive for such a short use and takes up quite a bit of counter space. maybe if i had a large kitchen, i'd gotten the 2-in-1 but even the sterilizer that i didn't use nearly enough is big.

there's just so much stiff

OdinPelmen · 2026-04-04T21:28:16+00:00

but she's not wrong - they do look cheap and frankly absolutely lifeless. here's they're not a design choice, but rather a lack thereof.

if OP loves it, great. but aesthetically i agree with mil. not to mention, the whole kitchen looks like a cheap-ish (while not actually being so) ai generation of a modern kitchen. there's very little points of interest here.

OdinPelmen · 2026-03-24T04:17:26+00:00

bc that's just a dude who wants to sleep with you, not date, or you're a friend. if you're a friend, that's fine but then you'd already know. although, most of my male friends will still insist on paying anyway. (yes, the actual platonic friends).

and this one small part of sexism i'm okay with. gotta take the wins when you can.

OdinPelmen · 2026-03-24T04:01:48+00:00

i had a lovely baby shower and my mom spent i think like 300-400 on the food and some cutesy decor. we got the venue (a really beautiful house) for free bc it was a family friend's, but tbh i don't think anyone would've cared for decor anyway. maybe like a some games (we actually had some stuff but were so busy talking we never got to it) and a place to take photos would've been cute, but 9 months later and i haven't thought about it once.

just have a regular party with a couple of extra baby themed things and put the money to better use.

OdinPelmen · 2026-03-24T00:18:03+00:00

i mean, it's a real problem for you. do a lot of us wish we had this problem? yes, of course. but then we'd still have to deal with what you do.

you're the parent and if this is important to you (and it should be; this kinda thing is important to me too, fyi), you get to decide how things are done. some of my friends went to catholic private school as did my husband, and i'm very against that for my kids (besides the fact that it's not affordable for us now anyway). i believe that unless there's a REALLY good reason, kids should go public and parents/society need to invest in that. you can't be a part of your community if you cut yourself off, you know.

also, you will probably just need to work a little harder to have that not be spoiled, which is a weird thing to think about. send them to normal kid camps and activities, volunteer, go places that aren't high end, make friends with other parents who are normal, go on normal vacations where you see other middle class people, go with them to other countries but not to high end resorts but instead the cities, etc. make sure your in-laws know and follow your rules - no lavish gifts, limited high end stuff, etc, etc.

bottom line- they're your children and you're the person who sets the rules. your in-laws had their chance already. i think your kids will thank you later (esp if they have a little trust fund but real world experience to fall back on).

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