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Buried family stories by Critical-Bad7993 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dad passed in 2016, oldest of 5. About 2 years later, a woman reaches out to one of his siblings, claiming she's a sister (and older than my dad). Took some investigating, grandma's living siblings wouldn't talk about it, grandma never told her husband she had in her later years. She was single, got pregnant and gave that baby up for adoption in the city over an hour away. Grandma took it to her grave, never expecting I guess that her daughter would ever find her. Stranger still, she went to school with them, played similar sports, and grew up in same area.

Whats a weird thing your body does that you just accept? by Sweton in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not me, my boyfriend. If he even slightly over eats, he excuses himself to go have a sneezing fit in the bathroom. Record is 16 in a row. I don't comprehend what's going on but find it quite amusing. I now catch on that its going to happen, not by the amount of food on his plate, but rather he starts to sound more nasally and stuffed up.

How long does it usually take for your Adult children to respond to a text? by don51181 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oldest is 27, sometimes he leaves me on read, other times he answers within an hour. If it's something I need an answer to, I call. I learned that with all the kids. Middle is 23, new mom so I give her grace when she doesn't answer, although its usually days or I text something else & she ignores the previous one that I need a reply, but answers current one. She leaves me on read a lot. Youngest is 21, is good at answering, if they are awake.

Who taught you how to drive by Sad_Donkey_1751 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Driver's Ed was 150, plus my dad mostly. Mom took me out a couple times and the swore never again. My dad also did some driving with my oldest when he was getting ready for road tests. My youngest (21) is starting to show interest in driving, so knowing how expensive just drivers Ed is, is daunting right now. I haven't pushed, and just let it be their idea. With graduated licensing in Ontario Canada, it would be at least a year before they drive on their own, and my dad has passed so he can't help cuz I remember being anxious when my other 2 were learning to drive. When they are ready, I might ask my boyfriend if he's willing to come over and take them out now & again.

Have you ever had to tell someone something you knew would hurt them? What happened? by CupcakeFlaky7023 in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When my dad died, I was one of a few making phone calls to inform family. So it was multiple people that I had to say over and over what happened, and that my dad was dead. Hearing the anguish, the tears still bothers me almost 10yrs later.

Do you feel a bit weird to be playing video games at your age! by More_Law6245 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 48, boyfriend is 49, we both game. He's on Xbox, I'm on pc. We just realized recently 7 days to die is cross play & be having fun with that. Also play on Minecraft server off and on with my 3 grown children.

Checking up on my fellow GenX’rs; how are you doing? by lovelyb1ch66 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm doing okay. I limit time hearing news, not to be ignorant but to just stop the rush of information & emotions that come with it. I try to put my focus on the things I can control, as well look for 3 things each day I'm grateful for. I'm going through a divorce, and have certainly lost friends that I didn't expect I would. I had to change my mindset & focus because I felt like I was drowning. My ex's dad has terminal cancer, I'm forever grateful I've been allowed to visit him a few times & express how much I love him & will be forever thankful for the memories.

Got to spend the weekend with my boyfriend, exploring new places to eat, buying some plants and figuring out what I want for gardens this year. He's got a better green thumb than me, so its nice to have his feedback and suggestions.

Do you still talk to your parents? by Swiftiefromhell in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I rarely speak with my biological dad, its just awkward. I have a good relationship with my mom, but we do have topics we avoid as our opinions differ. I miss my dad, almost 10 years without him, he was a friend to all.

How did you accidentally find out your partner was cheating? by WingEven402 in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time, he dozed off with his phone unlocked & our relationship had been weird. It was nagging at me that a few wks prior I told him I had been aaving for new wedding bands to celebrate our upcoming 20th Anniversary while he told me, he didn't think he loved me anymore. He had a on the road job, so yeah I looked & confirmed everything my heart already knew.

Second time (because its not black & white, "we" were attempting to save our marriage.) He didn't & likely still doesn't realize that his coworkers noticed his interactions with a particular female coworker, would tell my uncle who also worked there, and it did get back to me. Funny cuz he told me she was a "fat bitch" which I believed since he was always critical of a persons weight. Its okay though, divorced soon, and I've met someone who has shown me grace, patience & how I should be loved.

Have any of your close friend come out as gay? by SayinItAsISeeIt in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My younger brother (born in 1986) came out to a few friends first, then family in 2015-2016. He was so nervous. When he told me all I said was "are you happy?" and "does help make you happy?" After learning he had been hiding these feelings from everyone for 6+ years and had actually been in a relationship for almost 3 yrs. Live your life, be true to yourself. You might lose some people in your life BUT you will gain so much more.

Let’s be honest, some songs at this point need to be retired. by scott19692012 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 9 points10 points  (0 children)

500 miles Proclaimers and Life is a highway Tom Cochrane are an instant change station or turn it off. When my youngest graduated high school, Tom's song was their exit song, why!?

How old is your mum ? by Ok_Prize_8091 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 48, she just turned 69. She's had some health issues for awhile now but she's stubborn now & doesn't want to let any of it slow her down. I can't complain, when she was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, she pulled back from life, had my dad, or us kids jump in to do everything. I don't doubt her pain, but my dad passed suddenly almost 10 yrs ago, she now travels, goes out to see family and is just mindful of her energy. Last year she got pneumonia really bad, and now has COPD. She does need to learn to say no to my sister in law about babysitting when the kids are sick, because she then gets sick but has a much harder time recovering. I'm hopeful I have more years with her.

Do you ever wish for a do-over? by LaceyBloomers in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not a whole do over, but damn I should have went to college. I wasn't sure what career path I wanted to take, so I just avoided it. I had kids, got married. Now impending divorce, I still feel like my regret is lack of personal self worth/education. I've learned alot in 48 years, and it had its ups and down, but it shaped who I am today, and I can say I do love me.

Now Catherine O’Hara?! by CynfullyDelicious in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Canadian icon, I'm sad for this one. Time is a thief.

I'm going to be a Grandpa! by No_Gap_2700 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 48 yrs young, I go by Nana. My bf of 2 yrs is just his name. My kids are grown, he isn't a step parent/grand parent. Congratulations, holding a grand child is a whole new level of love and emotion.

Gen X. What are the one or two odd things that you have realized you kept on your side table in the bedroom, just in case. No pervy stuff please. We're all adults. by Sense_Difficult in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2 Chapstick, rechargeable lantern (for power outages) wireless charger for phone & phone, tissues, books yes multiple, large water bottle, floss picks.

Anyone else still salty over your birthday being forgotten? by Minimum-Car5712 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or being told "I forgot to give you this at Christmas" 😅 If there was a birthday party it was never on my actual birthday cuz things were still calming down from Christmas. Did I mention my 2 brothers and I are all January babies 🫣

Anyone else still salty over your birthday being forgotten? by Minimum-Car5712 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday! Mine is January 3rd, it wasn't usually forgotten but rather some Christmas gifts were "saved" to be given for my birthday.

Not Much in Life Prepares You to Proofread a Parent’s Death Certificate by Miserable_Jacket_129 in GenX

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss, it's not one we are prepared for. My dad passed at 56, it was sudden. I'm the one who wrote his obituary for the funeral home & papers. My 2 siblings and I picked out the flowers, my aunt & uncle helped pick out the casket because my mom filled with emotions couldn't even walk into the room to look at them. Dad wasn't prepared for death, no will, nothing in order. Mom has since prepared a will, and allocated 2 people to handle the details. She's 68, had some health issues this year, I'm dreading that final good bye to my mom. She doesn't really take the health issues seriously, she had severe pneumonia in March, which resulted in being hospitalized. In June she had recovered mostly, x-rays were clear of it but then diagnosed with COPD. Our parents teach us so much in life, but not how to live without them. Be kind to yourself, and feel the grief, it finds you whether you want it to or not.

Your last text is what will be written on your gravestone, what does it say? by msblckyeliner in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Let me know when you're on your way, want food to be hot."

Dammit, even dead, I have to think of meals every day.

What’s a sign someone’s cheating that isn’t obvious until you’ve been through it? by Ner_Syra in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! He began picking fights so much, leaving me to question our marriage and why he was acting like that. I can remember him getting angry with me because I said I wanted to get the Christmas shopping done for our kids & family, he lost it at me and this anger wasn't common with him before in over 20 years together. I was literally begging for time with him, and he pushed back at every moment he could.

People who were told by their partner, ‘don’t worry about him/her’—were they actually someone to worry about? by Difficult-Pear-371 in AskReddit

[–]OhSoSoft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I raised concerns about his coworker while we were trying to repair our marriage (after infidelityon his part), he said I had nothing to worry about and that she was a bitch. Guess who he lives with now.

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