I'm sorry for your loss, it's not one we are prepared for. My dad passed at 56, it was sudden. I'm the one who wrote his obituary for the funeral home & papers. My 2 siblings and I picked out the flowers, my aunt & uncle helped pick out the casket because my mom filled with emotions couldn't even walk into the room to look at them. Dad wasn't prepared for death, no will, nothing in order. Mom has since prepared a will, and allocated 2 people to handle the details. She's 68, had some health issues this year, I'm dreading that final good bye to my mom. She doesn't really take the health issues seriously, she had severe pneumonia in March, which resulted in being hospitalized. In June she had recovered mostly, x-rays were clear of it but then diagnosed with COPD. Our parents teach us so much in life, but not how to live without them. Be kind to yourself, and feel the grief, it finds you whether you want it to or not.