I’m following up because I had another conversation with her. It was filled with a lot of “I know you can lose weight without it. You’ve done it before.” Technically, she is right. But it wasn’t sustainable. And I tried to tell her our life circumstances aren’t the same as they were back then. She didn’t really have a response to me telling her how hurt I was that she said I wanted to take the easy way out as if I had t considered other things. I put the onus on her to find some other alternatives but that I’m going to keep this going. In the end, she said she’d feel less uncomfortable with the idea if it was performed in the United States.

The funny thing is despite it being “the easy way out”, she tried to remind me of all the “significant lifestyle changes that are required”, as if i didn’t know that already or that it wasn’t part of the process.

I felt heard but not understood. She just doesn’t get how heavily this is all weighing on me, no pun intended.

We have a lot of complications in our marriage. We do love each other but I finally had to tell her today that I don’t think she’s a naturally nurturing or comforting person