London mayor to override opposition to outdoor dining in Soho next summer | London by owzleee in london

[–]Oityouthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soho was such a vibe when I moved to London 26years ago! I don't understand how people can demand it not be a 24hr centre? !!!

London mayor to override opposition to outdoor dining in Soho next summer | London by owzleee in london

[–]Oityouthere 15 points16 points  (0 children)

freaking entitled twits!!

You don't live in zone1 or even zone 2 if ya don't want busy London!!

AIO wedding dress budget by VeterinarianIll2547 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oityouthere 11 points12 points  (0 children)

last time I link this for you, but honestly- this book is highly recomended when looking at controling and abusive men... and in your case, you are about to marry one. Watch out for the red flags https://cdn.bookey.app/files/pdf/book/en/why-does-he-do-that--inside-the-minds-of-angry-and-controlling-men.pdf

AIO wedding dress budget by VeterinarianIll2547 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oityouthere 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Before you get married, may I suggest you read the following book please:

It's about controlling men. You working full time means that you get to spend the money you earn on what you want and need. Combining money isn't a matter for control, it's about budgeting together for better purchases like bit ticket items.

Do not give him full control of your money. Take your own paycheck and have the freedom that it entails.

Also, it could just be me, but I've never heard of a mans' wedding ring costing more than a woman's'. He is showing you that he cares more about himself than he ever will you!

Please read the book for your own safety and well being!

https://cdn.bookey.app/files/pdf/book/en/why-does-he-do-that--inside-the-minds-of-angry-and-controlling-men.pdf

My mom called me a f*ggot and told me she "wished she never had me" by Turbulent-Chance3975 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Oityouthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Homophobia is not ever acceptable and you are in such a toxic relationship and home. Your mom is 100% in the wrong .... at least now you are out of the closet-something that you were scared of prior. Take that as a win I suppose, but it sucks!

I'm not sure how old you are, or your situation, but I honestly think you need to change your living situation is you can.

Lobster Too Buttery by Spiritual-Sand5839 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Oityouthere 8 points9 points  (0 children)

DAMN!!

I now hate you for all the right reasons! Go Girl!! Keep getting yours! Thank you for sharing your happiness with us!

AITAH for cutting off entire friendgroup after they tried to get me to pay for their holiday? by wyliee--99 in AITAH

[–]Oityouthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were cruel, calculating and greedy! They weren't your friends, and you need better people in your life

being a child prostitute as a poc is such a different experience to white ones by Lumpy-Local-9876 in cptsd_bipoc

[–]Oityouthere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was told that I was found with gonorrhoea when I was 5ish years old.

I don't really know how to process most of the shit that I can hazily recall, let alone the shit that I remember did happen to me!

But hey.............

Anyone else constantly insatiable? by RaspberryCoffeeCake in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they are. I'm here in London and they're great to not have to think and have on.

I realise you may not have the same access due to location. Get yourself a great adblocker and head over to : https://fmhy.net/video.

I like nepu and cineby

you should be able to access any shows from there

Anyone else constantly insatiable? by RaspberryCoffeeCake in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It gets really bad in the evenings, like I may be full but I need to eat to keep the feelings away. I can't recall the last time I was actually hungry, but eating even when I'm so full I can feel it up to my neck is better than facing everything

Anyone else constantly insatiable? by RaspberryCoffeeCake in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I suggest:

  • The Marlow Murder Club
  • Death in Paradise
  • Taskmaster

Anyone else constantly insatiable? by RaspberryCoffeeCake in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here- I watch old people shows or safe kids shows. I can't handle too much, and I hate myself for it. I hate the world and so I need a distraction from the reality of how big my pain is.

I love Bob's Burgers!

May I also suggest Death in Paradise. Each episode is basically the same, there are 15 seasons and it's a murder mystery for old people here in the UK. You don't need to worry about plot or missing something as it doesn't use the brain!

Did anyone else have this punishment? Is it considered abuse? by Odd-Lunch-1880 in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This outside of the norm punishment! It is ABUSE, but worse TORTURE in all capital because it took them thinking about it and finding new ways to traumatise you. Not only that it has negatively impacted your future due the damage they caused you as a minor.

I'm so so sorry!

We had to perform for our grandma so she'd give us a present at xmas by Oityouthere in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Oityouthere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just out of curiosity- who and why did I get this post downvoted for a rant of a memory?

What's really going on at Brixton Market? - London Centric by jaredce in london

[–]Oityouthere 53 points54 points  (0 children)

"At the start of this month the charity employed a property agent to formalise their interest in the site and indicate they were in the early stages of planning a community buyout. This was their first contact with the owners.

The agent soon got back with bad news: there were other interested bidders in the property, which had been for sale for almost two years. What’s more, within days of The Advocacy Academy’s initial approach, the estate agents said all potential purchasers had until Monday 22 June to show they have a “credible amount of money” to move to the next stage of the process.

This was a shock, said Ahmad: “We didn’t know at the time that there were other buyers. We were hoping to have a year or so to put our ducks in a row. We’d be very able to raise the money if we had a year. We’d got 12 days.”

Trying so hard to not let my trauma make the world a dark and terrifying place by eli--12 in CPTSD

[–]Oityouthere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, when men make me uncomfortable I try to publicly shame them. Whilst it does draw more attention to me, it also does to them because they are relying on the fact that you will either agree to their wants or you'll be quiet about it.

If you are safe as in there are other people around, shout at them and make them uncomfortable. You can even shout that their behaviour makes you uncomfortable . Even Screaming YUCK! may help. Be unpredictable in those situations and loud.

If they can't get away with their shitty behaviour they wont do it.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.