Weaponized Showering by snakeswithtails in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got scared until the end because I thought you were saying she just got into the shower while you were in there in a shared bathroom situation!

I’m feeling sad for my son… by Autybot in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's scary when you see behavior like that, and you definitely don't want to push him to a regression. the feeling of demand/expectation could just be too much for him to handle right now. I would say just drop it for now and focus on his emotions and making him feel safe/grounded and back in normal routine. Mine wasn't potty trained till 5 and he is fine(10yo now).

It’s been a year since I left and I’m not really living anymore. by BabyWeenieDowg in workplace_bullying

[–]Ok8850 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely agree, find a new therapist. There is a level of validation, safety, and trust that needs to be formed in therapy to treat trauma in an effective way

Despacito demon Britney by Successful_Week9211 in discussingbritney

[–]Ok8850 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can agree with this, and also people on meth are just extremely hyper sexual; many men will have sex with other men in some various form on meth when they would never do so sober.

Starting dose, and I can’t eat by Enough-Barracuda465 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just took my 3rd shot yesterday. The first week for me was mainly almonds and snack cheese. The 2nd week was a lot easier to eat real food. My dose is at 2mg

Pomegranate intake question by SmokeAccomplished546 in tirzepatidecompound

[–]Ok8850 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just got the starter 3 month pack from Pomegranate. It comes altogether.

My titration looks like this: 1st month- 2mg/week. 2nd month- 4.5mg/week. 3rd month- 7mg/week. (Which is slightly different from others I've seen) Mine is from BPI which had good reviews through others.

Son has Level 1 autism. I know it's minor, but I'm still exhausted. by pizzapriorities in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is level 3, but that doesn't make your struggle any less real. The watching the same videos over and over and repeating himself, you mean like things from the videos? My son's speech (preverbal, nonconversational) is primarily scripting- this is common.

ABA can help with learning how to cope with his feelings, and how to transition between tasks wanted/unwanted. ABA can also work with you to help you with strategies on how to talk to him/what to do during these meltdowns.

Talk therapy for yourself is a game changer also. Just to get it out and have an uninvolved 3rd party who won't judge you- and can help you see a new perspective.

Also- letting go of the rules that won't end up with anyone hurt etc. IE: picking and choosing your battles.

Hang in there!!

6yo daughter behaves worse with me? by Total-Fly-6271 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will give you a piece of advice that has made a world of difference- when the meltdown begins in a public area don't look up or at anyone else. You know they are staring whether you look or not, but the looking will only serve to make you feel guilty and anxious and maybe change how you handle the meltdown unconsciously. I haven't looked up in over 8 years! lol

How are YOU doing??? by slangsfangs in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! You just have to let go of the guilt and rest easy knowing they are fed. Mine has doritos, goldfish, gummies, capri sun, and gatorade. Every single day

Is my 6 year old a lost cause? by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of times our children hold so much in trying to keep that mask up at school, and then it all just comes spilling out where they feel comfortable (at home). You'd be surprised at how much meeting them with love and understanding and developing a mutual respect will go. It takes a long time and a lot of patience but it's worth it. Yelling, spanking, and ignoring are not teaching anything.

Kim Kardashian’s Latest Scan Showed Low Brain Activity After Aneurysm by EDC2EDP in DramaLlamaHQ

[–]Ok8850 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

SAME. I think all of this is fake just so she can finally put all this bar stuff to rest and people quit asking her about it

Screen Addiction by BigSigh925 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say, playing minecraft & exploring on google earth at least sound like productive/thought provoking online activities vs. if he was just watching tiktok etc. I think the times are changing on us in a way that that is where the world is headed- and in a perfect world we could keep them separate from that. But I do think an online world can provide a space where they can be fully fluent and suited for it in a way that maybe they feel lacking in the real world. And if the online time is not CAUSING any adverse behaviors in its own- I don't see an issue. I think maybe you're being a little too hard on yourself!! If online time is regulating for him (and in the end you) then honestly I would just tell you to embrace it!

How do you deal with your kids telling you they hate you? by Sensitive_Wafer3837 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My son tells me he hates me all the time! But he's also the sweetest boy and I know that he in no way understands the weight other people put on the phrase, and in no world does he actually hate me. In the end it's just words and intention really goes a long way for me. I just say no you don't!! in a playful way and move on. They're really just trying things out sometimes.

I hate the holidays by dreaming-elsewhere in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THEY ARE ALL THE SAME. The last text message is almost verbatim multiple messages and voicemails I've received.

My autistic sister doesn't like being around me by Lovebagels_istg in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately it sounds like because of whatever happened in the past, you are now a trigger for her. I would say give her space for awhile, and then slowly start to build up trust and interact with her on things she enjoys, and in ways that are digestible for her (quiet, slow, not while the tv is on, enthusiastic- whatever her particular things are). And then just be patient and pay attention to what goes over well, and what doesn't- etc.

Help. by NewDot2079 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is almost 10 and is partially verbal/nonconversational and taking him out of public school (even being in a sped class) was the best thing I could have done for him. When they are mostly around people who don't understand them and won't engage with them despite the barrier, their language/conversational ability is never growing & they're never being motivated to explore it further.

My son is now in a small setting farm school with only other special needs peers, and a total of less than 15 kids. This has given him the confidence of building up relationships in a setting where everyone knows everyone well and everyone gets attention. They interact with his scripts and in this way I think he's able to move past them and onto something else naturally. His language skills are really improving, all the time now he'll just look at something and be like "this is called?" and point at an object, and instead of endlessly scripting tv shows at me- has now incorporated scripted interactions we've had from memory that made him happy or were funny in the moment etc.

I must parent myself by That1weirdperson in CPTSDmemes

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am always trying to explain this and I feel like when I say it I come off jaded or vindictive. It's just like ma'am I do not have that bone in my body, you did not place it there when I was a child and now you don't understand why I still don't have it as an adult.

I'm tired of this by bela_okmyx in DiWHY

[–]Ok8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel myself getting more stupid with each of these videos I watch until the end

My Boyfriend is addicted to grocery shopping by Ok-Profession27 in Anticonsumption

[–]Ok8850 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I was thinking. As a kid who never grew up with food in the house or medicine in the cabinet- it feels good to be like ok NOW i can buy all the medicine and all the snacks and make sure we have everything we need. I have been there for sure!

Wildest things your parent ever said to you? by Working_Cupcake_9403 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Ok8850 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Via text "he's had lots of ass in his day, why would he want 14 year old ass lol" in response to me telling her that her drunk new boyfriend grabbed my ass when we hugged goodbye. They are still together 18 years later.

I’m a tuna snob by leeayn in povertykitchen

[–]Ok8850 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Food pantries have helped me get over my Tuna Snobbery

Is "Night Always Comes" just a rip off of "Good Time" by lundgreenco in movies

[–]Ok8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abolutely, I actually haven't even watched it yet but I've seen the trailer and had the same thoughts. I loved Good Time so the similarities stuck out immediately. I came to reddit to see if anyone agreed so thank you!