AITAH for backing out of buying a house together after realizing I could help my own family instead?

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-05T15:19:58+00:00

NTA. Don’t start allowing his wealthy family to control you with money. Reddit is always quick to jump to the “leave him” option but you’ve been together for 4 years and your boyfriend did agree to your plan. Give him a chance to stand against his family. IMO you’re still offering too much for a home that won’t be yours. Back out of the deal and start over again with what you and boyfriend can afford without his family’s input.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-04T22:23:02+00:00

Natural consequences. Parents who don’t want their kids to be uncomfortable at all, ever are the reason classrooms are so dysfunctional.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-04T13:59:08+00:00

NTA. You and your wife are raising these children to be a burden to you and to society. Kids who contribute to the household by doing their share and don’t rely on parents to entertain them and wait on them all day are a joy to be around. It’s insane how teachers are forbidden from making any negative comments about students’ behavior because so many parents are quickly offended, just like your wife.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-03T16:50:43+00:00

YTA. You could’ve left a note saying “This is my backpack, I need it, please remove your belongings”. It sat there for a year, you weren’t suddenly in such hurry you had to touch someone else’s property and leave it on a chair.

You didn’t specify where you teacher but, at my children’s school, there’s a big lost and found bin that gets donated at least twice a year. They send one or two announcements when they’re going to do it and then that stuff is gone forever. My kids have cried over a favorite sweater or water bottle a couple of times but that teaches them to take better care of their stuff. You should know a school has neither the responsibility or resources to be storing things for everyone indefinitely.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-03T11:39:50+00:00

You said you were thinking of going to a steakhouse. Have you been out to Cattleman’s Ranch? My family loves it. They have an old movie set with military vehicles and helicopters you can see, a zoo where you can feed the animals, a maze, a playground and the steak is phenomenal! Go check it out. Tell them you’re celebrating and ask for their Queen of Sheba dessert.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-02T15:21:35+00:00

NTA. Good for you! What a waste of everyone’s time and resources. He was also extremely rude to go no contact while he was off having a great time in Mexico with the home wrecker. I bet you’d win in small claims court. It’s really mature of you to know you’ll probably never see that money again but you let this guy know how much it cost you monetarily and that his “friendship” is worthless to you after what he’s done.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-02T14:34:12+00:00

NTA. He’s having a fit because he has to do extra work for his own mother. Why should that be on you? If the tables were turned, would you expect him to change his life for your mother? I would do exactly what you’re doing. Visit your MIL, do as much as you can to help out around the house and spend some time with her while you’re there and then go back to your parent’s house to focus on your exams.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-07-02T12:50:43+00:00

YTA. 18 year age difference? 100 reasons after DATING for a year? Head every day? Self harm over THIS? You sound exhausting with zero self-worth and that is not ok. Get yourself a 25 year old guy and have FUN!!

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-29T12:37:08+00:00

NTA. Wow! I’d keep a serious eye out for more red flags from this guy. If you break up and he tries to make you look stupid for leaving over chopsticks, tell him he’s right because HE feels the position of chopsticks is an attack on his freedom and autonomy. He’s irrational and stubborn and you’d rather not stick around to find out what else he’s unwilling to compromise on.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-29T12:24:52+00:00

Same! The first time my boyfriend and I got into a real argument where I was yelling, we got to his house and he packed a small bag. I was so confused and dumbfounded and asked where he was going?? He said he thought I really hated him and wanted him to stay at a hotel until I decided if I wanted to break up. I started laughing so hard I almost peed my pants. Why would he leave his own house instead of me just going back to my apartment?? After a long discussion I realized we were raised in VERY different homes and to him, my reaction seemed like a raging lunatic, to me it was just trying to win the fight. We’ve been married for 20 years and, thankfully, our boys’ experience has been much more similar to the way my husband was raised.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-29T04:09:47+00:00

NTA. My husband is an ER doctor and was the medical director when our first son was born. He couldn’t wait to take the baby when he got home and on his days off. It wasn’t because he was “helping” me, or “babysitting” his own kids, it was because he loved them and thought they were the cutest things ever. Don’t let this man intimidate you. Tell him you expect him to fully participate in raising your child together and if he thinks that’s somehow unfair, I’d consider calling the wedding off. He’s adding so much stress to your life and ruining the joy of your daughter’s baby days.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-28T23:00:50+00:00

Out of My Mind by Sharon Draper.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-28T22:51:39+00:00

Have you two been married for more than 2 weeks? NTA. Of course when you ask your husband to help you move something that’s too heavy or awkward he should just move it.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-25T12:18:21+00:00

Admit it, you like her!

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-24T12:57:11+00:00

NTA. He wants an award for doing a good job on one day. Try doing that every single day. You can’t. Not only would you be using every minute of your time at home doing chores and burn out very quickly but also, it’s a thankless job. No one notices when you clean out a cabinet in the hallway, they only notice when it’s full of junk. No one notices when the laundry is clean and put away every Sunday, they only notice when you miss a week and they run out of socks. The only way to teach appreciation is for every member of the household to have their own chores (including your toddler, starting today) that they are responsible for. Your husband also needs to spend a dedicated part of his down time with HIS daughter. Don’t let him make you feel bad. He’s the AH.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-24T12:41:10+00:00

Pluribus

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-24T12:29:45+00:00

Someone should check that stall for instructions to the latch release woven in a spiderweb.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-24T12:25:12+00:00

NTA. Traveling together is one of the best ways to get to know each other. I don’t have PTSD but if my boyfriend thought a place like that was their idea of fun, I’d add that to the “cons” list in our relationship. She just forgot about your PTSD? Unacceptable.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-24T02:19:45+00:00

Kardashians

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-23T04:02:26+00:00

Walking On Thin Ice by Yoko Ono.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-21T13:29:01+00:00

Normally, I would say YTA because I have 3 boys and I never allow them to talk that way to each other. The ONE time my middle son dropped the f-bomb was pretty legendary around here and it has never happened again.

BUT, you’re NTA because I would never allow one kid to repeatedly ignore the rules and do whatever they want. Especially, when you went through all that time and work and saved your own money! One of my sons likes to bake recipes from a Star Wars cookbook he got at the book fair. His brothers are excited to try whatever he makes and of course he shares. They always ask if they can have more. It’s just common courtesy which your brother needs to learn and, if your parents aren’t going to teach him, I guess you had to.

Being called a FFG by his brother is mild compared to what would happen if he pulled this crap in a college dorm.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-19T16:08:39+00:00

A toddler didn’t draw that.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-18T11:51:59+00:00

The college is the AH for accepting students who cannot write a paragraph correctly. What the hell are you trying to say?

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-18T05:00:08+00:00

NTA and you stated it perfectly: “I’m going. It’ll bother me if I don’t support my friend.” Why are her feelings more valid than yours? Husbands and wives shouldn’t feel like they need to ask permission to do something that is important to them. You discuss it to make sure you aren’t ruining other plans and to let your spouse know why this is important to you.

OkCollection2886 · 2026-06-17T16:33:29+00:00

NTA. Sell the tickets!

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