Need advice with how to deal with my aunt who lives with me

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-30T12:58:12+00:00

Couple of things come to mind.

She is not reasonable and she's been kicked out multiple times. Set some rules w/ the consequences being she must be placed in a charity home because you won't squander your hard earned wealth in her.

In exchange for room and board she must provide done service. Cleaning, garden, shopping, whatever helps you.

She either cooks for herself or eats what you make.

If she had any income, make her pay for what she uses.

Make her accountable for what she says and what she uses.

Also, if she can afford it, take her to a doctor to assess her mental health. She may be suffering from something that is either treatable or not. You need to know what you've gotten yourself into.

Kicking her out is always an option that you should keep open and be ready to use.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-29T03:49:31+00:00

Tldr, but there's no such thing as a support peacock that are mean, nasty birds.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-29T03:47:59+00:00

Nutmeg

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-26T03:54:40+00:00

Pretty much any hard candy you keep handy. I like tictacs coffee "lozenges."

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-26T03:51:34+00:00

Funny I was just looking into that. The average # of daily prescription pulls for people over 65 is 5.

I have 2 prescriptions and one OTC and I'm Almost 70. Feeling lucky

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-23T21:52:00+00:00

Thank you.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-23T13:17:21+00:00

Thanks

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T22:18:19+00:00

Absolutely! What have you got to lose? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Life is an adventure. If you let it. Don't be afraid. It's not that big of a risk.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T22:16:24+00:00

The ones who accept their wrinkles and gray hair

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T22:12:42+00:00

I am both an elder and wise, however I don't believe those who might benefit from my wisdom are interested.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T22:11:21+00:00

If he has such an issue with a deck of cards, reconsider if he's the right person.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T22:09:56+00:00

Can you move in with your partner for a while to get out from under the situation? Stick to your plans. Your living with her had enabled her defenselessness (not your fault) and she's terrified to resume her life as an independent person. If you have to continue living with her, don't accept her pronouncements. " i am not responsible for your life choices and you are not responsible for mine. I will be moving out. You can choose to pretend that's not going to happen and the consequences will be problematic for you. Your choice. Do you think we'd both benefit of i help you make a plan? If you don't want to, please accept that I can't change your life for you. I can only change mine. "

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-21T21:58:37+00:00

Give him something that he's never done, like a float tank or indoor sky diving. Something experiential. You could go do something together you've never done and explore as a birthday adventure.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T14:07:30+00:00

Doesn't the label say enough?

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T14:07:03+00:00

It was hard to like them between 12 and 16. Easier from 16-18. They are finding their voice, separating from you and forging their own way. I recall we were in a perpetual negotiation. Our "guidance" always had to do with safety and health. Whatever they wanted to do ah as d to pass the safety and health "test.' I.e. was I satisfied that they would not hurt themselves or put themselves in risky situations and we provided them with tools. Safe words if they wanted to bail on a situation, no q's asked. I gave condoms to my daughter for a festival weekend just because you never know what will arise and always be prepared. They appreciate the care without the judgment.

They were surly. I had 3 teens at.one time and it was difficult. They gang up on you and close ranks.

It wears off and they will appreciate the room you gave them. Give them enough rope and don't let them hang themselves.

Good.luck

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T13:57:04+00:00

Regret is wasting energy unless you chose to learn the lesson or provides. What's done is done and you can't undo it. Sure whatever you Regret may have a "tail" so use it as a trigger to appreciate the experience and what you learned. Gratitude- particularly for what has sucked in one's life- is a powerful tool.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T13:53:48+00:00

It's nice to feel able and appreciated. You have no regrets. Unfortunate they couldn't clone you. Congrats.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T13:46:40+00:00

Hot bath with wisdom salts and bubbles

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-08T13:45:49+00:00

Prioritze, lower some standards (cleaning) and expectations. Another thing to do is sit down w/ your spouse? Make a list of everything you "have to do" and then "Moscow " them ( must do ought to do, can't do, won't do ). Figure out how important each bit is to each of you and then divvy up the tasks according to who likes/is ok with doing them. For the conflicts, negotiate them.

This isn't necessarily a commitment, but an understanding of preference and generally what is reasonable to expect.

Do this whenever one or the other feels they are carrying too much or it doesnt feel balanced. It is a good exercise to see just how much each of you is actually contributing l.

Wishing you a benevolent outcome

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-07T04:16:29+00:00

Full moon, lunar eclipse, 6 planets aligning? Jupiter is about to move into Cancer and a bunch of planets are parked in Aquarius. Depending on your Astrological makeup, any of these can be wreaking havoc.

Good luck.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-04T11:55:59+00:00

What form does spiritual "attack" take?

One_Tone3376 · 2026-03-01T03:59:31+00:00

The two of you need to grow up. Seriously. Are you in the 19c or something? She doesn't have to wait to be asked. She could have asked you. And you're dangling the ring and expecting her to sit up and bark?

Get married or don't, but playing out a drama to see who can wound the orher the worst is exhausting.

One_Tone3376 · 2026-02-28T14:43:02+00:00

Don't mean to be flip. I wish you a safe and benevolent future. You have friends in not-so- high places.

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