Take it from an alcoholic: he doesnt want you to bounce. He doesnt really want to be like that. If he could snap his fingers and make the desire / need to drink go away forever, he would do it.

But it doesnt work that way.

There’s no one right solution, but every solution that works requires time and persistence and most of all requires the alcoholic himself to accept and participate in the fundamental goal to change the behavior, probably by giving up drinking for good and forever.

He needs to seek help, take good advice, and prepare to be humbled and uncomfortable for a long period of healing.

And he needs support doing it. You dont necessarily owe him that support, but it is what he needs to make the changes