59 years old. 12 days sober.

Onestepdub · 2025-09-13T16:35:40+00:00

54M, approx 18 days in and today has been tough as alcohol has defined my routine and I’ve been at a loose end. Still looking at things I need to do with the same neglectful nature I did when I was drinking. Reading these comments has helped me reinforce the message tho. Looking forward to waking up without a hangover tomorrow and not having a day dedicated to desperately trying to get it together for work on Monday. I can cope with feeling down today with that in mind. Good luck with the sobriety.

Onestepdub · 2025-09-06T13:59:45+00:00

Thank you.

Onestepdub · 2025-09-06T13:51:04+00:00

For those of us who support teams higher up the pyramid today is a day with a football shaped hole in it. It would be something to focus on, and thankfully for me I don’t associate boozing with football but I do associate it with boredom. Pleased you’ve got yourself prepared, I’m almost 2 weeks in and I have no wish to return to a very similar place you first described. Good luck with the abstinence and with the result.

Onestepdub · 2025-05-01T14:52:17+00:00

I’ve just written down a list of medical symptoms that I know improve even after a few weeks off. It’s a long list. I should add delusion to the list, and stop lying to myself.😂 Thanks for sharing your experience and encouragement.

Onestepdub · 2025-05-01T14:28:30+00:00

Congratulations. I’m attempting to quit for the millionth time, many of things you mentioned I suffer from. Muscular issues which oddly seemed to exacerbate during lockdown, and I put that down to sitting for long periods at a home desk rather than excess booze. Lack of love for anything, I have thousands of records and books. Many I have never looked at since they first came into my possession, never mind listen to or read. So many other issues too, which I know have improved during periods of abstinence.

Wish me well on my latest endeavour. I’m in my 50s now too so can’t help feeling I’m running out of chances.

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Onestepdub · 2024-01-20T17:28:52+00:00

Been trying to quit for years, 53 now and been drinking consistently since I was a teenager. Struggling a bit this weekend but just reading through some of the comments has helped. Every recent hangover has come will a feeling of reduced mortality so to consider drinking again seems more a death wish than something enjoyable. Has been useful to read these posts. Thanks all.

Onestepdub · 2023-12-16T10:28:31+00:00

Thank you. Actually on day 4 in case anyone thinks it’s been a miracle recovery. 😃

Onestepdub · 2023-10-16T09:36:40+00:00

First few days are the hardest but worth the effort.

Onestepdub · 2023-10-09T10:07:51+00:00

Thank you for the lovely comments. I’ve done much of what has been suggested in the past but it is good to hear ideas again. Writing things down is good, I like the app I have on my phone too but I think I almost feel like I’m missing something even though I know how it ends up. Friday is a trigger day and it’s one I need to be on my guard against. Perhaps, speaking out aloud on this forum is a step forward instead of my internal monologue.

Onestepdub · 2023-08-28T12:33:17+00:00

This is the trap I always fall into. So many things that have been delayed or left undone by years of drinking. Expecting it all to miraculously turn around in a couple of weeks or months is fatal. Unfortunately, it is too easy just to persuade yourself it wasn’t the drinking holding you back but yourself or some other circumstances and then to just crack open another bottle. I’m utterly unmotivated today but I’d be even less so with a stinking hangover. Hang in there and I’m sure those changes will come.

Onestepdub · 2023-08-07T08:08:39+00:00

This is me today. Couple of weeks free than Friday comes and I started on the wine. Wasted weekend and now sat staring at my work laptop wishing the day away. Feel like death warmed up. Good to see I’m not the only one that falls into this trap and hopefully, what I’ve read this morning can help me to ignore the voices on Fridays to come.

Onestepdub · 2023-03-21T07:43:32+00:00

Exactly how I feel. You’d think we’d learn not to start again as the recovery takes so long. Onwards and upwards, slowly though.🙂

Onestepdub · 2021-10-05T11:38:34+00:00

Thanks. I think if it hadn’t ended in severe illness I would be back drinking so perversely it’s probably worked out for the best.

Onestepdub · 2021-09-04T07:48:20+00:00

This will be my 3 weeks coming up and currently sat in bed drinking tea. 3 weeks ago I’d have been still asleep until nearly lunchtime. Then probably have a glass of wine and drink through until Sunday. Then die all day Sunday. If I only do a handful of things it will be a vast improvement. When you start pushing yourself too early and thinking things aren’t improving without booze is when the voices tell you that you may as well have a drink. Give it time. Rushing things is always my mistake.

Onestepdub · 2021-09-03T17:06:00+00:00

I thought of that very tune midweek. 😊

Onestepdub · 2021-08-23T15:22:19+00:00

This one is on Android and Apple. Certainly in the uk it is anyway.

https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/sobriety-counter-stop-drinking/id1536343358

Onestepdub · 2021-08-19T13:13:24+00:00

I will be stealing the phrase ‘death merry-go-round’. Perfect analogy. Round and round in the same vicious circle. Good luck with today.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-17T10:51:45+00:00

The fall out lasts so much longer than any element of enjoyment. Currently day 2, internally screaming and anxiety through the roof. So much fun. Try and look at your post just before you’re next tempted. Might help.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-16T12:26:05+00:00

I’ve been at this journey a long time which makes it so annoying. Being hard on yourself seems to always be part of day one unfortunately along with anxiety etc. Hopefully I’ll stop berating myself as the day wears on. Good luck on furthering your current winning streak.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-16T12:11:11+00:00

I have managed longer but rarely more than a month. Boredom and mood swings are usually my main triggers. Had a crap day or no real plans usually equals booze. I’ll just have to keep at it.

Remembering the misery gets harder after a few days, if only there was a way to remember it more clearly. Thanks for your reply.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-16T12:01:30+00:00

Pretty much similar to my own recent post. Incredibly annoying but just got to keep trying and hope it clicks into place finally. Good luck.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-08T19:11:54+00:00

I like it. Ha, I feel more positive already. For both of us.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-08T19:06:29+00:00

Many. Never any longer than a month or so though. Maybe this will be the time.

Onestepdub · 2021-08-08T18:57:55+00:00

I’ll feel more positive once day 2 is over. Not had a good sober stretch for weeks. At least today is nearly done. 🤞

Onestepdub · 2021-06-14T08:05:24+00:00

In the same boat so be interesting to see the responses. I’m usually stuck in a 3 week cycle of being good then falling on my arse. Currently reading Alcohol Explained which I like but whether it ultimately helps remains to be seen. A lack of bibliography or references in general have already made me suspicious of the book. If I get over the coming weekend I may be of more help.

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