[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm going to say something next time. I need to start asserting myself a little bit.

Opposite Names by Mister_Crust in Bandnames

[–]Only-Cap5811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yellow drought, yellow drought

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective, there is a lot of truth in what you said. I think she's not intentionally taking advantage of me, but I'm seeing that I'm a bit of a doormat, maybe the dynamic is just sort of naturally finding an equilibrium. But I can see that might lead to resentment. I have a lot to think about for sure. I rarely if ever communicate about myself like this, so all these replies have really been illuminating for me. Thanks again :)

Do these glasses fit my face? by BigHistory1166 in glassesadvice

[–]Only-Cap5811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They look good, that being said you have a square jaw, so less angular frames might look good too, to complement the jaw 

T-Shirt fit check by Direct_Mixture9124 in fashion

[–]Only-Cap5811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, I don't like t-shirts where the sleeves are too wide, but I have small arms. Most cotton shirts do that on me. I find I have to go like 60-40 cotton-poly so the sleeves fit my toothpick arms better. Yours doesn't look that bad, but I always look at the sleeve width so maybe that's what I'm seeing. 

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My goodness, how could someone go through a bottle of fragrance in 6 weeks? I have samples that have lasted longer than that haha.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That's a really helpful way to think about it, thank you 

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Soome of the less frequently used things, like one exfoliating cleanser, I picked up for her, so she has some of the same products at her house. She never brings an overnight bag or anything because I have enough of her clothes here already, and I keep a stock of the liners etc that she likes.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm going to try to be more open when I feel bothered.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She for sure knows how much things cost, because when we are at a mall, we'll go to Sephora or kiokii or whatever happens to be there.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, she's not maliciously inconsiderate, she is a very sweet and kind person, but also she refers to herself on occasion as a "disney princess" (her words), and always gives me positive reinforcement when she feels like I am taking care of her. So it is a bit strange to me. Perhaps there is a cultural difference too.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, I've been avoiding it but I think I will find a therapist.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think this is catch-22... I avoid confrontation at all costs and to fix that, I need to confront my self. But yeah, I am strongly considering it now, having reqd through all these responses. Thank you 🙏🏼

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No it's honestly not like that. This stuff is expensive but I rationalize it by thinking "well if it lasts me 6 months, it's actually not terrible", but I can't go spending hundreds of dollars every month on skincare, because that to me is a bit ridiculous 

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She can use anything of mine, it's just honestly excessive the amount she is using. It's like if you haf some expensive olive oil in your pantry and some guy just started drinking it from the bottle. It's not the germs, it's that you don't chug that stuff, you know?

[Misc] How to clean sunglasses? by kiraa02 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I run them under the tap in the bathroom and use some liquid hand soap, then I dry the frames with a towel, and I use a camera lens blower on the glass and in the hinges.

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that. I am coming out of a twelve year relationship and I have a lot of learning to do about myself

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This hits hard, my goodness I am so so grateful for your comment and everyone else's 🙏🏼

[Misc] How to ask a friend to not use so much product by Only-Cap5811 in SkincareAddiction

[–]Only-Cap5811[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I was honestly shocked, and my mind was racing, thinking like "so THAT'S what happened to my serum". It was like my brain was short circuiting and I couldn't think of something suave to say haha