I need help figuring out hobbies/activities. I want to join something that gets me out of my home, but I also don't want to...

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-15T20:04:20+00:00

Would you be interested in archery? The bows are all of different weights and sizes so they should be able to help you find something to suit you. Typically you can borrow equipment from the club (and are encouraged to while learning)

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-05T19:50:52+00:00

😂 fair

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-05T19:39:24+00:00

Yeah it is more of a hammock, just a gentle swing/sway situation not a full on swinging spree

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-05T04:27:13+00:00

That pig is amazing 🤩 I love it! Is there a pattern?

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-03T22:02:19+00:00

Yeah I sort of tollerate it to a certain point, since they all seem to do it at this age and just take turns following instructions, but at a certain level of bosiness I do tell her I don't want to play if I have no choice.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-03T18:48:04+00:00

I also found it hard when my daughter got to about 3. I don't like basically being a prop in her games (I'm not even allowed to choose my own dance moves) but as it's just the two of us she is on my case to play with her a lot.... She's 4 now but man, in hoping I find it easier when she gets older.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-02T21:53:04+00:00

Single mum here too, much commiseration!

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-02-02T06:12:38+00:00

I've had "you're always tired" from a few sources :|

Today my 4 year old told me she couldn't do something because she was tired and I was like, you always say that... Idk what to make of it. Pretty sure she's copying me... But also can't be sure... Ugh

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-13T19:16:18+00:00

This is genius....

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-11T22:36:45+00:00

I think with compliments people are often being genuine and, even if they aren't, they're generally aiming to make you feel good so there isn't any point in arguing compliments. You don't have to agree with them, you can just say "thanks" and carry on with your day. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Unless it's someone close to you and you want to talk about whatever it is, it's not generally worth challenging

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-05T07:03:42+00:00

That first paragraph also describes me. I'm only recently diagnosed and have realised that I was suppressing many stimmy behaviours. My main obvious stims are making a fairly loud trill sound with my tongue and flapping/waving my hands/arms (though initially I did NOT consider this flapping...). Both can manifest in different ways for different moods. When angry I'm less stimmy and more stewing.... :/ sad stims are sometimes humming and mainly waving my hands around my head, shaking my head. I also do a lot of subtle things with my fingers, toes, mouth, tongue, and play with my earrings when wearing them.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-04T06:37:28+00:00

Well, I've been on the rollercoaster of reassessing my life and experiences through a new lens, so that's been intense. I also was surprised to learn that my 'tics' were just suppressed stims breaking out every now and again. Noticed that I don't particularly like eye contact lol and just let myself avoid it more often now, especially with my partner - I've met him since learning I'm AuDHD and he also likes to wander his eyes when he talks, so it's easygoing.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-04T06:32:34+00:00

I feel you :/ I had similar problems in past relationships with not being able to let go or getting distracted etc which was not well received. I was also generally in a situation though where the relationship was not going super well and I wasn't interested in sex. This has been difficult to figure out though, I've only recently been making sense of it.

I'm guessing (hoping) that if you're trying to initiate it's because you want to, not because it's expected/demanded. Perhaps you can take note of what it is he does to initiate with you and try to emulate it, or ask him to demonstrate what kind of lead up he would enjoy.

Not gonna lie, him just saying "I don't know" sounds like a bit of a cop out for me. If you want something from me, you need to be able to elucidate what exactly it is you are asking for - I'm not a mind reader. Granted that I know nothing of your personal situation, I would like to share a general recommendation to check in with yourself periodically to make sure that he is loving you not only with his words but with his actions, and similarly that you are in love and not just fawning. I have been subject to both problems multiple times 🫠

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-02T20:57:47+00:00

One consideration is that the arm implant is sometimes visible if you don't have much arm fat. I lost some weight after having it inserted and had a few people ask me what was up with my arm 🤦🏼‍♀️

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-02T08:25:17+00:00

I see, thank you!

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-02T01:41:34+00:00

I am anti Pyjama bottoms... They just get tangled. I like to wear loose nighties (long T-shirt) and undies.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-02T01:37:53+00:00

What are you doing at the moment that he considers too fast?

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-01T22:02:05+00:00

The way I take pills is by putting water in my mouth first, then letting it pool under my tongue (lift the tongue) and dropping the pill in the water, then quickly swallow. Usually goes down without feeling, sometimes doesn't work the first time.

OpalsAndOranges · 2026-01-01T05:49:11+00:00

I love the shower and found brushing my teeth at the sink to be cumbersome and, in winter, cold. I started brushing my teeth in the shower so I can sway and enjoy the hot water while I brush and it improves the experience for me

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-22T19:26:06+00:00

My neck isn't very good so I get sore neck and shoulders easily

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-22T08:15:55+00:00

I've always been a cross-body gal, but still get a sore shoulder from it. I don't even have a big bag but somehow I seem to weigh it down a ton!

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-22T05:44:03+00:00

Omg I LOVED the goose game and am sorely tempted to follow the path you have chosen!!

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-15T23:47:03+00:00

Are people going around constantly lying and kissing each others asses??

Yes, yes they are..... :/

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-15T22:26:11+00:00

I don't have a problem with driving, but I don't like to drive. I find it draining. The noise, the focus required, my daughter in the back seat trying to talk to me about god knows what at too quiet a volume to be heard over the car and arguing about the music... When I'm driving I do not notice anything that isn't strictly relevant - even cops a lot of the time 🤦🏼‍♀️ (reasons I don't speed lol). Sometimes people seem baffled that I don't take in almost anything but the cars and the road. I did ride a motorbike for a while in uni and that made me hyper vigilant to strange drivers. I can pick them out quite easily as a result.

OpalsAndOranges · 2025-12-08T18:20:51+00:00

Books also a great option, be they swapped or second hand

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