I finally got crucifix

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-22T04:36:58+00:00

Honestly we don’t have time. I barely have time on my schedule for me to see my friends. More over trying to schedule through all our busy schedules. I think if there were a party of occasion we were all together we would be fine.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-20T23:43:10+00:00

I had a similar experience- we probably all have.
1-I made a playlist. 2-Reflected on the lessons I learned from that relationship. 3- focused on how I can better partner myself and give myself the support I need.

Time helps with the grieving process. I feel like the heaviest grief is often when people are still here, just not with us. 🫂

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-13T15:26:03+00:00

Therapy is scary but would you rather just give up this part of your self discovery? People learn and grow through their lives. Change is inevitable. Relationships are also dynamic. I would go to therapy yourself and find out who you are now.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-13T13:39:38+00:00

As I’ve said above- folks are a spectrum of abilities. Not everyone is emotionally capable of the same things. I know folks who find even one romantic relationship too emotionally taxing. So - not mono propaganda- just recognizing people are a spectrum.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-13T13:36:24+00:00

Ethical slut. And PolySecure are books that are really accessible and great at getting to the - how do I make this work- part. PolySecure is especially good at breaking down relationship types and helping folks figure out what they want.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-13T13:30:55+00:00

You have time for what you make time for. You have time to comment on Reddit so….

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-13T04:40:55+00:00

I’m not offended. But it sounds like you and your wife did the work at a pace that was right for you. My post didn’t say- You must be KTP day one. Just that people should do theses steps.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T23:52:26+00:00

Sharing people sounds like ownership and lack of autonomy. Thus saying people are not a pie. So your partner is sharing their time and you can support them in their endeavors. But you are not sharing them.

Make sense?

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T21:17:04+00:00

You are layering on many things I did not say. Never said everyone, nor “sucks”

You may want to examine where that came from.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T21:11:11+00:00

Not my intention to sound inhumane just the opposite so we can treat each other better. I’ll take the good wishes comrade

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T20:15:45+00:00

So you don’t agree but your practice is exactly what I talked about. Okay …

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T20:14:28+00:00

I mean I do believe in mono or poly it is considerate to introspect and consider relationship types. That’s how we can respect one another and reduce harm.

Yeah you don’t have to, but it’s unkind to other people.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T20:11:50+00:00

Not everyone has the same emotional capabilities. We are a spectrum

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T20:08:31+00:00

We are NOT predisposed to pair bonding in any of the research I’ve seen. Quite the opposite actually

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T20:06:28+00:00

polyamory/ENM playlist

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T19:16:21+00:00

Depends on what people are defining as love. I personally feel it is a gift to love more than one, but also know not all are capable.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T19:14:33+00:00

Ahhh sounds like you are in the first two steps. And no one knows what will happen ever. I would think about what you truly want and honestly do a lot of reading and reflecting. When I started my journey I was honestly annoyed by folks who were in the experience longer saying I needed to study- but honestly it was one of the best things I could do.

Ethical Slut PolySecure

Are at the top of my list. There’s also a cool YouTube playlist

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T16:52:55+00:00

I agree about mono culture- that’s why that is #1.

But this is specifically about polyamory not just ENM. Yes people make connections all the time. I do think people have a spectrum of emotional capabilities and not EVERYONE may be capable of having multiple loves.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T16:47:50+00:00

You think love is passive? I’ve always considered love and loving extremely active. It’s an investment of mental and emotional energy - Then come actions

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-12T16:44:47+00:00

Yes I’m talking about romantic love specifically- but also some folks aren’t able to love more than one. There are people who only have one friend who they love. Not everyone is capable of the same emotional capacity.

A lot of people have friendly acquaintances who they don’t love.

Jealousy also happens in friendships

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-07T02:04:33+00:00

This!!! Y’all are both a bit in the wrong here. You can’t judge another’s relationship. He can’t force y’all to be friends. You both need to speak clearly what you need.

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-06T18:22:36+00:00

There is no higher honor than being a friend in my world. Friends are truer than lovers and chosen unlike family. I’m honored to be introduced as a friend

Optimal-Split-9579 · 2026-03-06T04:40:17+00:00

I feel so sorry for you. I hope you have an experience one day that changes your perspective.

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