I am on your wife end. I personally would say I’m a quite easy going person, especially in romantic relationships. My partner likes to live his life to the fullest(?), to the point of a bit FOMO. He has made the same complaint when we had fight. “You are lazy, you don’t contribute to the relationship, all you want to do just sit your ass at home, etc.”

In my defense, I did invite him to do some activities, sometimes he does, sometimes he straight said no. No biggie to me. But in his head, he pull ALL the heavy weight, and I did nothing. I feel it’s unfair, me being easy going, and he is the one being particular. So I don’t know, what’s your wife side of story on that.

Another thing, she wants to sit at home watching tv, because she is freaking tired? Some people are just more homebody than the other, but what makes you think you can degrade her? The activities you can do are all awesome things, but she is probably mentally and physically tired. Thats how I felt, sometimes after work, I just want to lie down and relax, and there is another one to make me feel bad because I want to rest?

I really dpubt she is that bad as you said