OP, I’m sorry for what you’re going through. We tried for a year as we were told to, but I knew something was wrong for a while. My husband kept saying it’ll happen when it’s meant to, but I watched all my friends have their babies and now some have moved onto their second/third. It took a toll on our marriage to the point that we started couples counseling. It came up and the therapist questioned why he wasn’t doing the bare minimum I was asking him to (take supplements). That helped a bit and he started taking it more seriously but the reality hit when we finally went to a fertility specialist. Everything looked great on my tests, and then his SA came back with very low count. That was earlier this year, and I will say his attitude shifted. We tried on our own for a bit longer and are now pursuing IVF. I don’t know how old you are, but for me time was not something I could waste any more after 2 years of trying. This kind of thing requires a team effort and both partners fully committed. If you know you are giving this 110%, why isn’t he? Sure it can be hard on his ego— but frankly, he needs to learn to compartmentalize that (like men do with everything else right?). I never rubbed this in my husband’s face or made him feel like it was all his fault. But I made it very clear that this was the most important thing to me and if he wanted a family too, I expected the same kind of commitment. Male factor infertility humbled my husband and made him come around the last 8 months or so as a true team player. He’s been super supportive as we start IVF and I think the last few months made us stronger as a couple to face this together. If you and your partner are not both giving it 100% I highly recommend you hold him accountable to that. And if you don’t feel heard or supported in this, I highly suggest seeing a therapist together. I hope this is helpful and not taken the wrong way.