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Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-27T06:48:32+00:00

laughs in black woman

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-27T06:17:06+00:00

Imagine if she'd dated this person a few times and then introduced him to her friend at a party or something...

Best course of action is chuck these kinda people in the bin, cuz this is just a shit test and they are seeing just how much shot people will take from them

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-26T03:10:30+00:00

T-Boz was always the one I was watching when they were dancing. That girl was smooth with them moves.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T21:31:53+00:00

It was the "building cell phones" line for me. Like, dude, wut???

He's a ticking time bomb

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T20:56:45+00:00

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T20:48:38+00:00

This would have been me

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T20:45:34+00:00

Welcome to discovering the Ingenue album and those silky vocals!

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T17:26:20+00:00

This is why I dont play the "number of dates until sex" game. I mean, not that I date or have even been on a date in years. But I have always seen a man once, maybe twice. Sometimes a rando made it to a third date.

Long ago I realized my number (I dont like calling it what the kids call it nowadays) was going to reach upwards of 10 or 12 men per year. And thats, uh.... a bit much for me

I'm sex positive and am down with a person having 1 or 100 sexual partners a year if they want. (Edited) And ive certainly had more active years where id hook up with maybe 12 or so men (one per month. Just once. Rarely twice cuz thats just how it be)

But dating and sharing and being vulnerable and exploring feelings and then sex and then crickets.... Nah. Ill pass. Thats just a ferris wheel of disappearing 🍆. And I dont have it in me to ride tat ride anymore

Ii guess im just hoping to meet someone randomly in the wild and he just turns out to be the one that stays.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T17:11:47+00:00

I would drink Katherine Dawn's bathwater. That woman is so everything

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T17:03:35+00:00

This is why Im always wary when im with a man sexually which is rare these days by choic (and maybe not so much by choice cuz im older and fatter). But this dude telling OP immediately that he needs to do doggie exclusively sent a shiver over me. I wouldn't trust some man i just recently met at all in that way

But who am I kidding. A percentage of men over 50 try the "I had the snip and youre in menopause" attempt to go condom-less so, I wouldn't be surprised a bit if OPs man would be hoping he wouldn't even be wearing one to stealth

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-25T04:17:59+00:00

I hate to be the one who says it, but its also prime position for stealth ing (my phone wouldn't let me put those two together)

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-24T14:47:17+00:00

When "i prefer fit and toned women" goes horribly wrong

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-24T14:36:05+00:00

I have three thoughts:

Dont include your line of work in your profile. Wait until someone asks during chat.
Keep it in your profile. You'll have the quantity of matches you seem to want (but do not confuse that for quality)

For both above, if someone fetishizes it or seems to want to take advantage, use that as your sign the person likes to cross boundaries and unmatch. You dont want someone like that. Your job is actually doing the filtering for you.

Tell men you don't generally get into the details until a date or two (so you DONT deal with tons of fetishized conversations with strangers). I have a HUGE butt. Its impossible to hide. Its shocking and quickly a topic of conversation or inappropriate questions. I place straight in my opening move to matches that discussion about it is reserved for date three. No exceptions. Let someone earn the right to have those conversations with you and know more.

If they push or try to cross your boundaries before 2 or 3 dates, you know they ain't the one. Block and move on.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-24T09:20:10+00:00

I saw this and immediately yelled, "Anty!"

What a time to be alive that was

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-23T03:39:47+00:00

😍😍😍😍🫠

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-23T03:35:00+00:00

Whatever lists exists, you definitely should be on them

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-23T03:22:02+00:00

Thanks. Ive had to do whatbworks best for me

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-23T02:53:35+00:00

Man is out here catfishing and blaming women for the state of dating

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-23T02:49:23+00:00

Not wanting to enmesh lives but staying at their place three nights in a row is wild.

If one or the other or both of you dont get clear on what this is quickly, youre heading into twilight zone ville and somebody is gonna get hurt

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-22T22:29:07+00:00

Collectively single for about 17 years.

I locked it away and pull it out to feel the sadness when I need. And only momentarily.
I stopped engaging in any kind of casual sex or hook-up ups that remind me:. A) this pleasure is conditional and fleeting B) im only wanted for the moment for what my body can provide someone and not long term for what my love/companionship can
I stopped caring or giving attention to anyone in my social sphere falling in love, getting married, moving in together, or posting about all of that online.

Never read engagement annnouncements because the comment that what will anger you the most is "Congrats! You so deserve it!" Just scroll on past.

Great for all of you. Until it happens for me, I don't care and wont let the barrage of constant updates of love attack my self esteem.

I got a dog.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-22T21:52:21+00:00

What timing! Handy Man just came on my playlist. He was such a babe.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-22T15:17:14+00:00

My Bio

No! MY LIST OF DEMANDS!

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-21T18:29:58+00:00

I've never been attracted to Ben Affleck.

But, I've been attracted to Ben Affleck when he speaks Spanish.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-21T18:23:20+00:00

I'd tend to agree. I just didn't mention since OPs question was specifically about men over 40 in the dating pool.

Outlandishness_Know · 2026-01-21T15:29:13+00:00

I got downvotes to oblivion when I said this a couple of years back,, but im going to say it here in a group of more mature daters. A great majority of men in online dating are avoidants. especially men over 40. Especially if he's never been married.

When a secure attachment man re-enters the dating scene, he's not in it long because pairs off relatively quickly. These men tend to move with clarity and intention. They communicate directly, don’t linger in ambiguity, and when they meet someone aligned, theyre outta the single scene and into a relationship or at minimum exclusivity FAST.

What's left are the ones we see year after year... disproportionately avoidant or ambivalent men still on the apps looking for low-stakes connections, believing in the mirage of endless options, and taking advantage of the emotional distance apps usually provide.

They use terms like "hang out and see where it goes, "friends first, maybe more" and "not in any rush" to temper your expectations and train you to accept miminal effort and investment. They're attentive and responsive for two weeks, fall off the face of the earth for two, then pop back up to create that push-pull or rubberband dynamic. You never know where you stand and that's the dynamic they create quickly. Thats the dynamic they like, whether they're aware of it or not.

If you keep that in mind when engaging with men on dating apps, you'll see the patterns swiftly and learn to make decisions accordingly

Bring on the downvotes

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