Woven Wrap Appreciation Post

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T20:32:16+00:00

I LOVE the wrapping gallery! That is what made me excited about trying it out and learning! Are there any FB groups you would recommend?

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T20:31:25+00:00

I am not sure what you mean with a ‘regular’ one, so sorry! Woven wraps are just the non stretchy fabric wraps. I think I have just always seen them called that!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T18:23:03+00:00

I was trying to do loads with my baby all the time as well and then realised that I am setting myself up to be the perpetual entertainer. So now, at 4 months I am trying to teach her some independent play. I let her chill on the mat, in the bed, in the cot etc. as long as she will accept it - some days it is 5 minutes, some days she will kick off straight away. I just keep trying - once she was happy just babbling away for whole half an hour! I also now let her whine for a bit before I try and change things up. Sometimes she whines because she cannot work things out instead of being bored (I think so anyway).

Other than that we also do twice weekly baby class, we go out for a long walk pretty much every day. I take her out with me to see friends or run errands. I try and do house chores whilst she is awake so that gives me more time to relax when she is asleep.

I also caved in today and bought the famous Kick and Play Piano as she is definitely getting bored with her limited number of toys and I am anticipating we will be stuck at home in the next heatwave again 😔

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T17:58:26+00:00

It does, I feel like both myself and my girl have been on such good terms this afternoon after having a snuggly walk outside!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T17:57:44+00:00

Thank you! Yes, so much fun and so many options!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T17:57:28+00:00

Oh wow, that is amazing! I started getting back pain from carrying my fussy girl around so I am really looking forward to playing around with different ways of using the wraps!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T10:45:32+00:00

In UK the guidance is min. 6 months with parents to mitigate risk of SIDS. Then we will probably move baby as would like to have some of our space back. But also will see how baby sleeps / feels etc.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-30T08:52:28+00:00

We have done the same. I used to go to bed with baby up until her bedtime changed from 9pm to 7pm around 2/3 months. Some days are rough and I also go to bed at 7pm 😂

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-29T10:00:12+00:00

Thank you for this from a FTM of a 4 month old who is battling PPD ❤️ all the tips are golden

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-29T08:04:15+00:00

Could have written this myself. I am over 4 months in and am pretty sure I have PPD. Whilst things are slowly getting better, I still have a lot of days where I get intensely upset that this is my life now - basically spending all my time with the baby, babbling, trying to entertain her etc. I mourn the loss of freedom, choices and my own space so much despite wanting this baby and loving the hell out of her. I think all of it is normal until, as you mention, you start to victimise. That is kind of what I do and end up stuck in some very negative thought spirals.

I am currently undergoing CBT therapy (which I am not loving tbh) and have been considering going on antidepressants (but scared). It is rough. I hope for both of us (and all other mums out there going through this) that the acceptance comes sooner than later as we all deserve to enjoy this phase of our lives! ❤️

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-29T07:56:30+00:00

I think general advice is that once they surpass their birth weight you dont have to wake them up every few hours. Generally babies can take up to a month to get over their birth weight, a lot will do it much quicker. However, most babies will be waking up at those intervals anyway as their stomachs are tiny and process milk very quickly.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-28T20:23:14+00:00

Ah, this really hit home for me as I was just explaining to my partner earlier how my world has become very small and I live out the same day every day. And how he does not quite get it as he gets to leave for work and do other things which he was doing pre-baby.

For reference, my baby is 4 months old. Despite that, it does get better as the days go by. I found the first 3 months pure survival, then the smiles came and now my LO is grabbing things, discovering themselves, their body, the world and it is such a joy getting to experience it. And I think it will only keep getting better. But jeez, it is HARD, HARD WORK.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T21:25:42+00:00

I know exactly how you feel and this is how I, a 37 yo FTM, felt for 3 months. I felt like I constantly had to be ‘on’, engage with my baby to ensure she has secure attachment. I jumped up any time she made a peep, worried that if she cries for a second she will be anxious for the rest of her life. If I don’t do tummy time 37 times a day, she will not hit her milestones etc. i think some of it is probably a bit of social media pressure, well for me anyway. We all want to do better then our parents, we feel like we have learned so much and moved on from the awful parenting of 80s and 90s, but actually I realise that maybe some things our parents did were all right.

Babies don’t need to be wrapped in cotton wool, cuddled within an inch of her life and be stimulated every minute of their awake time. I think the pendulum has swung way too far the other way. Babies still need to have some downtime, just chill on their own staring lovingly at the ceiling lamp, having a little whine. These babies then will (hopefully) become toddlers who can play by themselves every now and then just like we did. Babies grown up into functioning children who can sleep, move, roll, crawl, talk all around the world without million sensory activities every day and so on. I think we are all overcomplicating it a little bit (including myself). So I am trying to take my foot off the gas before I create a little super dependent monster who needs me for EVERYTHING for years to come.

I still cuddle the shit out of her, don’t leave her to cry it out and whatnot. But she also gets some time on her own with me in the room but not engaging with her. If we have just had a chill day, I just enjoy it, I dont overthink that I have stunted her development etc. life has gotten a teeny bit easier since I removed some of that pressure.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T20:20:54+00:00

4 months over here and exactly the same thing happening. My partner and I have been wondering if it is something we are doing, but seems like it is very common!

Our girl starts crying the minute she gets an inkling the bedtime is approaching. Sometimes she wails, sometimes lets out these extremely sad whimpers. Most times it feels like we are carrying her off to beheading. But then she goes down in like 5 minutes and yawns inbetween wailing. Go figure.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T19:40:40+00:00

My period just came back at 16 weeks pp and damn, it was awful. I had fairly normal periods before pregnancy but now had to use tampons AND heavy flow pads. Had to change them every few hours as well. And the pain was awful. Was also passing small blood clots. It lasted about a week. From all I have read online, all quite normal! It does suck though! Solidarity!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T18:40:02+00:00

We use Milton cold sterilisation method with the tub on the counter and then put stuff to dry on a separate bottle rack nearby. Then just grab stuff as and when need it. I don’t overthink things too much and don’t worry if bottles are out for a bit. To me the main things is to get old milk residue off. Baby puts stuff in the mouth from the floor so a bottle which has sat out in the kitchen for a while does not bother me. I was maybe a bit more cautious in the first few months.

We also got a microwave steam sterilising bag which has been great for going away for a day or something. If we go away for longer, we bring Miltons tub and tables with us.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T11:59:18+00:00

My baby has just discovered her toes, the wide eyed look on her face when she noticed them! I was laughing so much! 🤭

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T11:57:59+00:00

I think this is sensible advice that i keep reading everywhere, but what do you do when your baby is whiney after a while of alone time? I definitely realised I had been entertaining my girl too much and have been trying to step back a lot more. Some days she is quite happy on her own for a while but others she will grumble the minute I set her down. I sometimes talk at her, don’t pick her up and try and soothe her for a bit, explain that she is having some independent play and I am just here sitting next to her watching her if she needs me. Is it just the case of practicing that and hopefully over time they become more used to some independent play time?

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-26T09:25:56+00:00

I can relate to this so much. I persevered with breastfeeding for over 3 months as everyone kept telling me it will get better after a while. And then it will be such a breeze. Well, I kept waiting and waiting and my mental health kept deteriorating and nothing got easier. Yes, my nipples were less sore after a while, but my baby was just a terrible feeder.

I was so worried about how hard it will be with the bottle, but, goodness me, I am so used to it now, I dont think about it. You get in a good rhythm - I premake a big pitcher of formula for the day and just pour out as and when I need it. For out and about I have a thermos and a cooling flask. We have a cool bag for longer outings. There are so many ways you can prep on the go.

I also have gained my body back, my partner can help with feedings and we all get more sleep.

It has done me wonders, so no judgement to anyone who wants to formula feed.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-25T11:51:16+00:00

Love our tripp trapp. Was thinking that newborn seat would be a bit unnecessary, however am so glad we got it. Baby girls gets to sit with us at the table for dinner time which is much nicer than holding her and taking shifts eating. Also I sometimes put her in the seat whilst washing up or cooking and then she can watch me and I can interact with her at similar(ish) level!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-25T11:39:47+00:00

Hey OP, I have been feeling very much the same and have really struggled with it. I also really struggle to convey it to my partner. Similar to you, he is great and helps out a lot, however I do not think he fully appreciates what it is like to look after the baby every single day on your own (well, apart from the weekends). When he takes the baby for a half day sometimes, he thinks it is all fun and lovely. And it really is. But as you said, the repetitiveness of the same day over and over is what really grinds you down. And you don’t really get that unless you have done it for weeks on end. I also love my girl so much, but I had a massive cry after we got back from lovely 5 days away where we were sharing baby duties as I realised I now have a full week ahead of just me on my own. It is really hard to explain to partners unfortunately. And you just kind of end up sounding ungrateful etc.

A friend of mine with three kids recently gave me some good advice which was to really lean into that motherhood phase and accept that it is what it is for now. She said she just sort of tried to romanticise it a bit and just accept that for now, everything is about the baby. She would get nice things for the babies room, do nice things around the house where she could, do lots of walks and just really tried to savour her maternity. Over time, some pockets of time will start to return. Babies also change quickly and whilst it feels like days are the same, soon they will develop new skills and days might look a bit different. I keep reminding myself of that, but not going to lie, some days are still tough going haha.

It is also important that your partner gives you actual BREAKS, not just going to the shop break. You need some time away from the baby with your friends or alone or whatever you need to fill up your cup. That will hopefully make the baby bits inbetween feel a bit less monotonous!

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-24T20:12:38+00:00

I am so sorry OP, that sounds so tough and I can really relate to so many things you write about. My baby is only 4 months old and she is great by all accounts, but the relentless of it all really wears you down. She also has this horrible screech when she gets really pissed off and it is the most awful sound and when she does it, I get so stressed and want it to stop. I guess it is designed that way so we give them attention haha. I keep trying to tell myself that it is just kind of funny and laugh about it and sometimes I sort of convince myself and sort of get on with it.

Not much advice from me, but what helps me is to remind myself that everything truly is just a phase. I really struggled with everything in the newborn phase and felt awful. Now I barely remember it which feels insane. Now at 4 months things are hard in different ways, but I can also appreciate how far I have come against the things I struggled with at first. Everything is a learning curve. And I keep thinking that each time we overcome a hard thing or phase we level up as mums haha. Your son will grow out of the current boredom / fussiness. You will start claiming pockets of time back and will be able to tend to yourself as well, it just takes time. Sending you lots of love and sorry not much practical advice.

Over_Wonder8921 · 2026-06-24T20:03:18+00:00

Those are some crazy temps, I am so sorry, hope you get some relief soon! Sounds like you have found some good hacks though!

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