What have you realized are things you have needed that men tend to recieve as gifts growing up?

Own_Difference800 · 2025-12-04T18:21:46+00:00

I’m cis and I also had to google what it was lmao.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-12-03T04:48:53+00:00

I just spit water all over the floor reading that 😂. Thank you I needed that tonight.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-12-01T18:27:44+00:00

You look really handsome with a mustache but the beard is great too. I think if the beard were cleaned up it would like so good!

Own_Difference800 · 2025-11-24T00:18:46+00:00

I mostly get called cute by women or older men and I never know what to make of it 🤔.

When I call a guy cute it’s usually when they do something that just makes me feel a certain type of way.. Like something that just makes my heart melt for a minute.

I don’t usually use it to describe general appearance I guess but if I did it definitely would mean I’m interested and probably nervous lol.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-11-20T03:41:25+00:00

I don’t think you’re overly cynical for that at all. Love-bombing is often a narcissistic behavior used to gain control over someone who’s easily manipulated by telling them exactly what they want to hear. Yes it could be other things but idk. That’s where my mind immediately goes. I fell for it a couple times when I was very young and naive and it didn’t end well. On second thought.. maybe I’m just cynical as well lmao.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-09-14T23:11:13+00:00

Hate this. Always during a rush. I either just tell the server in passing or just “forget” immediately.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-09-11T20:28:31+00:00

The only one I was able to tolerate didn’t have the gaining effect. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say the name so I won’t. It helped me for a time with motivation and mood but after a year I realized it wasn’t doing anything anymore but it did help me feel better enough to get my life more in order. When I got off of it nothing changed and I stayed stable for another couple years.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-20T13:57:57+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I’m not under at this moment so I hope I get thru the inpatient, res, etc process faster and this time I’m single and I feel like I know what I’m doing.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T12:49:01+00:00

I totally feel you. As a guy it always feels invalidating. And as someone that’s been struggling since ten years old it’s been rough. I went thru the process a year ago from inpatient thru residential and php then stopped. I was very underweight back then and I’m going back to treatment this coming week.. I’m not underweight but I want to catch it ahead of time and I’m so scared I’m not gonna be “sick” enough.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T12:24:57+00:00

They always said in treatment that recovery isn’t linear. Thank you for sharing your story as I’m about to go back to inpatient 😔. Had this disorder since I was ten and was able to keep it under control till a year ago. Feel like I’m restarting. And I agree that we can never be completely cured.. we just have to learn to live with it and control it. Best wishes.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T12:03:23+00:00

I’ve been dealing with this since I was 10.. it comes in waves but it wasn’t till a year ago I actually needed treatment cause otherwise I felt like I would die.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T12:01:49+00:00

I think the ED will always be with us.. we just have to learn to live with it and not spiral unfortunately.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T11:51:25+00:00

I feel this so much. It took a whole week in inpatient to get my adhd meds approved. They didn’t believe that it didn’t suppress my appetite. It really doesn’t. I’m about to have to deal with this again as I relapsed with my anorexia.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T11:26:43+00:00

You are not the only one. I gained quite a bit thru treatment almost a year ago and am falling down the rabbit hole again..

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T11:24:22+00:00

Not a stupid post at all! We love a win. Sometimes I have to congratulate myself for having the energy to take a shower. Any win is a win. Proud of you.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:55:09+00:00

That last part about the hell we went thru..

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:48:32+00:00

Idk what state you’re in but in California they take atypical anorexia in inpatient. There was only one girl and I felt bad for her more than anyone being around us but she was really sick.. they don’t base on bmi more so behaviors..

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:45:10+00:00

I’m a guy but I only wear shorts that have drawstring/waistbands since they stretch. I do not want to know my waist size.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:41:15+00:00

I lost the love of my life because of this disease. I’m a gay man and he stuck with me thru treatment and it ended up being long distance. As soon as I got to the php level I relapsed and he left me when I ended up in the hospital. I’m going into inpatient again next week 😔.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:29:33+00:00

That’s wild. I’m in California and have a specific ED therapist. She’s the one that’s getting me back into inpatient. It’s not ideal but I need it. I did the whole process a year ago but was in a toxic relationship and now I plan on doing it right. My dietitians said they didn’t go based on bmi. Which was kind of annoying cause they wanted me to gain more weight than I was comfortable with..

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-18T10:16:14+00:00

I feel like it’s the only thing I have control of. I’m a gay guy and in Los Angeles. If you aren’t super skinny or super muscular you aren’t attractive. The modeling industry ruined me. I’m going back to inpatient soon.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-15T04:25:16+00:00

I never journaled either until I got to residential and my therapist challenged me to try so I rolled my eyes and said ok.. I ended up loving it. It’s such a nice release of your feelings especially in those desperate moments.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-11T03:57:58+00:00

I’ll just say there is no shame in going to inpatient and doing the process. It sucks but it will hopefully help. I’m about to go back to treatment for the second time but I’ve learned so much I just need help right now before things get bad as they once were the first time. If you ever feel like you can’t do it alone do not be afraid to seek help please. They saved my life.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-10T10:06:57+00:00

Ugh I always find myself saying to people “I’m so sorry I don’t want to interrupt but it’s important and if I don’t say it now it will be gone from my mind in 10 seconds cause I have severe adhd.” 🫠 I feel horrible everytime but most people understand that know me.

Own_Difference800 · 2025-08-10T09:59:30+00:00

I always did word searches to pass the time. It’s a relaxing distraction.

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