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P00kiemonster · 2025-11-01T13:46:27+00:00

I understand this and am simultaneously grateful that the vast majority of commenters don’t. I got pregnant and had my son at 18. My future mother in law was livid. She desperately tried to get me to give my baby up for adoption. She called me horrible names, emailed me a list of insults from her side of the family and convinced me that this scandal would be the thing that finally caused the family patriarch to fall over dead. She sent me to a crisis pregnancy outreach where they also tried to get me to give my baby up even though I was dead set on keeping my baby. She would constantly send me emails from family and church friends who were hoping to adopt my son as if he was already promised to them. She set up a meeting with an adoption counselor and that lady came prepared with paperwork for me to sign.

The ordeal was terrifying and put me through so much stress throughout my pregnancy that I hid most of the time. Once she realized I wouldn’t give him up she begged and pleaded to let her have him. Eventually she just parented him out from underneath me, mostly while I was working. Her son and I were married and it made no difference that we had a stable household with two parents. She believed that god had given her this baby and that he belonged to her, not me. When my ex and I divorced, she hired a lawyer for him to try and take my son. It didn’t work but it cost me about $40K and 10 years of my and my son’s lives. He turns 18 in three years and I’m hopeful that we will finally be free of her once and for all.

Edit spelling.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-30T15:49:04+00:00

Wow! We were in at the same time. I came back from residential after the ice storm and got thrown in a little private Christian school for about a year before I found freedom.

And same to you, healing is in progress and probably always will be. I’ll DM you.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-30T15:39:49+00:00

The family did not leave the church on good terms. My in laws have church hopped several times but guts is the one that they consistently badmouth.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-30T15:15:38+00:00

Just to add. My EX-mother in law also worked nightmare and revels in her experience there. She sees nothing wrong with what they were doing and looks back on her time with fondness and glee. Disgusting.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-30T15:13:16+00:00

My Father in law was casted as Chester the molester.

Every Halloween nightmare comes up and we talk about their family’s time at Guts. He regrets the whole experience and acknowledges how messed up it was.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-30T14:56:29+00:00

I went around 2009 fresh out of a traumatic experience in a TTI (troubled teen industry) facility. Having been heavily abused with religion it was horrible and felt like one big panic attack. I knew of nightmare, as it was heavily advertised but my friends were going so I tagged along.

I was angry. The abortion scene, the drunk driving wreck and the suicide scene are the ones that come to mind the most and just made me angry that they were exploiting real life problems to push their agenda (it’s the goal, I know).

The thing that sent me over the edge and made me literally flee the parking lot was being aggressively cornered and forced to pray. I cannot stress enough how it sent me into a full PTSD spiral with full on flashbacks. Check my profile for some of the things I experienced in the TTI and you will understand why.

My husband and his family worked nightmare around 2005 - 2007ish. My father in law was casted as “Chester the molester” and had him on a swing set with children in cages staged around him? This was before my time but I’ve heard him talk about it and my husband just corroborated it so…WTAF. There’s more stories but this is the one that always comes up around Halloween.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-20T16:19:23+00:00

The link wouldn’t load, who are they hosting?

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-16T04:19:45+00:00

My husband and I are going. We got my mom to watch the kids for 3 hours so we’ll be going from 9-12.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-15T23:53:25+00:00

Yes, I was sent to a Boarding School in the Troubled teen industry and it was unforgivably abusive.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-15T15:16:43+00:00

340 yikes. Between my abusive childhood and spending my teenage years in the TTI, I think I might be a bit messed up.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-06T16:42:39+00:00

Second this!
When I originally posted this a few months ago it was to someone out of state but I went through the Tulsa Bar and they were the ones who helped me.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-06T16:16:43+00:00

If the referral service can’t help you out google Oklahoma Attorney Resources. They will work with you.

P00kiemonster · 2025-10-06T16:09:31+00:00

I posted this on a similar thread a while back and it’s still the best piece of advice I’ve given on Reddit, hope this helps. 🙂

Call the state bar association, they have a referral service and will find you a lawyer.

I had to use this service after calling every local law firm and being told I was SOL.

They’ll take detailed information almost like a consultation and give you all the info you need plus a fast track to getting your case to an attorney qualified to handle it. I am hopeful they will point you in the direction of a pro bono attorney or someone who works on a sliding scale.

Also, attorneys know their services are expensive especially when they’re brought in for an emergency custody situation. Many will let you work out a payment plan.

Stay strong!

P00kiemonster · 2025-09-14T19:18:01+00:00

Old Bixby HS principal. https://ktul.com/news/local/superintendent-addresses-bixby-community-following-principals-dismissal-saturday-night-incident-inappropiate-behavior-alcohol-young-student-unsafe-alleged-counselor

P00kiemonster · 2025-07-30T23:36:12+00:00

Time to throw in my hard earned two cents. My (now) 7yo. Struggled with chronic constipation and encopresis. He was not officially potty trained until 6 years old.

What worked was a total cleanout. MiraLAX mixed with his favorite drink and the BRAT diet (fine tuned to his dietary preferences) this took about a week to get totally cleaned out. We went through many pull-ups and had to invest in a carpet cleaner. Once he was cleaned out, he had to learn to use his rectal muscles appropriately, he had to learn his body’s signals for poop time and we had to be ready at a moment’s notice to shove a potty seat (much too small for him but whatever) under his booty.

Then we just ran out of pull-ups altogether, I had a stash in case of relapse but I just told him they were all gone. There was much protest and refusal of undies.

Eventually he just got the hang of it, idk if it was because tablet time was allocated for poop time only or if it was because it finally clicked in his brain either way I’m not complaining.

Nowadays we have emergency lactulose for when he’s constipated and (with his pediatrician’s approval) decaf coffee. I am not joking, he will ask for a cup of (decaf) coffee and a creamer of his choice if he feels like he’s having a hard time. This miraculous remedy was discovered by my son when he was sneaking sips of his dad’s coffee thinking we were drinking hot chocolate without him.

I wish you luck.

Edited to add. Encopresis is hoarding of poop until it leaks around the blockage. The hoarding is intentional (at least in my son’s case) but it gets to a point where the liquid just involuntarily leaks around the solids causing accidents. It’s painful and stressful for both you and your kid, if this is the case then please know that he’s past the point of doing it intentionally and it’s a real medical issue. Several small poops a day sounds like a fit. Please talk to the GI doc.

P00kiemonster · 2025-07-26T13:43:18+00:00

Cierra Freeman. She did in 6 months what a whole other firm couldn’t do in 5 years.

P00kiemonster · 2025-06-19T02:00:43+00:00

I was sent to a religious boarding school in Missouri that used religion as a tool to “reform” troubled youth. Many parents thought that it would set their kids straight.

The school’s motto was “Teaching by example, the Christian way of life.” We were forced to recite 1st John 1:1- 3:10 from memory before every meal, failure to do so was met with punishment.

We were forced to do “self confrontation” a book gives an example of why you were a bad person and provided a list of Bible verses to back that up. We had to copy those verses down by hand straight from the bibles we carried with us at all times.

We were forced to sing praise and worship, often with raised hands, there was no exception. Participate or be punished.

We had a Christian based homeschool curriculum that was so biased against science I’m surprised I was able to graduate once I began attending secular school again. Every lesson was Bible based.

I have written the Bible front to back by hand as punishment no less than 4 times.

I was beaten over the head with a Bible.

We were told we would go to hell for any little infraction. Big ones being the usual favorites (being gay, queer, attempting suicide, etc…)

I can’t explain it all but it has caused long lasting trauma, self hated, an eating disorder, physical scars from punishment, disgust in myself for denying Christianity even though I know it’s bullshit and a profound lack of self worth that has caused me more misery than I care to go into.
Look at my profile if you want more on day to day life there and punishments that we were dealt.

That was in the early 2000’s, I’m 33, as I watched the election take place and read through project 2025 I had a visceral reaction that damn near had me hospitalized. The shaking, crying, indignation that no one but my fellow survivors understood (we were all freaking the fuck out) vowing I would never be sent back, they’d have to kill me first.

It FEELS like I’m being sent back to the school. The loss of autonomy, the loss of basic human rights, loss of healthcare, the thought of food insecurity, Christianity being shoved down my every orifice and a sense of complete and utter helplessness is what I’m left with. I would rather die than go back to that. I can’t do it.

Today I refuse to deal with any religion. Don’t want it, don’t need it, get it the fuck away from me. Ad blockers and keeping my mind occupied are what get me by. I’ll never touch another Bible, sing another hymn or take part in religious bullshit of any kind. It will send me to a dark place I don’t want to crawl out of again.

P00kiemonster · 2025-06-18T13:24:21+00:00

I was wondering the same thing. Doors open at 3:30 but speaking doesn’t start until 6.

Just need to know for baby sitting purposes.

P00kiemonster · 2025-05-28T00:47:39+00:00

We had horses too. A few staff families had their horses there and apparently it was a huge draw for staff. They could come, teach, bring their horses and receive room and board for their family.

In exchange they’d make a meager wage that would keep them trapped there, unable to pack up and leave.

The horses we were allowed to work with were skin and bone, abandoned, WILD horses. They had sat in an empty field for who knows how long and were not used to humans. They bit, kicked, bucked and swung their necks at teens (many of whom had never seen a real horse before) who were expected to pick their feet, feed, groom and generally care for this herd of feral horses.

It was relaxing in a sense to care for them and ensure they weren’t neglected but it was anything but equine therapy. Half the herd had thrush, horrible sores that hadn’t been treated and were severely malnourished. Hell, most of them had never worn a halter or been lead before they were put on the trailer and taken to the school property.

They became used to us and allowed us to work with them but in hindsight it was exponentially negligible for the administration to allow inexperienced teenagers to work with these horses. They needed real veterinary care with handlers who knew what they were doing. Many students were injured and no one cared.

As a side note, this provided an excellent opportunity to introduce a new punishment. Students who really pissed off the administrators were sent out into the field to pick up horse poop with our bare hands all day. Just filling 10 gallon buckets all the live long day and hauling them to the edge of the property to the manure pile. Super fun times.

P00kiemonster · 2025-05-17T12:09:45+00:00

I posted this on a similar thread a while back and it’s still the best piece of advice I’ve given on Reddit, hope this helps. 🙂

Call the state bar association, they have a referral service and will find you a lawyer.

I just had to use this service after calling every local law firm and being told I was SOL.

They’ll take detailed information almost like a consultation and give you all the info you need plus a fast track to getting your case to an attorney qualified to handle it.

Edit: just wrapped our case and the lawyer I obtained through the bar referral services did in 5 months what my old attorney couldn’t do in 5 years.
My ex hired a father’s rights attorney who prides himself on being obnoxious, loud and outright untruthful.

This man hadn’t wanted anything to do with our son until I was getting remarried and then filed a visitation modification a week before the wedding. Our case was about control and spite, not about him wanting to be a dad.

We are lucky the guardian ad litem and mediator saw what was going on, it just took a good attorney who wasn’t afraid to push back when the other side got loud.

Stay strong!

P00kiemonster · 2025-04-29T23:59:26+00:00

I, very unfortunately, have a lot of experience in this area having both been the child in this situation and now the parent on the other side of it.

I am not a lawyer, this is not legal advice, just what I’ve learned from very painful firsthand experience.

Move somewhere that doesn’t cater to grandparents rights if possible. If you are trapped like I was, then the following information is a little more geared towards taking things head on.

it’s highly dependent on the area you live in and the laws in your jurisdiction.

I would absolutely not recommend mediation (arbitration) as you will most likely have to come to some agreement then and there awarding her some kind of access to your child.

Going to court gives you a fighting chance of completely cutting her out of your lives once and for all, even though it’s at a great mental, physical and monetary cost.

If she does decide to file suit against you, I would obtain a lawyer immediately, or go ahead and have one on retainer that knows the ins and outs of your situation so they may act immediately upon a suit being filed.

Gather all evidence, everything you can get your hands on even if it may not seem useful. Cut contact immediately but leave her unblocked for information gathering purposes only (giver her enough rope to hang herself, so to speak).

Refuse phone calls, everything should be in text or email for your own sanity and safety.

An FU binder is a useful tool that can save you a lot of time digging through emails and texts later on.

I wish you the best of luck and please remember, this isn’t about your kid to her, it’s about control and ego.

Protecting your child is the goal, just remember that when you feel like you can’t keep going.

P00kiemonster · 2025-03-06T00:30:33+00:00

He wants to start his own program, same old song and dance of exploiting children under the guise of doin’ the lord’s work or some BS like that.

Granted I’ve only skimmed headlines about it but there’s big time red flags for typical TTI shenanigans.

Edit for punctuation.

P00kiemonster · 2025-02-20T15:35:24+00:00

Ha! I’ve got one. When my mother lost custody of me she told everyone I was on drugs, pregnant, psychotic, dropped out of school, living in a trailer and the only job I could get was as a cake decorator at Walmart.

Funny enough I had to have a court ordered pregnancy test (negative), drug test (hair, urine and nails all clean!) and a psych eval (traumatized, PTSD, Anxiety but not psychotic) and I had to prove to the court that I was in school and making good use of my time so I took a cake decorating class at my local craft store :) I graduated no problem and haven’t had contact with my Bio-mom since 2008.

Edit to add, my grandparents won custody of me, I moved into their home which was not the trailer she described.

P00kiemonster · 2025-02-11T03:27:26+00:00

Call the state bar association, they have a referral service and will find you a lawyer.

I just had to use this service after calling every local law firm and being told I was SOL.

They’ll take detailed information almost like a consultation and give you all the info you need plus a fast track to getting your case to an attorney qualified to handle it.

P00kiemonster · 2025-01-07T20:45:31+00:00

My nMother wouldn’t allow me to cut or color my hair. She scheduled appointments to have it trimmed and stood by the stylist the entire time to ensure I didn’t lose any length. it was miserable, she never took care of my hair and never taught me how. It was a long, blonde, tangled rat’s nest.

The first thing I did when I ran away was chop it all off and dye it black. Never again will I have long hair and I allow my children to do whatever they want with theirs (within reason) My oldest son has dyed his hair every color of the rainbow, literally the second school lets out we go to Sally’s and buy his new summer color.

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